Don't ask your spouse questions you don't want the answer to.

[anissa834]

Recently me and one of my brothers was chatting while playing grand theft auto online together and at some point, he talked about his wife that asked him if he is happy being married to her and he gave an honest answer.

He said he is happy in general wether he is married or not. He is happy with or without her and that is true.

Before getting married, he is been in several relationships and he always told me that he never cried over any girls and was always indifferent whenever his relationships would end and he always moved on very quickly and continue living his life as if nothing happened.

When he told his wife that, he didn't give me much details but he said she was basically offended.

Never ask certain questions to your spouse if you don't want the answer.

I mean asking 'do you like this meal?' when you will be offended by the answer is completely different to
'are you happy to be married to me?'
to hear 'im happy with or without you' would be horrible for anyone to hear. it would make them feel insignificant.

There's a difference between not wanting an honest answer and not liking the answer given. I can't imagine anyone would be happy hearing his response and I suspect she asked the question for a good reason.

Brother sounds delightful.

So your brother is an emotionally stunted dickhead and you're a smug enabler. Okay thanks for that.

Hopefully his wife leaves him 🤞

Ouch! What a thing to say to her!

Wow. Glad I'm not married to your brother!

Or the OP, who thinks the issue is the wife asking.

I think he should be expecting a letter from a solicitor soon.

Someone who is emotionally independent is happy wether they are single or not.

Why ?

Someone who is independent is happy with or without a spouse.

Blimey - you are just as bad as he is.

I think that's perfectly normal. I know I was happy before I met my partner and I would be happy again if we split up, but everyday we choose to be together. One day we might choose something different.

Can you really not see that his wife would be offended at him saying he would be just as happy to not have her in his life? Just doesn't give a fuck either way!

"Before getting married, he is been in several relationships and he always told me that he never cried over any girls and was always indifferent whenever his relationships would end and he always moved on very quickly and continue living his life as if nothing happened."

As if nothing happened? So he would feel the same about his wife too?
Just move on as if nothing happened?

Why is he with her? Or in any relationship if he's indifferent to them?

I wonder how you'd feel if your spouse said the same to you.

Not the kindest thing to say.

Yup exactly. Relationships and marriages are not met to last forever anyways. Nothing good last forever. And your spouse won't have your back in tough times anyways.

Only family have each other's backs for real.

I wouldn't care. I am independent. I don't need my spouse. I am with them because I want to.

That was a very unkind and hurtful thing to say to his wife. However, not to worry, if she decides she deserves better than someone who is so indifferent to her, it won't matter to him.

He is very independent and doesn't rely on anybody. He doesn't need other hands to feed him.

Agree with this. Well done your brother for not making his world revolve around one other human...

His reply is indicative of someone lacking in empathy.

Also, I suspect his reply intended to cause conflict as the question evidently was not about his happiness in general but his happiness IN the marriage.

My husband is my family, and he has my back far more than my mum does.

I am no contact with my family and would trust my spouse to have my back no matter what so I don't agree with this statement

So why marry?