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Urgent help and advice needed - being harassed by neighbours

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MimPimMim · 27/12/2024 22:10

Hoping to get some practical advice on what to do next and the type of solicitor I might need, if anyone can help?

In short, we (my husband and I) have been subjected to a campaign of harassment by our adjoining neighbours (live in a semi). I can’t go into too much detail as it will be outing but essentially there was a civil issue at the beginning of the year (a fault on their side, which they were adamant was caused by a fault on our side and they wanted us to pay for. Chattered surveyor - paid for by us - and environmental health proved this was not the case) that they got very nasty over. Their behaviour has escalated more and more, including multiple malicious reports to social services. Police have been each time and concluded that there is no issue.

On police advice, we have been ignoring them. I’m frightened of them, my two young children are frightened of them (thumping and shouting at the kids through the walls). We have taken police advice on safety measures, including a personal alarm and CCTV.

Neighbours not happy that they aren’t getting a reaction from us and their behaviour is continuing to escalate. They know that we have reported them to the police for harassment and have increasingly made up lies to say we say we are harassing them. Police were initially supportive but now say that it is a ‘he said, she said’ situation and they can’t do anything unless it turns physical.

Neighbours not happy with my children’s (who are 5 and 3) perfectly normal noise. 3 year old had a tantrum today and they recorded it - then reported me to the police for child abuse. We know this because they then sent a message to my husband telling them the children scream all the time when he is out and the police have assured them they will investigate for abuse from me to the children. They have also said they are engaging a solicitor because we are harassing them.

We are at a loss about what to do now but think it may be time to get a solicitor involved. Does anyone have any advice? Or know what sort of solicitor would deal with this or what we should ask them to do? Thank you - the whole situation is incredibly stressful. Tempted to speak to the estate agent and see whether it’s worth putting the house (even though we love it and thought this would be the house our children would grow up in) on the market, but doubt it’s even sellable thanks to the disputes we’d have to declare. I’m just so worried and sad.

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Fluff111 · 30/12/2024 16:16

MimPimMim · 29/12/2024 13:15

Purple - about 10 or so months but really stepped up in the last six. They made their repair in August and that was last contact we had with them, have been ignoring them ever since. It’s escalated ever since then but seems to have gotten even worse over the last month or so.

Had 20 years of harassment. Fortunately she’s now in long term care and the house has been empty for almost 3 years! Heaven! Bliss! Police were pretty useless. Tried on several occasions to tell her to leave me alone! But their response back to me was “she’s a very difficult “lady” to speak. I know because I heard her screaming at you and throw you out of her house! Solicitors letter seemed to calm her down for a while.

purpleme12 · 30/12/2024 16:19

Wow 20 years!!!

Cherrysoup · 30/12/2024 16:25

MimPimMim · 27/12/2024 22:42

I’m not sure - we’d have to declare that we’ve reported the neighbours and I don’t think anyone would want to buy it with this going on. Plus, I’m not sure we can afford it. Think we are going to have to speak to some local estate agents and see where we stand though as I can’t go on like this. Just so sad to be bullied out of our house - we love the house, so do our children, it’s perfect for school and nursery, we’ve made good friends on the road. But I can’t live like this.

Do it, your friends will visit you. We had appalling behaviour from the druggy neighbours and sold the flat quite easily, having given absolutely every detail of the behaviour to the estate agent.

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NowandZen · Today 13:26

Hello.
I feel your pain.
I have a similar situation here ongoing for five years.
police seem to be on their side yet it’s us receiving the continued abuse.
We have had police raids, visits, hostilities, and despite camera evidence against them and assault from them all has been dismissed.
I personally am looking into an injunction but will have to pursue myself as I cannot afford solicitors fees of £325 an hour plus vat.
These neighbours are neurotic, manipulative narcissist for want of a better word.
All others that dismiss their actions are no more than their flying monkeys… police included.
It’s a horrendous situation.
We can only hope the judge that listens to the facts isn’t a part of their ‘circle of friends’ as well… god forbid.
The answer?
Many lessons are coming at you. How you respond is all important.
Silence often allows truth to reveal itself.
You are learning about police corruption and failures.
You are learning about how sociopathic narcissists operate.
These people have no peace of mind and they are doing all they can to make sure you don’t either…they steal joy and peace from wherever they can to feed their diseased minds.
Stay strong.
We are currently living in a way that we have to film ourselves doing nothing wrong for our protection…unreal isn’t it!
Our police denied blink camera footage of assault on us by aaying I could have hit her in the retrigger time (From fifteen feet away whilst she’s soaking me with a hosepipe out of her widow?!)
Blink camera and ring camera footage is largely dismissed sadly.
We are considering 24 hour reolink cameras now.
Or moving and losing the thousands we have spent here… that’s the last option and not one I’m currently entertaining.
With such neighbours you must protect yourself in every way… they are dangerous in psychological ways.
Sending lots of strength and clarity your way 🙏

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NowandZen · 16/05/2025 17:35

You were so fortunate that this worked.
I sent a formal letter to mine and then had a solicitor send them a cease and desist letter, my neighbours completely ignored it and carried on as usual like I’m crazy. Even the police ignored it and sneered saying ‘it’s not legal’ as if I’d made everything up!
they try to make it seem like we are the crazy ones…
narcisistic neuroticism and their flying monkeys. Some are beyond any reasoning and believe they are above the law (friends in ‘high’ places) I’m dealing with an ex colonel don’t you know (he has that on all his solicitors letters) and his younger partner, they have a lot of secrets and they deflect as much as they can to keep the light away from them. Very dark souls… 😒

DaisyInMay · 03/07/2025 22:15

MimPimMim · 28/12/2024 07:22

Bumping in case anyone has any advice please? Have hardly slept with the stress and don’t know what to do next. Thanks to anyone who can help.

Hello!!

I know this is such a late reply and I really hope you got it sorted! I’ve been going through something very similar, for about 5 years with my neighbours. I’ve had damaged cars, fences, Christmas decorations stolen, constant harassment online and in person, there have been overdoses, knife attacks, hammer attacks, drug dealing, fires…. The list goes on!!! 😂 police have finally agreed with my many years of ring doorbell footage that it’s targeted toward be and my 4 very young children, who have been terrorised by them!! Police weren’t interested at all until I started pushing for harassment and proving it was definitely against me and not just happening in the neighbourhood. I’ve really had to fight every corner as it seems the bad neighbours are being protected every time!

so you’re not alone!! I thought I was the only person going through hell ❤️

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