Anyone awake at all? Just found a man in the corner of my bedroom

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On my side of the bed. Stood next to me. Pissing on the floor!

The man is my H. I was absolutely shocked and I’m not a deep sleeper so knew what I was seeing was right

I quickly jumped up and screamed at him to stop. He went to try and carry on. I screamed again and then I cried (these are new carpets!).

He sat on the bed next to me, genuinely concerned as to why I was crying. He then realised what was happening, like a confused state of amnesia or something, and ran out to grab tissue and clean it all up

He went back to sleep obviously very embarrassed and confused. He was really really confused

What on earth is going on?! I said to him before he went back to sleep that he needs some sort of help, that’s not normal.

He said nothing like this has ever happened before.

Well, no, he’s never done a wee on the floor next to me in the bedroom! But he does quite a few weird things sometimes. The other week he got me a phone case. Said I was ridiculously for choosing the colour I did and that I was unbelievable. He kept going on and on! I then realised he looked like he was glazed over and not really him

He has told me to fucking sort my life out. When asked why, as this is midnight when I would’ve been sleeping for a while, he said ‘You don’t even train anymore. To be the best, you need to get out there with that ball at all hours’ 😒

Another time he’s fallen asleep on the sofa and come up here. I was putting on fresh sheets and he said ‘Why aren’t these in yet? You lazy bitch’. and then started wittering on some crazy stuff like ‘You need help. My maid from the 4 Season’s has his sheets done by Gloria. She is great. I wonder what sheets these are. Any idea of their thread count?’

Surely this is some sort of sleep walking behaviour? I’ve been married 8 years. My husband has never ever called me a bitch. He’s never called me lazy! He is incredibly confused when he Comes round and is embarrassed and sometimes a bit in disbelief because he just doesn’t remember

It is new behaviour. Started about 3 weeks ago and it really annoys me. And now I am quite angry!

I think you need to get him an appointment with the GP especially as this is new behaviour.

My husband sleep walks/talks and says/does some weird things at times, but he has done this since childhood.

Definitely a phone call to the GP
needed on Monday morning OP!

Have a serious discussion with him tomorrow about this when he is back in a fully conscious state. Ask if he’d mind you filming any further episodes as this may aid in diagnosis

He needs to see a doctor asap. Sleep disorders like this do exist but it’s very odd that it’s only just started.
We’re all these episodes during or after sleep?? Any issues during waking hours?

Yes, as far as I’m aware, no incidents in childhood at all.

He is only 32.

It is always around midnight to about 3am that it happens

Super weird!

GP definately! And I might be sticking him in another room and locking my door until this is sorted. Sounds completely out of body and unhinged.

I would be concerned about something organic such as a seizure.
Does he drink or do drugs?
Has he had any other symptoms.
Could it be a mental health crisis?
I also think urgent visit to GP

It could be night terrors

they can present very strangely, but are not serious in themselves and tend to pass

Unless he has a secret substance abuse problem or is taking sleeping pills, he needs to see his GP asap. You need to attend the appointment with him because he won’t be able to accurately describe the incidents.

Has he had a fall or a bang to the head that your aware of?Had he been ill at all just before this all started?

Not to worry you but I'd be getting him seen as soon as possible,anything when there's a very sudden very obvious change in someone's behaviour that can't be put down to drugs of any kind or an excess off alcohol needs to be investigated and quickly.

Seriously you are angry and annoyed???? he is your husband FFS, you should be worried and concerned

I'd be worried he has a brain tumour. As everyone has said, doctor, asap.

This is exactly what I was thinking. However definitely make an appointment to see his GP to rule out anything else and don't be fobbed off as this is not normal behaviour for a young man.

If you can, keep a record of when it happens and for how long and what is said and done as this could help with a diagnosis.

You say it is between 12 and 3am when it happens, how much sleep has he had up to that point as there may be some correlation between what stage of sleep he is in and his behaviour. All this info is good to be able to tell the GP.

I hope for both your sakes that this resolves itself soon.

gp for a sleep specialist referral! Is it always at night or when he’s sleeping? Really strange but worrying x

Another vote for medical attention

Does he drink alcohol before bed?

Has anything changed in his life recently?

As other PP said - straight to GP, he needs a brain scan and other neurological investigation such as an EEG to rule out organic cause. If I was you, I couldnt wait - Id be bringing him straight to a&e first thing in the morning.
Could he possibly be having partial seizures? You mentioned glazed eyes, unaware of his behaviour and then coming around feeling confused.

seizure disorder! especially the confusion following.

He needs a brain scan and you need to taken your anger and annoyance and channel it into concern.

Exactly what I thought . It could be brain tumour , psychosis , sleep terrors anything . Needs medical help asap

It is new behaviour. Started about 3 weeks ago and it really annoys me. And now I am quite angry!

I would be really worried if this happened to my husband and making sure he got medical attention.

He needs to see a doctor, he could be having seizures. My ex husband had most of his seizures while asleep then when coming out of it used to do and say very odd things with a glazed look, sometimes with no recollection and sometimes a vague recollection. Unless it’s a clonic tonic seizure you may not notice he’s having them. My ex started having seizures in his 30s, never had one until then.
After he was diagnosed with epilepsy we realised he’d been having myclonic jerks for a while but he thought it was just nerves twitching from previous damage to his hands.
If i were you I’d be concerned there was something wrong with him since this is new behaviour.

this is new behavior that’s completely out of character for him, I don’t think it’s time to be angry with him, I would be looking into a medical appt as soon as possible for him, that sounds very scary for him as he’s clearly not aware.

Please don't be angry at him, it's clearly not his fault.

Another vote for medical attention as it's suddenly started

It really doesn’t