On holiday. Middle of the street. Wearing a strapless top and DH pulls my top down (no bra, he knows this)

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I was mortified and embarrassed. He was drunk (no excuse). He said no one saw.

I feel v disrespected

Thoughts

How on earth were you brought up? Father? Brothers? Male friends?

Exactly this.

No, it’s the type of shit British men would do. Pretty much everywhere else in the world men wouldn’t do this as the norm. British people have a problem with alcohol - the men for how they behave and the women for how they enable that behaviour. It’s not normal or ok in most other cultures.

If you feel your relationship is worth saving, much grovelling and apologies need to take place...

That's assault. It's neither funny or clever. Major Red flag. Leave

If ANYone else did that to you, OP, everyone would be calling it sexual assault. Which it was.

I'm sorry he did that to you.

Quite.

What a disgusting specimen

I really wish that when male posters comment on a thread, it would appear in a different colour.

Thanks a lot.

You haven’t heard about Russian men?

I'm sure he is a great dad...

There’s far too many people dismissing this as “drunk male behaviour”.

It’s really not. It’s dickhead behaviour, not typical male behaviour

my DH gets ridiculously drunk and has and would never do anything like this. None of the men in our friendship circle would

I’m so sorry OP what a horrible thing to go through. His behaviour is disgusting and don’t think I could stay with someone who did this to me

Have you asked him why he hates you so much to want to humiliate you? With or without an audience because you felt mortified and embarrassed that is humiliated.

@Floys90

I would only advise you to listen to what you feel, and then act accordingly .

This doesn't happen with the men in my life. My husband, father, brother, uncles, friends or teenage son. No male I have a relationship with would do this.
It's not a teenage thing as my son would never ever do this, it's a growing up "surrounded by people who think this is fine" thing.

There are many many people, men and women who will consider this within the realms of normal. As past posters have said there's been talk of pulling down boxers, pushing into pools, kneeing in the nuts. They don't think it's a major thing and as long as they give as much as they get it's seen as ok.

Personally I don't think it's my place to tell these people how they should feel. I won't say that they need more self respect because I know what I need to do to live in my life, and presumably they do in theirs.

However if you feel that this was wrong, as I think you do otherwise you wouldn't have written this post, then that means that you aren't happy surrounded by this sort of behaviour.
Depending on how your husband is as a person will depend on how interested he is in whether you are happy or not.

Hence why I said “most” other cultures.

And OP gets to choose if This is what she wants as normal, for her dc as well.

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He doesn't love you. If he did, he would have never dared to humiliate you. Choose yourself OP

People who are saying the marriage is over are u mentally stable

I read this to my DH he said "OMG, LTB". I think that sums it up!

He is a idiot, explain how he made you feel. I hope this is an isolated incident