On holiday. Middle of the street. Wearing a strapless top and DH pulls my top down (no bra, he knows this)

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I was mortified and embarrassed. He was drunk (no excuse). He said no one saw.

I feel v disrespected

Thoughts

Dump him.

He sounds hideous.

Sexual assault. In public.

How old is this specimen?

We are both in our late 40s, for context

You're right to feel disrespected. You were. I wouldn't be drinking with him again

As kneeing him in the bollocks would be assault, have to settle for LTB.

That’s awful OP, I’m sorry. Do you have family and friends you can talk to?

A 40 year old sexually assaulting someone and blaming it on alcohol.

The Ick Factor is real.

I’d never look at him the same way again.

I suspect this isn't the first disrespectful shit he's pulled.

It would be the last for me. I'd genuinely consider my marriage over.

Awful. Childish prank. Equivalent to pulling down a man’s trousers and boxer shorts.

i can just imagine what this pair looks like with him staggering around the street

any children?

I’d feel like I could never trust him again and would always be on guard around him…..I’m not sure how you get over something like that?

I'm sorry to say I would have slapped him just a reflex reaction

Bloody hell. You didn't know whether or not anyone could have seen when he did it, it doesn't matter to your reaction that he reckons no one saw. It's juvenile, disrespectful and unpleasant.

Is he like this a lot? Was he remorseful when sober?

no context was needed

Self defence, I’d say…

Brits abroad.

He sounds absolutely dreadful. The excess drinking and pulling your top down and exposing your breasts in public is a dumpable offence.

If your daughters husband had done this to her, what would your advice be?

Time to let this one loose - nothing good here.

If he did that to a stranger he would be arrested why is it ok to do it to you ? He has Absolutely no respect for you at all

Shocking and so disrespectful to you!! My DH would never, ever do this because he wouldn't want to humiliate me.

An immediate violent slap would be a reasonable first response, and telling him he'd never see your body again the second.

Are you holidaying near the sea?

You could return the ‘prank’ by pushing him in. Then ‘prank’ him further by not calling for help.

When they find his body say he slipped and fell. The alcohol in his system will back it up.

If you need an alibi just say you were on MN.

I saw this happen once on a train and I remember feeling so so sorry or the girl.

But not because of the awful thing that happened with an absolute dickhead - but because of her life experiences that had led her to even consider spending even one second in such a vile persons company.

If he's an utterly different person when sober, and he never drinks again, then it might be possible to salvage something of a relationship. Maybe. Probably not though. You deserve better.

Really? You’ll be advising counselling next. Maybe a therapist could help?

OP He sounds a plonker.