Ok would it be desperate to text the man I sat next to on the plane?

[KeiraBlackDove]

Ok, name changed for this as I'm a 48 year old woman behaving like a teenager 🙈.

I sat next to an extremely handsome 6 foot 5 Canadian man on flight to Toronto a couple of weeks ago. He saw me my pen didn't work so let me borrow his and we got chatting.

Turns out he is a consultant Dr in the UK and was returning home to visit his elderly parents. We chatted so easily for hours and he told me he had helped organise a tour of Toronto and local areas for a dr he worked with so knew lots of nice places to visit. He showed me the itinerary he made for them on his phone and gave me his number in case I had any questions about the city whilst there. He didn't ask for my number.

He is a real dr as I've checked him out on LinkedIn 🙈 and Facebook, hopefully anonymously.

I messaged him when I returned to London to thank him for his hints and tips. He replied immediately and said he had hoped to see me in Toronto!

After a few texts back and forward he asked me to meet him for drink when one day when I returned from France - I was there with work - and he sent me a 'xx'.
A week passed and he didnt message! So I messaged him to follow on some chat we had. He immediately sent me a voicenote, said I was great to hear from me and tnat he had a couple of long shifts coming up but he would call me. He texted over the next l couple of days later to ask how I was doing and tnat he was on his shift but would be off this week and he would call me to meet.

5 days have passed and no message from him again! Should I just delete his no now? I know he was off this week and had no plans for NY so it would have been nice to have met.

Don’t overthink just message!!!!

No.

I'm another older and wiser, got the t-shirt, etc. It really pains me to read all the comments urging OP to chase a man who clearly isn't interested. Raise your bar ladies!

Do you write for Mills and Boon @Lavenderfarmcottage ?

Is just text him @KeiraBlackDove and say you’re looking forward to taking him up on that drink and that you’re free on whatever day. Don’t make it look like you’re waiting around for him and I certainly wouldn’t change any plans to accommodate him but I’d definitely try and arrange a meet up for sure. Don’t overthink and over invest. How exciting!

Absolutely this.

Besides which he’s been working over Christmas. Give him time.

If he was interested he would have contacted you already. Doesn’t matter if it’s Christmas or new year. If you’re questioning whether to contact him - don’t bother.

😂

Yeah this. ^ Some breathtakingly naïve posts on here! 😬

Men are so simple ladies! If they like you they’ll contact you and ask you out! That’s it!!

Yup, including this corker

dont think too much

yeah, right....that's really gonna help

I'm another one who wouldn't bother. He's all words but no actions. You've been the one to do all the chasing from the start. He's not interested in chasing you.

I think you may as well message him. If it was someone you worked with or already knew I would say don’t bother as he doesn’t seem interested but as he is someone new, he’s been working and it’s Christmas, why not?!

You need to...

M. E. S. S. A. G. E. H. I. M.

@DowntonNabby thanks for that (not). I’m not suggesting she pursue him in desperate fashion, just saying there’s no harm in messaging. Maybe you’re right, or maybe I am, or maybe neither of us is. I’d never have a dig at someone else’s comment on another person’s thread though.

I wasn't having a dig, I was disagreeing with you. It's allowed.

DO NOT MESSAGE HIM!!!!

He has your number but hasn’t called and hasn’t text for 5 days to follow up.
Does this sounds like someone who is looking to develop this further?
Please don’t waste anymore time on this.

I get it, it sounds like you got swept up in the hallmark romance of meeting a tall stranger on a Xmas flight, who also happens to be unattached and a Doctor.

If it sounds to good to be true….

Stop overthinking it.
Message tonight and if he doesn't reply then move on, nothing to loose.

Don't wait for NY, start now and see if you can convince him to come to London for NY travels.

Actually it doesn't sound too dissimilar to the Netflix ‘love at first sight’ film….:..

Come on OP, youre far too old for this nonsense

@KilkennyCats the OP posted asking for opinions … she is free to ignore mine, as are you. Not sure why you’re having a go at me.

My honest thought would be that an extremely handsome, 6’5 doctor has tons of options at work and outside. If he is not in a relationship then he will not be short of attention everywhere he goes.

You may be misunderstanding his friendliness and I hate to ask as I only read the op but you have not described yourself, attractiveness and age-wise etc

Just message him something benign. Tell him you’re at Tescos and unsure of the best Maple syrup to buy and that you immediately thought of him, only he can help you.

Please do not do something as insane as this OP

All I would say is that tall, handsome, gynaecologists know they are 'all that' and then some.

He gave you his number, because he knew you would call him. That's how his world works. They always call.

That's why he didn't bother asking for yours.
Even though he might have never seen you again when you got off that plane.

It will always be you that has to make the running.
And if you don't like it, well, there's always another one calling him.