‘Well yes we have incredible pensions and are very wealthy but we worked hard’….aaargh

[ChefsKisser]

My parents are very wealthy- they were Doctors at the time when their pensions were amazing (my dads is triple my salary…), they retired pre 65 and have an incredible life. Holidays all the time, inherited a holiday home from the grandparents so have free trips there, basically a lovely lovely life. I don’t begrudge them this at all but it’s frustrating when they talk about it (and they bring it up not me!!) and always end with ‘but we worked so hard’. I work so hard. So so hard I have two small kids, 2 jobs. I’m a healthcare professional in the NHS and my predicted yearly pension is £17k and I’m a good banding!
Sometimes I feel they have this amazing life that I could never ever emulate now and am seen as less deserving as, if I just worked harder, somehow I’d have the old style pension, a smaller mortgage, I don’t know! Life is different now and I’ve accepted that we will never be that well off but it grates.
I don’t want it to be a boomer bashing thread as I know it’s not everyone, some of our friends are very wealthy and my parents have been incredibly generous at times eg lent us money to fix our roof. I guess I’m just completely and utterly envious of their lovely lives! Anyone want to join me 🤣

I find the 'my boomer parents are rich and out of touch with MY problems' gambit dripping with its own privilege.

My mother in her 70s has, like many people of her generation, lived in poverty most of her adult life. She has worked hard in minimum wage jobs and never earned enough to pay taxes, never mind own a home.

You had two doctor parents, a privileged background, generational affluence and a pension that you have years to pay into and you're still here moaning that it's not fair. If you haven't leveraged all those advantages into a good standard of living that's on you.

I feel your pain. My PIL are exactly like this.

All that envy for your parents...if your kids do well - will you feel the same way?

If the Op's parent said they were just lucky would the Op be happy? What the OP wants is access to her parent's bank account - envy - it'll eat you up.

Amazing 👏 and I agree.

I’d love @ChefsKisser to come back and realise her pension will be much more than she anticipates!

He is saying he envies you being young, because 'young' means you still have the opportunity of more TIME to influence your lot in life, to even work a second job, or go to university some more. Once you are older or retired, even if you want to work or make more money, or worse NEED more money, no one will hire you because you are an old person. Discrimination due to being old is very real, your opportunity to support yourself, take care of yourself decreases with age, over 55-60, and gets MUCH worse over 65. Do you understand that perspective?

If you can gain a very comfortable lifestyle working a 40-hour week - hats off to you, mostly you'll work long hours for it - but that's not to say that other people don't work equally as hard and don't achieve a comfortable lifestyle.

Depends on your definition of comfortable lifestyle