Annoyed at not being a lesbian

[Howdyboob]

Yea of course I'm generalising to an extent.

But honestly I'm sure we all know that women are more competent at life in 90% of areas.

Im straight and my DH is handsome and wonderful etc but good lord all of the men in my life husband family friends etc are absolutely useless without their female counterparts instructing them how to survive.

DH has had to sort his shit out in the last year because I've been on a rampage but FFS do men not understand that their value has enormously decreased since women too work?

I'm about ready to batter about 5 men I personally know.

In the last few years I've started to lose all respect for men. Since my wonderful dad died I feel like all adult men are 15yo boys.

And yes of course I'm drunk.

You may be drunk .... but you're not wrong!

In vino veritas

Stupid comments. Being drunk isn’t really an excuse. My lovely son doesn’t fit any of your lazy stereotypes.

Yes @BiggerBoat1 I agree.

In 20 years in business roles I've never come across a single man who has ever been better than a woman.

I suppose if we are going for stereotypes you would also have to put up with the higher rate of DV/DA.

So how on earth to gay male couples seem to manage, and why are their homes always immaculate 😂

As a mother of both sexes- my son is the most gentlest, caring, kind and capable young man I know- my heart breaks for him that this currently fashionable view of seeing men as totally acceptable to bash and ridicule is taking off so successfully.

However, that said, a man in my life (and his male siblings) were bought up by a woman who was completely conflict averse (I do actually suspect she has neuro divergence) and never ever gave them any kind of teaching in life or told them no or guided them in any way. She showed them fierce loyalty but absolutely little else. The results of which have rendered them pretty stunted in life and relationships. So i can share your frustrations in that respect.

But still, I do think this "man bashing" Is getting out of hand. I know the conversation gets shut down now with ridiculing anyone that dares to say "not all men are like that" (NAMALT 🙄as they call it) but... Actually, not all men are like that.

Yeah this is my husband.

My son however is under instruction!

Because they have a cleaner.

Agree, my ds's are lovely and capable, as is my DH.

People should take more care when picking their life partner

My DS is 15 and by god have I tried to instil in him that he is a very capable person who can THINK and not just be TOLD that stuff needs to be done. It just doesn't work! I could write him a list of 20 jobs and he would genuinely happily do them. But when I say to him "go and have a look at anything you think needs to be done and do it then report
Back to me before you have screen time" he just says everything looks good. But it doesn't! There's crumbs all over the side and butter where he made toast for breakfast and all sorts. But he just doesn't SEE it!

All the mums on to defend their capable "kind and caring" sons 🤣🤣

My DH is an absolute gem of a bloke, nice, hard working, will do anything for anyone but dear God, he's a fucking nightmare when it comes to basic organisation and the kids schedules.

MIL is so proud of him though for not being a "typical male" and being all hands on and modern. I'm not about to burst her bubble, every time I have commented she says "oh he's so tired with all the hours he's worked" 🤣👍

Yes you're right, in my experience the vast majority and absolutely useless, not all but I'd say the majority

Because they get a cleaner in?

🤣

YANBU though…. MN is proof enough. The news is proof enough. They don’t make them like they used to!

That'll be up to his future spouse to judge.

TBH, I think it has changed since the WW1 and WW2 generations died out. I'm old enough to remember both and I don't know, perhaps enormous expectations of how you will behave when thrown into awful situations you didn't choose escalated maturity (terrible though it was)

Noone talked this nonsense about their brains not being fully formed until they were 25 (lots were dead by then) their parents were not looking after them at all, those who got through emerged as men.

I'm not suggesting for one second this was a good thing or God forbid it happens again.

Not all men. But probably him.

Totally get the MIL thing. I think it's generational to an extent. Still grinds my gears though !

I'm debating whether to go off on a tangent or not.... I'll semi do it....

We strive so much for equality of the sexes now that we're trying to make out men and women can basically be the same.

But we are wired up differently. We can try our best to take on roles that are traditionally associated with the opposite sex, but men and women in their crudest form have roles they are good at (natural strengths and weaknesses) and some of them I think we just have to accept to an extent. Otherwise we all end up miserable, moaning about each other and being martyred with how imperfect each other are.

Because they are both men and so view each other as the same 'rank' and therefore may either be more equitable in distribution of tasks or as others have said, may pay to contract it out, especially as they may well have more disposable income, what with both being men (pay gap)

I sometimes say to my chaps “I don’t know what you’d all do if anything happened to me”. All intelligent men with good careers but fuck me…

My dh is a nice person, loves his kids , works hard, does some house, can follow instructions.

But I do everything he does backward and in high heels.

But he doesn't see it. My DD's have both met lovely men but I fear in a few years they will be in the same boat.

I just stay single. Had some "friends with benefits" for when I've wanted sex but I just couldn't cope living with a man.