On holiday. Middle of the street. Wearing a strapless top and DH pulls my top down (no bra, he knows this)

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I was mortified and embarrassed. He was drunk (no excuse). He said no one saw.

I feel v disrespected

Thoughts

Glad to see I am not the only one reading their post as subtly victim blaming.

When people are assaulted and stay with the abuser, it quite often is because they have not had a good, secure, positive upbringing. I'm sure that is what @arethereanyleftatall means.

Come home when you can and dump the bastard.

Not important. He's a twat.

Does he have form for this kind of behaviour? How is your marriage otherwise? This is the kind of context needed before anyone can advise.

Thank you @BirthdayRainbow
I hadn't realised I needed to spell out that I am completely on the ops side.

That's disgusting. I'd be leaving him immediately.

Don’t fight violence with violence

Nobody deserves to be treated like this. I am so sorry for you 💐 You need to decide what you want to happen next but certainly needs to be discussed (with a proper grovelling apology from him; no excuses or explanation needed)

My opinion differs (although based on an assumption that he was/is apologetic?).

Sounds to me like made a drunken misjudgment and a foolish mistake. Being drunk, on holiday, out late, he probably felt for a moment like a teenager again and fancied a fool around.

But like I say, my opinion only stands if he is apologetic.

weird

He has violated you. It is even worse than a stranger doing it. This man is supposed to be there to respect and protect you.
What if a gang of men had appeared and seen you like that and assaulted you? I know that sounds extreme but you can never be careful in unfamiliar places.
And their response was - well her husband was offering her to us? (I have been reading too much about that rape case in France, but many of the men where everyday fellas, and it’s frightened me!)
I could not be around a man who humiliated me because that’s what he’s done here. It’s to make you feel unsafe and off-kilter.

I agree with this and calling it sexual
assault is OTT and disrespectful to women who have genuinely suffered that.

Lots of victim blaming on here tonight! How lovely!

where?

I'm so sorry he did that to you ❤️

There are no excuses or context that makes this OK.

But why? Why did he do it? It’s so weird!

How awful for you op.
How did he know that nobody saw ..he was pissed.
What a total disrespecting arse hole.

You could try making his life miserable? Keep bringing it up, tell him you feel humiliated, sulk. Then tell your family, his family, anyone really. And obviously refuse any further holidays with him unless fully dressed. If that doesn't work, call it a day!

So he’s very definitely old enough to know better

You should have pulled his underpants up really hard and given him a wedgie..........
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Thanks for all the replies. When he did it, I pulled my top up as quickly as he had pulled it down. I've not said anything yet. I'm deciding how I feel and what I want to happen now

Does he often totally ignore what you say?

Think carefully because you will be giving him
petmission to do something similar. The telling thing is he says “no one saw”. That’s really what he gets off on, and knowing you object.

I would bet good money your husbands pornography habits are similar with women “being surprised”

Let me guess

Been married to him for many years
Not happy marriage
He’s a drinker

Finally someone talks sense. Talk of being violated, assault blah blah so over the top and yes, snowflakey. Even advising divorce! Ffs get a grip. Yes it was an idiotic thing to do and the OP obviously didn’t find it funny. He might be a great husband and had a drunken moment of juvenile madness but a touch of perspective wouldn’t go amiss.