Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

I wouldn't invite my parents to a Halloween party!

Not rude, I think its fair to want to socialise with your own age group if that's your choice tbh even if they do get along fine.
Parents can hold their own halloween party and invite who they choose.

No I wouldn't find it rude and would accept the explanation. Some people can't fully relax around their parents and just want to let their hair down.

Not at all rude! I don’t think it even needs addressing.

Not rude, parents sound like they think they're still 'cool'

Depends on the kind of party. If it's adults only I'd probably see a Halloween party as being something for similarly aged friends, and family if local. If there were children going I'd see it as multigenerational and would invite parents.

Not rude.

No, I would think it obvious that a party is generally going to be for someone’s social group rather than family. Halloween isn’t the same as Christmas and birthdays.

And I also would not have wanted my parents at my halloween party when in my 20's and would not be offended if my children didn't invite me (in my 50's) to theirs

What if the parents offer to help with hosting, like bringing some food, help serve it etc...?
good relationship between all sons and parents

Would have found it very strange at that age to turn up to a house party and discover the host's parents were there. Really not the vibe. YABU.

Agree with @pearvines multi-generational family party with children attending, would be rude not to invite parents.

they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends

Whose brothers? The party thrower's brothers, or the parent's brothers (ie, uncles)?

if (b) and the uncles are the same age as the parents, then yes, it's a bit odd, but if (a) and/or the uncles are 30 or under, no, it's not odd at all.

Wouldn’t want my parents at a party when I was in my twenties either.

And now I’m in my 40s I wouldn’t want to attend a Halloween party. My 8 year old would be miffed but I’m happy to pass.

I wouldn't be at all fussed if my DDs (20s), held a halloween party and didn't invite me and DH (50s). Completely understand if they wanted it just a similar age/vibe. And we do lots together, I just don't expect to be included in everything by any means.

Not rude at all and if the parents are cross they didn't get an invite they honestly need to grow up. It's totally fine to want to do things without your parents involved and I'd find it very odd if I'd turned up and they were there.

the party hosts' brothers, so the parents' sons

Would you find it a big deal if the parents still showed up?

It's 💯 fine to invite similar aged siblings, cousins etc to an event like that and not parents, aunties and uncles etc.

I'm assuming you are the party hosts and your parents or DH's parents have got upset?

The kind of parties 20-somethings go to don’t need “help hosting”- just a table full of bottles and some music. They probably don’t expect food.

Why the hell would they invite their guest's parents??

Don't do that!! OMG.

@Moveoverdarlin I'll go in your place love halloween parties

Are you the hosts or the parents, OP?

Are you the parent?