Anyone awake at all? Just found a man in the corner of my bedroom

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On my side of the bed. Stood next to me. Pissing on the floor!

The man is my H. I was absolutely shocked and I’m not a deep sleeper so knew what I was seeing was right

I quickly jumped up and screamed at him to stop. He went to try and carry on. I screamed again and then I cried (these are new carpets!).

He sat on the bed next to me, genuinely concerned as to why I was crying. He then realised what was happening, like a confused state of amnesia or something, and ran out to grab tissue and clean it all up

He went back to sleep obviously very embarrassed and confused. He was really really confused

What on earth is going on?! I said to him before he went back to sleep that he needs some sort of help, that’s not normal.

He said nothing like this has ever happened before.

Well, no, he’s never done a wee on the floor next to me in the bedroom! But he does quite a few weird things sometimes. The other week he got me a phone case. Said I was ridiculously for choosing the colour I did and that I was unbelievable. He kept going on and on! I then realised he looked like he was glazed over and not really him

He has told me to fucking sort my life out. When asked why, as this is midnight when I would’ve been sleeping for a while, he said ‘You don’t even train anymore. To be the best, you need to get out there with that ball at all hours’ 😒

Another time he’s fallen asleep on the sofa and come up here. I was putting on fresh sheets and he said ‘Why aren’t these in yet? You lazy bitch’. and then started wittering on some crazy stuff like ‘You need help. My maid from the 4 Season’s has his sheets done by Gloria. She is great. I wonder what sheets these are. Any idea of their thread count?’

Surely this is some sort of sleep walking behaviour? I’ve been married 8 years. My husband has never ever called me a bitch. He’s never called me lazy! He is incredibly confused when he Comes round and is embarrassed and sometimes a bit in disbelief because he just doesn’t remember

It is new behaviour. Started about 3 weeks ago and it really annoys me. And now I am quite angry!

Is he on drugs???

It doesn’t baffle me. I’m not anti-GP but my experience is they often don’t have a clue and you have to suggest things to them. Mumsnet reaches a wide audience that may have experienced similar, which is always helpful to then ask the GP about.

I think he needs to see a doctor. It doesn't sound like sleepwalking if I'm honest, it sounds like some kind of neurological event. Possibly even nocturnal seizure. Are you absolutely certain that he doesn't take any drugs? I agree with a pp that my first thought was brain tumour.

Sleepwalking is something that normally starts in childhood, not spontaneously as an adult. I've never known anyone who just started it in adulthood.

That's as maybe, but it remains an inappropriate thing to throw at a clearly worried OP

'I Would never have thought any type of seizure before posting here because entering this into Google brings up NHS ‘Sleepwalking’. So official NHS guide - It mentions 0 about seizures'

You can't rely on Google to diagnose what could potentially be a neurological condition. Several things about your husbands incidences raise alarms ie the glassy look in his eyes, personality change, multiple incidences within a short period of time.

He need to be seen asap. It could well be sleepwalking due to stress and hopefully it is, but it could be a neurological/ organic symptom.
Despite being slim and fit, it could be T2 diabetes and these are hypos when blood sugar drops.
I would try a snack before bed as that's easy to try at home

All this sounds neurological and needs investigation as others have said. These symptoms are presenting now, anything before 3 weeks ago, tremors, incoherency etc? Get some phone recording if possible. Is he aware of anything or is it completely forgotten? Is he safe to drive? Someone I knew once started driving to somewhere he lived years earlier instead of going home. Turned out he had a mild stroke. But these symptoms need investigation

Not at all inappropriate if it saves a life

Interesting. Would you think advice around going to the GP straight away due the possibility of a tumour in another place (prostate, or again, bowel, say) would be disproportionate and ridiculously aggressive, unnecessary, alarming etc?

Totally straight question. What is it about brain tumours that merit these descriptors and you don't think should be discussed? The OP asked, remember.

Bear in mind that you can't see or palpate a brain tumour or often any of its symptoms in the same way you can a lot of other growths (e.g. bleeding, mucous, skin changes) so referral for scans is often based only on patient history.

Neither ridiculous nor aggressive. 34% of brain tumours present with changed behaviour. Entirely proportional response as borne out by a doctor on the thread who advised urgently seeking investigation to rule it out. Also a poster speaking from personal experience. Just because we find something unpalatable doesn’t mean it isn’t a possibility and shouldn’t be tackled head on. In many instances it’s not cancer that kills, but fear.

TW awful news story
I was in 2 minds about posting this, I don’t wish to create fear, but I read this article and immediately remembered this thread. Clearly this article is an extreme example but my reason for posting is that the undiagnosed epilepsy is an interesting point and one to be aware of and consider. Hope you and your DH are ok, OP

https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/i-loved-dad-cant-believe-29695190.amp

Jeez, that's horrendous @3within3