Would you find this rude/be hurt by this? (Halloween party)

[itsahalloweenone]

A halloween party with over 20 people invited.

Couple are hosting it but they didn't invite the man's parents who live less than an hour drive away but invited his brothers and cousins as well as friends.

The reason given is that the couple want to be with people their own age (between 25 and 28 years old). Their parents are relatively young (both just turned 50 years old) and tend to mingle with their son's friends fine.

Would you find this rude? Why or why not? How would you address it on both sides?

Thank you

Yes it's weird, they aren't invited so why would they turn up??

Wtf 😂

It's a while since I've been a 25 yr old party goer but yes, I would think it a bit weird if Jeremy's parents were hovering around with plates of sausage rolls and 'Mum's special hummus dip' while everyone else wanted to do whatever it is that 25 year olds do at parties these days.

I would think their being rude by trying to invite themsleves along.

Yes, it would be a big deal and very rude.

The parents are not invited and delusional if the think most people in their twenties want to hang out with their friends parents twice their age

I’d be fairly surprised to go to a party party and see the host’s parents there. Different if it’s a family gathering, but a proper drink, dance, chat, fall over, dress up party isn’t where I’d expect to meet parents (and I say this as a parent myself)

Yes I’d find it a big deal if the parents showed up uninvited!

We need to know who you are in this scenario OP! I'm guessing DIL.

@itsahalloweenone yes, even if they offered to help host. I'm assuming you are one of the parents, please don't just show up OP you'll ruin their night.

Not rude at all. Think it’s pretty standard.

Maybe it's time for an Absolutely Fabulous reboot.

It's not a multi-generational party no

OMG yes!!!

Sorry if the parents have FOMO, but this is not for them.

No it's not rude.

Having parents there completely changes the dynamics.

Yes. They weren’t invited, and so should not turn up.

Why though?

Okay, thank you

Because if they wanted you there then you would have been invited. Host your own party and invite who you want!

I now want this to happen and be reported back to us minute by minute. Or preferably filmed. Classic sitcom material.

That’s even worse!!! When old people offer to do ‘one of their special trifles and bring it along. Young people don’t care about that kind of thing. Think back to when you were 28 and planning a party. Would you want your parent’s there?

I have an aunty that brings these bloody canapés that take her hours to every family do and we all have to fall over ourselves and be so grateful. No one gives a shit.

YES.

It's outrageous behaviour to turn up at a party you're not invited to.

Ok, this is a weird wind up

It's not really like they go out their way to show up to the party, it would just be an instance of jumping in with DS1 who's coming to pick up DS2 by car.

It would probably only be one parent as the other spends that day with their own elderly mother, so the one parent would be left alone at home otherwise.

This is either a tedious reverse (yawn) or you're so blinkered OP it's just laughable

No, as long as they didn't find it a big deal when I reminded them I was having a party for friends in my age group and would see them another day ...