Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

Someone that has parents or in-laws that need a lot of managing.

Honestly, there won't be a good relationship anymore if you crash their party. You're not invited.

You may have a brilliant relationship with your sons and their friends, but they also want a social life that doesn't involve you, and they have decided not to have parents this time.

As someone who has a friend whose parents are often around, it does change the dynamic, and what you want to talk about, etc. They're lovely people, but they are the parents of my friends, not my friends themselves. If they always came along, I'd imagine she'd stop being invited to things, or people would stop turning up to her things, a bit like when you have that friend who brings their partner to everything.

This one isn't for you. Find something else to do that day.

No not rude at all

Okay I won't

OP, they want to drink and play loud music and talk crap and possibly do some cocaine off their friend Rachel’s tits. They don’t want mum there setting up plates of sandwiches and making sure all the recycling is put in the correct bins. Why not invite some of your own friends around to your own house for a gathering so you don’t feel lonely.

That's the thing. It's the son's friends, not his wife's friends.

Ha ha

Yes this

They're 27, not 19

My line of thinking is it's going to be a lot of organising and the parent can help the wife set up the food, maybe make some sandwiches, etc... to take some load off of her

Sorry, I thought you said a Halloween party, not a re-enactment of the 1950's!!!

Maybe they don't drink because they are taking other substances! 😉

Exactly this! And if you do have a party of your own OP, be sure to invite Rachel. The old codgers will LOVE HER.

Why not invite some of your own friends around to your own house for a gathering so you don’t feel lonely

I might do that

OP, it's the height of rudeness to turn up to a party that you haven't been invited to. You know this. Don't be that parent.

So they can actually afford the cocaine, then

So?

Not at all! Why would you invite your parents to a friends Halloween party, I think you're being unreasonable in expecting an invite! You may not mind but they might, as would their friends!

They are both hands on, it's just that it's the son's friends that are coming rather than his wife's. So he will probably be socialising with them more

How does it matter WHOSE friend's they are? Just because they are your son's friends doesn't mean they are yours. They see you as X's mum. They might chat with you and be nice to you. They are still not your friends.
They are mid to late 20s. I'm mid 40s and I wouldn't want to go to a party with people at a completely different life stage to which I WAS NOT INVITED.

Help the wife jumped the shark for me.

fair enough

OMG do not do this!!!

That would be mortifying for your kids!

So let him socialise. I'm sure his wife can make small talk and enjoy a party and set up some food without needing the help of her mother in law! If she was that worried she wouldn't cope she can talk to your son about it beforehand.

What difference does that make?

Either way they’re not your friends!

I only meant it as in they are the son's friends. They are both hosting it but since he is closer to them, he will likely spend a bit more time chatting with them than the other way around. They are both hands on

And you are completely out of touch.

They aren't the party animal kind. None of them drink or do drugs