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Holiday & DD's friend is a no show

228 replies

unapprentice · 30/08/2024 16:53

I booked a little caravan holiday for me, DD9 & her bestie a couple of months ago. Her mum was very eager for her to come & the girls were really excited. Messaged a few days ago & she said how excited her DD was and thanked me profusely, and confirmed she'd drop her to our house before 4pm, and we'd leave about 4.

Haven't heard anything from the mum today - it says she's active on Facebook but my messages are unread. I've messaged & called her auntie too but no response.

My DD has autism/ adhd and she's going to be so heartbroken! Seems really mean if she is just blanking me. I don't know her well tbh - must admit I was a bit surprised she was up for me taking her (not sure I would be) but she was & it just seems so harsh to do this now. Not sure what to do, should I cut my losses and leave without her at 5pm? Its only an hour down the road so no big rush but seems unlikely she's coming now & my DDs just getting more and more stressed with the not knowing 😔😔

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Twonewcats · 30/08/2024 18:07

I hope you've at least had a reply from her by now?

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 30/08/2024 18:09

Your poor DD, hopefully she feels better when you get there. Some people will just ignore an issue when they've screwed up and don't know how to fix it, maybe she accidentally double booked and is just burying her head in the sand. Really rubbish behaviour though!

Itsabitweirdinhereinnit · 30/08/2024 18:11

That’s completely bizarre, surely there’s some explanation for this?

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rookiemere · 30/08/2024 18:12

That's awful, I hope she turns up.

IWasHittingMyMarks · 30/08/2024 18:14

Sorry they didn't appear without a word, OP

Hope your daughter is able to enjoy the weekend with you

OldCrocks · 30/08/2024 18:17

Do you know where they live? Could you head there before heading off to the holiday, just in case they're having some kind of crisis and the mum hasn't been able to get her dd to you?

You've probably left now though!

Waterboatlass · 30/08/2024 18:18

I'd assume potential emergency/ car breakdown or similar if she only confirmed yesterday and she doesn't have your number.

I'd send a message saying you had to set off and couldn't get through, hope she's ok. Basically leaving it clear she's welcome to get in touch and she will hopefully explain what's happened (and all is well)

WhamBamThankU · 30/08/2024 18:18

Hope you have a fabulous holiday ❤️

itsgettingweird · 30/08/2024 18:19

Zonder · 30/08/2024 17:16

I really hope there's a genuine reason. Anything else would be too mean.

Agree.

There's been quite a few accidents around today so depending where you are could she be caught in traffic?

And if she has the wrong day or something be honest. And if it's only an hour away pack her DD tonight and drop her off tomorrow.

I hope your DD has the best time and makes loads of friends at the park. I use to love camping holidays! Especially the arcades.

Smartiepants79 · 30/08/2024 18:20

This is so bloody shitty and rude. I hope they’ve got a really fabulous reason for this behaviour.
I hope your little girl still has a lovely time.

ThePoshUns · 30/08/2024 18:21

Maybe DDs friend got cold feet about being away from home for the week?
And her mum is trying to persuade her?

HateMyselfToo · 30/08/2024 18:24

She'll wreck her DD's social life by being this flaky with other parents. It's not like you'll ever invite her again.

BathPoppadum · 30/08/2024 18:32

ThePoshUns · 30/08/2024 18:21

Maybe DDs friend got cold feet about being away from home for the week?
And her mum is trying to persuade her?

If this was the case then surely the mum would have sent a message?

How long should OP wait to find this out? One hour? Two? Until dark?

VeganStar · 30/08/2024 18:34

That’s awful op.
even if her daughter has changed her mind about coming, she shouldn’t be avoiding your messages.
if she just messaged you and was truthful about it. It’s par for the course, kids change their minds but to ignore you is cowardly.

If it’s only an hour away maybe you could arrange for the friend to come and stay for a day. She may end up having so much fun that she decides to stay for the rest of the week or even a few days and if she had her stuff with her already packed in the boot she wouldn’t have to go home and sort it. That’s if the mother doesn’t keep ignoring you.

sleepwithblanket · 30/08/2024 18:48

I hope there has been a reasonable reason OP. Fingers crossed.

HotTeaOnly · 30/08/2024 18:48

Hope you get there easily and have a wonderful time.

Also hoping there's an explanation and friend could eg come for the day later on

cantthinkofausername26 · 30/08/2024 18:52

My heart is breaking for your little girl. How cruel of them to ghost you. Have you still not heard anything?

elliesmummy19 · 30/08/2024 18:55

Oh your poor daughter! That’s really rubbish. There’s no excuse other than a genuine emergency.

I’m so sorry. I hope you both have a fabulous time regardless!

Normallynumb · 30/08/2024 18:56

That is so rude
Being active just means she's logged on I think, but she could've answered the call.
I hope you have a lovely time

AntarcticOcean · 30/08/2024 19:03

My friend did this, I was about 12-13 and my parents were taking me and my friends to a caravan park for my birthday. Luckily I had invited 2 other friends who did come but I was so angry at the time, & the still am 20 years later when I remember it! Her mum
ignored all our calls, we even turned up at her house and were ignored. No doubt she changed her mind about coming which is fine but her mum dealt with it like an absolute tit. So sorry for your dd 😔 so disappointing.

viques · 30/08/2024 19:09

What a shame, that would have been such a nice end to the school holidays. I hope there is a good explanation, but also hope that you and your dd have a lovely weekend together and that she meets some new friends to play with.

loulouljh · 30/08/2024 19:14

How utterly rude. Go and have an amazing time...

Timeforicecream · 30/08/2024 19:15

Oh this is horrible…. I hope you at least had a call explaining the situation and an apology too

Zanatdy · 30/08/2024 19:17

That’s awful someone would just not show like that and let a child down. You’d hope there’s a could reason

AhBiscuits · 30/08/2024 19:21

What a shame and pretty shitty to just stand you up.

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