Do you turn your phone off or put it on silent when you go to sleep?

[Izzabellasasperella]

I assumed everyone does this when going to sleep.
I suffer from occasional insomnia so I replied to a text from a friend thinking they would see it in the morning or whenever.
I received a very shitty reply telling me off for texting so late.
It has upset me me due to the tone of the text.
This person has no kids or older parents where maybe they need to be contactable at anytime.
Obviously I will text tomorrow (at a reasonable time) and apologise.
I am curious though to know if anyone goes to sleep with their phone on?
I wouldn't sleep at all if mine was on and next to me due to the pointless notifications from WhatsApp/ Facebook etc 😀

Mine is on Do Not Disturb mode from 10pm to 7am every night so I can only get calls/texts from specific numbers - family mostly.

My phone is always on. My dad is elderly and quite poorly, so I never switch it off, or to silent.
I do, however, turn off the notifications for everything else. I don't like them during the day, never mind at night.

How do you know what number an emergency might come through on though?
A hospital wouldn't be in your list.

Never ever turn mine off.

If someone calls twice on DND, the call comes through. I expect people making an emergency call will try more than once. Also when at home (l appreciate not everybody is at home all of the time), most people still have landlines.

When we are at Scout camp, about 75% time we need to contact a parent at night, we aren't able to get hold of them, as they are either deliberately ignoring the call or its on silent/DND. (By night, I mean 10-12pm, not 3am!).

Mine is on so my sensor can warn me if I’m going to have a hypo. For that reason I always have jelly babies on my bedside table.

Surely people whose job it is to make emergency calls would know the 2 calls thing.

I have mine on vibrate constantly. I keep it on there overnight as I've friends and family in other timezones, and I'd hate to miss a call when they needed me. My best friend's mum was very sick a few years ago, and I was the first person she called to get her head straight. She's 6 hours behind me. I don't mind being woken up for that. A buzz of a text doesn't often disturb me though, just the prolonged vibrating of a call.

Still, wouldn't be too arsed. 🤷‍♀️

Mine is off overnight unless I know one of my adult DC is in crisis.

Again, on the three occasions that I was called in serious emergencies, on two occasions it was elderly neighbours that called me, and on the third it was a retired and not very tech-savvy ex friend of my mother's.

None of the three would have predicted that at some point their 'job' would be to call me in a dire emergency, nor would they know to call a second time immediately to override the system.

As a pp said, you can tell by this thread which posters have actually experienced this.

I'm not here to argue the toss, I just wouldn't want anyone to miss that call, should they ever have a loved one going through such a serious emergency, which is why I keep saying 'don't assume that having your families' numbers overriding DND is enough'

Mine goes on DND and allows important numbers to come through.
I messaged someone once at 6am who complained I woke them up and couldn’t believe people just leave their phone on loud all night !!?? (Also wished I had lie ins past 6am)

This thread has made me think.

I think my DND doesn't include phone calls - they ring through anytime. This seems the natural way to organise it to me - mute everything messagey/"asynchronous" but leave calls working for emergencies. But I'm going to check it, and clearly it's not as obvious as I thought.

I'm not really at that stage yet with family. I doubt my parents or in laws neighbours would even have our numbers.

The upshot of all this seems to be that some people leave their phones fully on, others don’t. Everybody has personal reasons for their decisions.

So, it’s best not to message people during “sleeping hours” if not urgent, unless you are sure of their phone habits, but wait until daytime.

It gets awkward for me because a lot of my work contacts are in Singapore, 8 hours ahead, but that’s my problem.

I always switch mine off just before I go to bed.

Try it, just randomly set an alarm for 10min time and see, i couldn't deal with phone on loud 247

now all my dc are back in the country it is ok but you Never know
and no one else texts in the middle of the night.
plus i have learnt to ignore/sleep through

But being involved in some sort of an accident isn't limited by age.

I completely agree with @saraclara here. When I've had 'emergency call' re my dc away at University, it was their friends that phoned me.

Well surely if my family were in a serious accident they'd need hospital treatment then the hospital would contact us. I don't see what good their neighbours phoning us would do anyway as we don't live near enough to travel over and take them to hospital.

Besides anything I don't wish to be woken up in the night by random noises on my phone. Many of my friends keep different hours and asynchronous communication works better for us.

as if the prove the point, my ds messaged me at half past midnight, i was completely unaware until i got up this morning and checked my messages!

Edited to say, Because I sleep through messages, and they are not on silent.

Turned off. I have a landline if my mum needs me.

Neither. I like to be contactable in an emergency. I have teenagers who like to stay out and elderly parents. I never message anyone after 9pm.