Anyone awake at all? Just found a man in the corner of my bedroom

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On my side of the bed. Stood next to me. Pissing on the floor!

The man is my H. I was absolutely shocked and I’m not a deep sleeper so knew what I was seeing was right

I quickly jumped up and screamed at him to stop. He went to try and carry on. I screamed again and then I cried (these are new carpets!).

He sat on the bed next to me, genuinely concerned as to why I was crying. He then realised what was happening, like a confused state of amnesia or something, and ran out to grab tissue and clean it all up

He went back to sleep obviously very embarrassed and confused. He was really really confused

What on earth is going on?! I said to him before he went back to sleep that he needs some sort of help, that’s not normal.

He said nothing like this has ever happened before.

Well, no, he’s never done a wee on the floor next to me in the bedroom! But he does quite a few weird things sometimes. The other week he got me a phone case. Said I was ridiculously for choosing the colour I did and that I was unbelievable. He kept going on and on! I then realised he looked like he was glazed over and not really him

He has told me to fucking sort my life out. When asked why, as this is midnight when I would’ve been sleeping for a while, he said ‘You don’t even train anymore. To be the best, you need to get out there with that ball at all hours’ 😒

Another time he’s fallen asleep on the sofa and come up here. I was putting on fresh sheets and he said ‘Why aren’t these in yet? You lazy bitch’. and then started wittering on some crazy stuff like ‘You need help. My maid from the 4 Season’s has his sheets done by Gloria. She is great. I wonder what sheets these are. Any idea of their thread count?’

Surely this is some sort of sleep walking behaviour? I’ve been married 8 years. My husband has never ever called me a bitch. He’s never called me lazy! He is incredibly confused when he Comes round and is embarrassed and sometimes a bit in disbelief because he just doesn’t remember

It is new behaviour. Started about 3 weeks ago and it really annoys me. And now I am quite angry!

He absolutely does need neurological investigation though.

Your title and the tone of your post are odd, I’d be extremely concerned if this was my relative

What are the ‘positive symptoms’ of schizophrenia?
The term ‘positive symptoms’ is used to describe symptoms that are experienced in addition to reality .
These symptoms can also happen in other mental illnesses.
They are usually called ‘psychotic symptoms’ or ‘psychosis’.
The following are some examples of positive symptoms.

• Hallucinations
• Delusions
• Muddled thinking

Oh god! I’d be really worried. This happened to a friend of a friend and it was unfortunately a massive brain tumour

He needs A&E in the morning

What time does he go to bed? I'm wondering if he's waking up from deep REM sleep.

Regardless, doctors appointment first thing Monday I think.

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Another one thinking he needs a brain scan and EEG to rule out an organic cause such as a brain tumour or seizure condition. Please don’t delay.

Sorry, leaned on my phone in bed!

He needs urgent medical care. Video an episode if you can to show the doc.

The replies on this thread are wild. Schizophrenia? Brain tumor? Psychosis? 🤔

As for those suggesting he needs to get to a GP for them to refer for brain scans, MRI's, neuro consults and all sorts - Jesus Christ, catch onto yourself 😂 GP will do nothing of the sort. Alone, whilst the husbands actions are obviously worrying to his family there's nothing particularly medically 'alarming' about them.

The man is sleepwalking. It's the most likely reason by a million miles and ALL of his symptoms fit exactly, from his actions to the time of night it's occurring. It's more unusual in adults than children but by no means rare. Most commonly brought on by stress or anxiety in adults.

And of course he looks confused/glazed/zoned out. When he's pissing on the carpet and coaching op in football skills he is asleep and when the op is ranting at him he's just woken up that second - I'm pretty sure everyone in the world looks glazed 5 seconds after awaking from a deep sleep.

The GP will conduct a basic health check then investigate the sleep issues further.

Sleepwalking isn't the issue - it's the sudden onset with no history of it that means he needs a health check.

Has he been under a lot of stress recently? From what I understand sleepwalking can be triggered by that?

Don't wait until Monday.

If you are in the UK call 111 and get advice there. They may advise A&E.

Your H may resist seeking advice if he has little or no recall.

Hope you can get this sorted ASAP. You sound frightened by this.

I would also call the GP as soon as possible. My older brother had a short period where he started telling us some unbelievable stories, that he actually believed happened. It turned out he had diabetes. Make sure they check his blood sugar as well. It was an atypical reaction, everyone was thinking some sort of mental issue or brain issue.

All of this. But just to try and put the OPs mind at ease a little in case she's gone into mad overdrive panic at some the wild and crazy suggestions, that are hopefully irrelevant, the exact same thing happened to me, but it was DPs friend while we were on a group holiday.

I woke up when DP started shouting 'mate, what are you doing' because one of his mates was stood at DPs side of the bed about to have a piss, apparently asleep/unaware of what he was doing. I think he managed to get to the toilet but when we talked about it the next day he had little or no recollection but did say that he'd done the same at least once before in a wardrobe.

But what I do know is that was over 20 years ago and the man is still alive and well and runs a successful business that is very physically demanding so if it was due to a health condition it's not been life limiting for him.

Agree OP that your DH needs to talk to his GP but please don't spend the weekend catastrophising about what could be causing this.

Good God, everyone needs to calm down.
Its most likely sleep walking / talking and night terrors. Stress or anxiety can trigger peculiar night time activity in adults so a GP appointment would be advisable but FFS stop with the extreme dramatics.

To add:
I’m prone to bouts of sleep ranting talking and weird night time activity.
It might occur for a couple of nights over a few weeks and then nothing for years.
My dad started having night terrors in his 60’s.
its not that unusual.

Well I would think that if he has a secret substance abuse problem or is taking sleeping pills he would also need to see his GP

Glaring obvious difference is those symptoms are in relation to people who are awake. The Ops husband is asleep during this activity.

It sounds like sleepwalking to me, I do this occasionally when I’m stressed (usually if I’m sleeping somewhere new) or if I’ve been drinking heavily, I have weird conversations that I don’t remember or have a vague recollection of, I wander around and I’ve even bought things online more than once and only found out when the parcels arrived.

It's most likely stress-induced or similar non-dramatic cause. Has he started on any new medication?

Some massive overreactions in the responses so far. Please don't go charging in to A&E. Make a GP appointment for next week.
And - try and muster some sympathy, rather than your anger. He isn't doing on purpose.

I have similar happen. But I've had it since I was a kid. And it runs in the family, my dad and his dad both have/had "nighttime activities".

I am only aware of it because people have seen it happen and told me. Parents, siblings and now DH. So it could have been going on for longer if it's mostly talking in his sleep and he's never shared a room before?

For me, if I'm particularly stressed it's more frequent and "bigger", by which I mean movement rather than just chattering. And I can go years with nothing except the odd muttering, so you may not have noticed it either. Is he particularly stressed?

I'd still get him to get checked out if it's new behaviour, but it could just be what happens to me, which freaks out DH sometimes but most of the time it's nothing.

My husband went through a phase of sleep walking at a similar age. Stress related. Thankfully no pissing in the bedroom.

He’s still alive almost 30 years later.

He should consult his doctor if worried, but hopefully there’s nothing sinister going on.

what have you based that on? Outdated stereotypes about mental health?!

Yep!

A few days after my fathers funeral a van pulled up and delivered two potted eucalyptus trees addressed to me.
I had no fucking clue what was going on until
I checked my emails and found an order confirmation order for said trees placed at 2am the night before my father’s funeral.

I’ve also been known to send rambling nonsensical texts in the middle of the night.

Doesn’t sound anything like this. 🙄