Do you turn your phone off or put it on silent when you go to sleep?

[Izzabellasasperella]

I assumed everyone does this when going to sleep.
I suffer from occasional insomnia so I replied to a text from a friend thinking they would see it in the morning or whenever.
I received a very shitty reply telling me off for texting so late.
It has upset me me due to the tone of the text.
This person has no kids or older parents where maybe they need to be contactable at anytime.
Obviously I will text tomorrow (at a reasonable time) and apologise.
I am curious though to know if anyone goes to sleep with their phone on?
I wouldn't sleep at all if mine was on and next to me due to the pointless notifications from WhatsApp/ Facebook etc 😀

Yes, always on silent at night. If it's any consolation, I also recall being told off once by a friend for sending a message in the early hours.

I put mine on Do not disturb. That way I dont hear notifications etc but have it set so my 'important people' can still get through

I wouldn't message anyone during the night incase I disturbed them. If I remember something late I'll send a schedule a text to be sent at a reasonable time. I do that quite a lot because I work shifts so I'm out of kilter with everyone else

My phone is always on silent, and I have no issues with sending emails anytime but I won't text anyone after about 8 or 9 on a night, they don't have to read it of course but I just won't do it unless it is a preplanned type thing

No, I have it on, but on a little table just outside the bedroom door. Ever since I got a super important message that was life and death, I know how important it can be to be contactable. Not receiving that message would have been the worst thing. I do ignore messages that come in during the night. If it's urgent enough, they will make it ring and I will answer. Always on in case of emergency.

I keep mine on in case my mum needs help. She lives alone and is very anxious and I promised her she can call me no matter how late and that I'd answer.

In the 5 years since my dad died she's not rung in the night once but it gives her a bit of comfort to know my phone is on and I'll answer.

My phone is always on silent.

Your "friend" does not need an apology! They can choose to not respond. They can choose to have their phone off or on silent if they know they are bothered by texts at night. Please do not apologize to this person.

Similar to a previous poster, I have my phone on do not disturb at night but have set it so that I can get calls from a couple of particular phone numbers in case of emergencies.

Someone in one of my WhatsApp groups once moaned about somebody else posting in the middle of the night but I think if it disturbed her, it was her responsibility to have sorted out her settings.

My approach is that people should be able to send texts, emails and dms whenever it suits them and equally should read and reply whenever it's convenient.

I always put mine on silent at night but never turn it off.

I also got a shitty text message from a friend for doing what you did. Imo, if you don't want notifications at 3am, put your phone on silent!

No I never bother. If I'm asleep I won't hear it and if I'm awake it doesn't bother me.

What do you need to apologise for? Assuming they the have common sense to silence their phone or leave it in another room if they don't want it to wake them up?

Silent but with certain people selected in case of an emergency. Thought everyone did that.

I have two dcs away at university so my phone is always on.
There have been times when they have phoned in the middle of the night because “they were going through a difficult time.

On DND unless one of the children is at a sleepover, scout camp etc.

My phone is always on silent unless I’m expecting a really urgent call. I hate when it rings and beeps. Truly nothing is so urgent that I need to listen to it making silly sounds. It’s always nearby so I usually see it light up if someone rings (and then I probably won’t answer anyway! 😂). Yes, both our phones on silent at night (though Dh leaves his screen on bright and it illuminates the whole bloody room if he gets a message, which annoys me a lot).

My mum has a friend though who once got really angry at her for sending a Facebook message in the middle of (her) night. They live in different time zones. It was morning for my mum so she replied to friends message. Friend got very angry because was the middle of the night for her and it woke her up. My mum was like, put your phone on silent then!

It’s not unusual for pro catch up on tasks, like returning a message, during the night. You have to anticipate that if you don’t want it to annoy you.

Do not disturb. I have it set from x to x time. Different timezone to family so messages can be at odd local times

I put mine on silent. So I'd have no issue receiving a message any time of day.

I also suffer from insomnia and sent a friend a message on WhatsApp about half an hour ago, but I deleted it when I saw your post, as I got worried.

Mine is always on vibrate only, so I do hear it if a message comes through at night but it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

On do not disturb from 9pm until 7am, except DH and DS and left downstairs when in bed

Same as several others - Do not Disturb but with exceptions set for husband, children and parents.

Mine is always on vibrate because my 19 year old tends to send me 50 million messages on her night shift about absolute nonsense but I also wear earplugs. Dh keeps his on volume as he isn't usually messaged and has elderly parents with one in hospital long term.

My texts don't make a sound notification anyway. I have no idea why, I miss so many texts during the day.

But I don't have my phone off/silent at night because my mum is in care home. Also my best friend's mum is dying of cancer so if my friend needs me I'll always hear my phone.

I don't mind if someone wakes me during the night, I dont sleep great anyway

Mine is either downstairs or on do not disturb. I have friends in different time zones who don't always check hat time is in UK.

But I know people who don't do that or who are the emergency contact for people so I tend not to text after a certain time.

Do no disturb from 11pm to 5 or 6 am. During that time only calls from my Mum, husband, daughter and son would make it ring, and notifications are silent. I was delighted when I realised a few years ago that this setting exists.

It's on do not disturb but calls from my mum can still get through if she needed me in the night.

I've just sent a text and thought shit, shouldn't have sent that at this time on a Sunday morning. I have learned to manage my phone well through necessity as have in laws abroad. I won't know if someone is texting in the middle of the night, but others don't. I want certain people to be able to get through at any time so I have it set up that way.