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Annoyed at not being a lesbian

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Howdyboob · 06/09/2024 22:15

Yea of course I'm generalising to an extent.

But honestly I'm sure we all know that women are more competent at life in 90% of areas.

Im straight and my DH is handsome and wonderful etc but good lord all of the men in my life husband family friends etc are absolutely useless without their female counterparts instructing them how to survive.

DH has had to sort his shit out in the last year because I've been on a rampage but FFS do men not understand that their value has enormously decreased since women too work?

I'm about ready to batter about 5 men I personally know.

In the last few years I've started to lose all respect for men. Since my wonderful dad died I feel like all adult men are 15yo boys.

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BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:24

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Exactly, you don't want to answer the question because it goes against your sexist agenda. When facts are presented to you you don't want to know. Instead you have to resort to childish name calling. How pathetic.

User135644 · 07/09/2024 12:26

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Don't be abusive.

PandoraSox · 07/09/2024 12:26

BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:24

Exactly, you don't want to answer the question because it goes against your sexist agenda. When facts are presented to you you don't want to know. Instead you have to resort to childish name calling. How pathetic.

Well I just answered it.

BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:27

PandoraSox · 07/09/2024 12:20

Well, let's take Ukraine as an example. At the beginning of the war all the women were allowed to leave. Not the case for the men, why?

Not all women have left. Lots chose not to. But to answer your question: taking women and children away from a war zone has a very obvious reason. The same reason that women and children were evacuated from London during the blitz.

I think also looking at the history of the behaviour of the Russian army might make you understand why it might be wise to offer women the choice to leave.

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So, why not let the men leave with the children and make the women stay and fight?

LightSpeeds · 07/09/2024 12:28

Thinking about three very close female family members, all their male partners are pretty much totally useless around the house (and two of them not great with employment and home ownership). The women very much prop them up (and provide the housing).

While women have pulled themselves up into the world of work, many men haven't wanted to pull themselves down into the world of housework and childcare (still seeing these as lowly women's roles). That aside, there is also a lot of incompetence involved (whether genuine or strategic).

Yes, it's not all men - but a huge proportion compared to women.

StarCourt · 07/09/2024 12:29

There are men in my life I'd like to batter too. My lived experience of most men is that they are utterly crap ( except my dad he's brilliant). I've wished more than once I was lesbian, I'm just not. I will be single for the rest of life

BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:31

User135644 · 07/09/2024 12:26

Don't be abusive.

I think I might have touched a nerve! 😂

PandoraSox · 07/09/2024 12:38

BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:27

So, why not let the men leave with the children and make the women stay and fight?

Oh for god's sake. It is obvious.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 07/09/2024 12:42

@Stacey464 4 immaculate conceptions was it? Or 4 times a man impregnated you. Your logic is mind boggling, you may not need a man now but you did to become a mother, we all exist because of both men and women. I really hope for your daughters sakes that you keep some of these views to yourself otherwise if they are straight they are in for a lifetime of bad choices.

Willoo · 07/09/2024 12:48

I don’t know any man like that

Treelichen · 07/09/2024 12:54

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What an abusive message. I’m sorry you choices in men have damaged you but you don’t need to transmit your pain to everyone else.

NPET · 07/09/2024 13:03

I agree IN THEORY. I sometimes wish I didn't have a liking for d, BUT I have lesbian friends and they say that women can be every bit as bad as my "conquests". I claim they wouldn't know (!) but we have to agree to disagree!

Stacey464 · 07/09/2024 13:08

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Halloumiheaven · 07/09/2024 13:09

BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:10

If this post was as racist as much as it was sexist how long do you think it would stay up? Serious question.

I've reported it. I don't care about any sob story behind it. Advertising aborting a child based on its sex is absolutely disgusting. As is the rest of the vitriol. Shame on that poster.

BiggerBoat1 · 07/09/2024 13:13

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What are you on about? You’re the one who has been abusive.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 07/09/2024 13:17

BarryFromBradford · 07/09/2024 12:27

So, why not let the men leave with the children and make the women stay and fight?

You have spectacularly missed the point, and clearly need it spelt out for you: invading armies rape women. They do not rape men.

Treelichen · 07/09/2024 13:18

@MNHQ it’s amazing how fast messages that are deemed to be antisemitic are taken down but ones abusing men seem to stay around forever.

bazoom · 07/09/2024 13:20

outdamnedspots · 07/09/2024 10:02

You just have to look at the Relationships board on here to see that FAR TOO NANY MEN are like this.

Or the news. There have been at least six horrific cases of male violence this week. FAR TOO MANY MEN.

What does NANY mean?

outdamnedspots · 07/09/2024 13:33

Many, @bazoom. It was a typo 🤷🏼‍♀️

PandoraSox · 07/09/2024 13:35

Treelichen · 07/09/2024 13:18

@MNHQ it’s amazing how fast messages that are deemed to be antisemitic are taken down but ones abusing men seem to stay around forever.

I don't think @MNHQ alerts them. You need to report a post or email them.

CherryBlo · 07/09/2024 13:37

Why is most of this thread about whether or not men are useless, and not about the absurdity of wishing to be a lesbian?
Why would it be easier to be part of a group who only gained equal marriage rights 11 years ago? Half of you have probably been married to your DHs for longer than that, however useless or otherwise they may be!
Or is it that holding hands in public isn't exciting enough, and you want the added frisson of having "lezzer" yelled at you by random teenagers? (and yes this still happens in 2024).
I mean, women are great and so is being lgbtq+ in many many ways, but straight people saying they wish they were gay "because it would be easier" always strikes me as a somewhat ignorant take.

ObliviousCoalmine · 07/09/2024 13:37

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 07/09/2024 11:15

If God forbid UK was invaded by an international army I wonder who would be sent to risk life and limb. Would the women who claim to be better than men at everything be volunteering themselves? Why not?

Invading by...? Over disputes caused by...? Involving countries run by...?

easylikeasundaymorn · 07/09/2024 13:40

Halloumiheaven · 06/09/2024 23:24

I do totally understand what you're saying, I really do.

I sometimes get frustrated with DH for not thinking of what I think of as 'obvious' things for the kids or thinking ahead of the practicalities of everyday life. I actually spent a good proportion of my married life feeling very resentful of him for it. (Unfortunately MILs parenting done nothing to help the situation let's say)

That said though, I then took a good look at all the things he DID do, and they were things I was and am totally incapable of doing (DIY, fixing problems with cars, excellent at knowing how to invest and manage finances ) bloody strong role model to the kids too.

And I found peace with realising we do just have our 'roles' and that's how it is, and actually they compliment one another. It isn't perfect and I still have days where I feel irked by certain traits, but life is life and people are people and you can't really fundamentally change them (crudely put). I try not to sweat the small stuff and just make peace with our more traditional set up.

Our expectations of men AND women and their roles have changed so much. I don't always think it's for the best. It causes so much resentment in a marriage to expect total eradication of gender specific roles. (Dodgy opinion I know )

But what ARE the roles and tasks you think men are naturally better at on the whole than women?
This is the where your argument falls apart.

You've mentioned going to war - well that's hardly a daily, or a desirable occurrence, and modern warfare isn't as much about 'sending them over the top' but strategy, weapons armament, etc. all of which women could do if needed. 'I'll do all the housework and mental load for the rest of our lives vs the tiny chance you might be conscripted if we go to war (but tbh so might I),' is hardly a fair trade off!

Then your DH is better at DIY, vehicle maintenance and finances but you must realise this is his individual skillset, not a 'man' one.

Most cars these days are too complicated for anyone to have a go at fixing anything other than the most basic. My granddad was a mechanic and accepts he has to take his cars to specialist now because it's all electronic, you can't just open up the bonnet and start fiddling. Most women I know are far better at both DIY (because they are a) less lazy, and b)actually read the instructions rather than 'I know what I'm doing,') and finances than men. There is literally nothing in a 'man brain' that would make them better at investments overall than women. The fact that your DH is better at it than you is just your individual personalities - I am better at it than any of the male partners I have had.

The main advantage men had as a group was physical strength, which probably was an advantage plowing the fields in 1582, or even working down t'mine in the 1950s. But in 2024, where everything is electonic and automated, that is no longer much use. In a couple where both are solicitors, one being slightly stronger than the other is of no objective value at all.

It's like when on here women assure others that the household jobs are 'split equally, according to our strengths,' because the man 'takes the bins out (5 min job once a week), sorts the finances (set up a direct debit when they moved in 8 years ago and hasn't done anything since) and does the DIY (put 1, wonky, shelf up 6 months ago after a lot of nagging)'. Meanwhile they 'do the cleaning (2 hours every single day), cooking (with meal prep and food shopping, another hour, 7 days a week) washing (and sorting, drying, ironing, multiple loads a week), and sorts the kids out (literally all the mental and physical work, doesn't sit down from 7am to 9pm, the dad doesn't know their teacher's name.'

Treelichen · 07/09/2024 13:49

PandoraSox · 07/09/2024 13:35

I don't think @MNHQ alerts them. You need to report a post or email them.

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I did soon as they were posted but they are still up. That is my point. Response is far faster for other posts.

Halloumiheaven · 07/09/2024 14:00

CherryBlo · 07/09/2024 13:37

Why is most of this thread about whether or not men are useless, and not about the absurdity of wishing to be a lesbian?
Why would it be easier to be part of a group who only gained equal marriage rights 11 years ago? Half of you have probably been married to your DHs for longer than that, however useless or otherwise they may be!
Or is it that holding hands in public isn't exciting enough, and you want the added frisson of having "lezzer" yelled at you by random teenagers? (and yes this still happens in 2024).
I mean, women are great and so is being lgbtq+ in many many ways, but straight people saying they wish they were gay "because it would be easier" always strikes me as a somewhat ignorant take.

I completely agree. I think some straight women enjoy being part of the LGBTQIA+ by proxy. Like muscling in and trying to insert themselves into the 'coolness' of it all. The amount of women on here who are always claiming they're not 100% straight or 'could definitely be with a woman ' - I bet in theory if you actually checked their arousal response scientifically around females it'd be non existent. Like being gay is all two straight women just living a really cool set up without them pesky men

I can't speak for gay women but I imagine its pretty insulting actually. Especially when they haven't personally faced the prejudices of times not so long gone by. I wonder how many of them would be claiming they 'are definitely a bit gay. Could 100% be with a woman' if you threw them back in the 1930s.