On holiday. Middle of the street. Wearing a strapless top and DH pulls my top down (no bra, he knows this)

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I was mortified and embarrassed. He was drunk (no excuse). He said no one saw.

I feel v disrespected

Thoughts

It is sexual assault, despite some posters claiming otherwise. He touched you without your consent in a way that a reasonable person would deem sexual, which is the legal definition in England of sexual assault.

End your holiday and go home as soon as you can, ideally without him, and divorce him.

Oh ffs. Being in your 40s (or 50s or 60s) doesn’t turn you into a nun. Sometimes it’s fun to let loose and get pissed with your spouse on holiday.

I rarely drink more than a glass of wine at home because I’m boring, but point me in the direction of all inclusive pina coladas and I’m well up for a bit of fun!

This is beyond horrible!
I do not even know how I would feel about this one!

I hope not:(

The odds are massively in favour of it being the case, though.

@FlatWhiteExtraHot

Well said. Might have had one too many pina coladas myself

I couldn't be married to someone like this.

Plenty!

• Just start to randomly dropping in convo how his penis is small.
• Just look at his hair and kinda fix until he asks why and then say that you can see his sculp in some place
• take the same top and go out with girlfriends to have a drink.
• hooo can you find a top that send some small electric chocs 🤣🤣

but then you can also just tell him how hurt you are and hopefully your dh will mature.

Good luck 🌺

“All inclusive pina coladas” 🍍🍹

Get. Rid.

As soon as you are home. What a vile horrible thing to do to you.

Even if you had a bra on it wouldn’t make it any better.

It wouldn’t matter if you were a glamour model or sunbathe naked.
You just don’t do this to anyone.

How often do you pull his trousers down?

This is purely disrespect.
I couldn’t be with anyone who doesn’t respect me.

So disrespectful, I would never forgive him.

Typical drunk bloke behaviour. I wouldn’t be offended personally

Sorry, I don't want to be mean but please have more respect for yourself. You are worth way more. You deserve more than "typical drunk bloke behaviour."

Thanks for your concern. I am perfectly happy and don’t take things like that too seriously. There are a lot worse things going on to worry about. We all need to lighten up

In some holiday destinations he may have got you arrested for nakedness?
Serious talk OP about respect for you.

@BlueFlowers5
Let's hope they were in Benidorm then!

First something sharp to teach him a lesson he won't forget

Then I would leave him as I respect myself far more than to stay with a man like that

Christ you should always be wearing a bra in public in your late 40s.

Why’s that? I’m 45 and have perfect breasts thanks - don’t hold us all to your rules just bc yours are like spaniels ears!

OP - were you having “words”? I can imagine it’s the kind of thing some (wankerish) men would do to put you in your place if you were arguing.

I had it done to me once in a club by a random man - it’s one of the (sadly too prolific) incidents I replay in my head from when I’ve been assaulted by men and been helpless to do anything about it and fantasise about pulling out an AK-47 and saying “fancy doing that again, dickhead”?

The fact your husband did it must be a head-fuck.

If he is an otherwise good person who does stuff like this when he’s drunk then he needs to not drink. I suspect this isn’t the case though, as a good person wouldn’t just put that down to being drunk, they would be absolutely mortified and disgusted with themselves. Made me feel quite sick to read actually.

crikey. No getting drunk and absolutely unacceptable to go without a bra.

Late 40s sounds terrible.

I'd randomly pull his pants down in public and see how he likes it! 😜

The posters who are minimising, I assume your DHs know your boundaries. So does mine. And if he did this he would know it would be the end of our relationship.

OP seems to feel unhappy and disrespected, so I assume her DH knows this would not be a funny joke, rather a betrayal. So he deserves to be dumped.

He is an arsehole! Make him pay! Bastard!