On holiday. Middle of the street. Wearing a strapless top and DH pulls my top down (no bra, he knows this)

[Floys90]

I was mortified and embarrassed. He was drunk (no excuse). He said no one saw.

I feel v disrespected

Thoughts

What an absolute knob end.

Hope you are ok OP.

What did you do in reaction?

Yuk. Total lack of respect.

Well yes because she's been sexually assaulted. And because you do not go from being a decent husband to doing this so she probably does need some counselling.

what an idiot. I would be so angry. My husband has a habit of coming up behind me in the pool and pulling the neck string of my bathing suit so it falls down. OUR POOL in our very private back yard. If I told him to never do that again, he would abide. He would never ever do it at the beach or at our two community pools in our community. I just laugh it off because honestly I often go in it topless anyway , very tanned, living in the Dominican republic and was sick of dark skin with bright white headlights lol. Is he normally like this? Blaming bad behavior on drink? Its not your embarrassment it is his. If anyone did see him do it, they would think badly of him and feel bad for you. Sorry the husband that you should be able to feel safe with, is such a dickhead.

This is unacceptable. But I bet its not the first time he's done something spiteful or to humiliate you.

I wouldn't want to spend a minute with someone who thought this was funny

@Floys90 think OP has gone back to the hotel and is currently packing her suitcase! hopefully, hubby is lying in a ditch!!

Sorry, but this sounds like you are blaming the girl on the train (and OP) for what these men did to them?

Would this apply to say, a stabbing? Or a rape on the train?
Her fault for having life experiences that led her to consider spending time in the company of a murderer or rapist?

Have you ever had anything like this happen to you? If you had, then you’d know that it’s not a woman’s job to predict if a man who was previously alright is going to do something vile or not.

Does he usually treat you like shit or is this the first time ?

Just no, this is not acceptable ever. There is no way for him to make this right. Doesn't the idiot realise that you could have ended up in police custody in many countries, the police wouldn't blame the man, they would blame you.
He has no respect for you so i don't see how you can live with him. He will laugh it off as a joke but you are not laughing and neither would many women. Do what is right for you.

Despicable. Unforgivable. If this doesn't make you LTB what will?

Same. Just let him try to get me done for assault.
What a pig.

How on earth did you reach that conclusion @SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice ? How strange.

A 40 year old acting like a stupid teenager is not a good look. Tell him to grow up and not get drunk when out for the evening.

Sexual assault. In public.

^^

Disgusting. No wonder the Brits have a bad reputation abroad.

You are worth so much more than that OP.

Wow. What an absolute tosser.

He did disrespect you!

I wonder what would happen if he did it to a stranger? Arrested for something or other I expect, sexual assault maybe? It doesn't make any difference that he's your husband. It's just as wrong.

As for "nobody saw", that's not the point. It doesn't make it ok if nobody saw. It's gaslighting. He doesn't get to decide what you're ok with in regards to your own body and actions. Only you get to decide that. He also doesn't know nobody saw. Anybody could have been looking out of a window at that moment even if the street was empty.

What immature, common and chavvy behaviour.
As a one off I may forgive. If he has form for this, I'd have the ICK and leave.

Wouldn't have mattered if you were wearing a bra he still shouldn't be pulling your top down.

I guess he wouldn't have done it then though.

I'd be furious.

Tell him that’s the last time he will ever see your breasts (and mean it)

but it won’t be

I suspect that the OP has been married to this thug for many years and similar behaviour has been a pattern of the years

Does he often shame and humiliate you, or only when he's pissed OP?

Why? I just meant I hope she has support given she likely needs to get out of an abusive relationship, given the OP is on here asking for opinions and so presumably needs to work through things.

What? This is such a weird thing to say- you didn’t feel sorry for her for being publicly assaulted on a train? But you did feel sorry for whatever “life experiences” led her to be with the person that did it? Have you never known a bad person in your life? They don’t all wear signs you know!