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Holiday & DD's friend is a no show

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unapprentice · 30/08/2024 16:53

I booked a little caravan holiday for me, DD9 & her bestie a couple of months ago. Her mum was very eager for her to come & the girls were really excited. Messaged a few days ago & she said how excited her DD was and thanked me profusely, and confirmed she'd drop her to our house before 4pm, and we'd leave about 4.

Haven't heard anything from the mum today - it says she's active on Facebook but my messages are unread. I've messaged & called her auntie too but no response.

My DD has autism/ adhd and she's going to be so heartbroken! Seems really mean if she is just blanking me. I don't know her well tbh - must admit I was a bit surprised she was up for me taking her (not sure I would be) but she was & it just seems so harsh to do this now. Not sure what to do, should I cut my losses and leave without her at 5pm? Its only an hour down the road so no big rush but seems unlikely she's coming now & my DDs just getting more and more stressed with the not knowing 😔😔

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MiddleClassProblem · 30/08/2024 16:56

Oh no! That’s super harsh. I hope you hear from them soon or they turn up!

SophiaJ8 · 30/08/2024 16:59

Oh that’s hard, do you have her number to ring?

I think DD9 would agree to this, then on the day be a bit unsure, but that’s no reason not to answer you

I’d leave at 5 if you can’t get hold of her

HotTeaOnly · 30/08/2024 17:02

Gutted for your DD...my mind is racing through what I would say to my kids - maybe you pretend they've suddenly come down unwell, just so she has a reason and closure and can enjoy the holiday?!

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unapprentice · 30/08/2024 17:04

No number, we moved here from the other end of the country last year & literally everyone here only uses Facebook messenger, had to open an account because of it 😩 but I've called via fb and there's no answer. Apparently active now isn't always accurate but she is on fb a lot...

Just wish she'd have been honest if her DD had changed her mind, I would have understood.

DD wants to give it till 5 past, bless her. I told her at least that means she'll have double the £ for the arcade etc  and hopefully there will be some nice kids there for her to make friends with.

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unapprentice · 30/08/2024 17:06

HotTeaOnly · 30/08/2024 17:02

Gutted for your DD...my mind is racing through what I would say to my kids - maybe you pretend they've suddenly come down unwell, just so she has a reason and closure and can enjoy the holiday?!

Oh god maybe this would have been a better idea ... trouble is that they'll be at school together on Tuesday so would get caught out & DD has a massive thing about everyone being honest so I'd have been worried to do that.

Going to set off now I think & just make sure I'm the best playmate ever for her!

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loropianalover · 30/08/2024 17:06

Wow very strange. I obviously don’t hope that anything bad has happened but surely she’s not simply ignoring you!!

If she has fb messenger open on her desktop at home it might show her as being online but she’s not actually there… I’d text her again to let her know you need to leave at X time and DD is more than welcome, then leave it at that.

GatherYePearls · 30/08/2024 17:09

Assuming no medical/emergency, that is a total and utter dick move from the mom. Who on Earth does this when a kid's holiday is at stake?

MillionaireCaramel · 30/08/2024 17:09

Your poor DD. Not counting emergencies and sudden illness there's absolutely no reason to do this without letting you know.

I'm sure you will make it an amazing holiday for your DD ❤️

WonderingWanda · 30/08/2024 17:10

This is so shit, even if some sort of emergency has come up surely she could've dropped a message. I'm baffled that she was going to let you take her dd away without swapping phone numbers though?

Sounds like she was never planning to go ahead. We once had paid quite a lot for a child to come and do an activity with us for dd's birthday, they never turned up and when I rang the Mum said "Oh, sorry we're tired today so decided to stay home" then she blanked me for 4 years, randomly said hello to me last year as if she hadn't seen me for years.

I hope you and your dd have a lovely time in spite of this.

ICanBuyMyselfFlowersICanWriteMyNameInTheSand · 30/08/2024 17:10

Oh man that sucks. You sound like your handling it excellently. Your DD is lucky to have you. I hope you have a great time...and take the opportunity to act like a kid again!!

I hope you both have lots of fun and quality time together. 💐🌈💜💙

GatherYePearls · 30/08/2024 17:11

I'm baffled that she was going to let you take her dd away without swapping phone numbers though?

Yes I agree, I can't really comprehend this!

JC03745 · 30/08/2024 17:13

Was it clear which Friday you were going away? Could she have thought it was next friday, or tomorrow night?
I'd message saying you hope everything is ok, then give your mobile number and the address of the caravan park and ask her to drop her DD to you.

Peoplearehere · 30/08/2024 17:14

That’s very strange maybe she’s got the wrong day ??

pizzaHeart · 30/08/2024 17:15

I hope there is a reasonable explanation of this however I often have my messenger/ Facebook shown as active because they are open on my laptop which is constantly on so being on/ active might not mean that she is physically near the phone at the moment.

Zonder · 30/08/2024 17:16

I really hope there's a genuine reason. Anything else would be too mean.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 30/08/2024 17:17

Urgh i hate this, its so cowardly. If the mum has had second thoughts she should have the decency to tell you rather than leave you waiting for her. I hope there is a reasonable explanation

Thursdaygirl · 30/08/2024 17:17

Zonder · 30/08/2024 17:16

I really hope there's a genuine reason. Anything else would be too mean.

Absolutely, and really bad manners!

wizzywig · 30/08/2024 17:20

Ooh that is so mean! You poor daughter and you! Unless she is going to go to the site?

Pandasnacks · 30/08/2024 17:20

Hopefully there's an apology and an explanation coming OP. Maybe the child had last minute jitters and doesn't want to come and the mum is trying to talk them into coming. Still very rude of her not to communicate though!

wizzywig · 30/08/2024 17:20

I hope you have a great stay and the weather is amazing

Raininginparadise2 · 30/08/2024 17:22

Maybe the daughter got too nervous. However, really poor form for their mother not to let you know. Really rude.

DancingNotDrowning · 30/08/2024 17:22

God people can be awful.

what an unacceptably weird way for the mother to behave. I hope your DD still has a fab time.

K0OLA1D · 30/08/2024 17:23

Like I don't hope there is a genuine emergency, because that would be shit for them. But wow if there isn't, the mum is a dick.

mcmooberry · 30/08/2024 17:23

How horrible and disappointing (and mind-boggling that anyone could be so rude and inconsiderate) hope you manage to have a great weekend regardless x

Eddielizzard · 30/08/2024 17:24

Incredibly rude. Go, have a lovely time with your DD.

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