AIBU husband w*nking

[FarmerJojo81]

What are people's views on this? I know my husband does it and he says he needs to orgasm daily so if we don't have sex for a few days then I understand he gets frustrated. I turn a blind eye but know it goes on discretely - fine. For context we have had issues with our sex live since DC was born but have been trying to get back on track and this week have been having regular sex. Today I walked into the bedroom and he was having a wank whilst watching something on his phone. I was annoyed as it was morning and I was in the kitchen getting child's breakfast. I came looking for husband to see where he was. Child could have easily walked in. I was livid.

He is now annoyed with me as I "shamed" him and overreacted. I have apologised for storming out but not for being angry and said I don't take responsibility for his actions. He's saying it's all about how I make him feel and connected to our sex life problems.

Thank you. Feminism died a death on this post.

But his wife was downstairs doing the childcare that he obviously thinks is women’s work, freeing him to fumble with his dick while watching porn. He had sex the night before, the poor wee tosser was hardly sex starved, but thought indulging in the sex industry where so many women and children are trafficked and abused was his divine right.

You’re massively speculating in order to demonise what is perfectly normal.

I love all the 'me and my quiet wanking upstairs' posts. WTF is this? And ad for Zoflora's masturbation scented disinfectant?

I was responding to this comment in particular, I posted a more sympathetic reply to OP upthread where I noted that if the DH isn't doing his equal share of parenting/if his wanking impacts her negatively/if porn is an issue for her then that's an issue. But don't let that get in the way of your ire

Yeah I agree, the number of women who are wringing their nun’s habits over a bit of wanking, I bet they don’t wank or even know where their G spot is.

It’s just a wank. No kids walked in. Does it take two people to give a child breakfast? They were on holiday. Self love is not disgusting. Feminism is not dead. Chill the fuck out people. 🤣

On his own, in the bedroom under the duvet. It doesn’t get more private than that.

Ick, yep I'd be equally unhappy with this!

Thank you. Feminism died a death on this post.

Your brand of feminism died, not mine.
My ex moved on from wanking to torture porn to abusing our daughter. I had him arrested and prosecuted. I fought like a girl on this one. So, that's my fucking backstory. These days, I own my own property. Pay my way entirely. Support my three children emotionally, financially, psychologically, and in every other way all by myself. I don't have a man in my house wanking. I'm the wanker in my castle.
The most important man in my life, my son, just left uni with a first class honours degree from the country's best architecture school. Behind every good son is a good mother.
That's my fucking brand of feminism. I don't kowtow to men who promote female exploitation and abuse of any kind. I leave them.

OP if you think that's gross my husband has no sex with me (ever - claims to now be asexual) and when I've walked in on him in the past he does it with his eyes closed and his thumb in his mouth (!). He also watches weird porn (nothing illegal but he has a fetish).

Unsurprisingly he's soon to be an ex.

@SerenityNowInsanityLater I salute you. 🙂

Hahaha this thread made me think of this

Oh God 😂😂😂

Wanking is perfectly normal. But not under these circumstances. I’m not demonising wanking, just porn and the total disrespect of the mother of his child.

Is there a lock on the bathroom door? If not put one on. Bathroom and bedrooms are private spaces anyway. You should really knock first before going in.

If anything Only Fans showed that a lot of women do porn as their own choice.

If you want to play high moral ground,maybe you should start with food you eat, clothes you wear and items you own.

Tbf your amazing son is 100% wanking and watching porn lol

And probably in his (gasp!) bedroom after sunrise.

What actually is disrespectful? Just asking because in our house we take it in turns to get up and do the childcare, so on holiday or at the weekend for example, someone gets a lie in while the other adult keeps the children away from the sleeping (or in this case, wanking adult). So if I was lying in bed, having a fiddle on my morning off, would that make me a disgusting, seedy, sex addict with no control? …just asking (for a friend)

Moral high ground about sex trafficking?

he says he needs to orgasm daily

Bullshit.

Because you have made an informed choice with your partner, which is entirely different.

During the end of my pregnancy my partner made my son breakfast every day while I lay in bed and tried to start labour with my vibrator 😆 I think wanking in the bedroom is fine personally, it’s not like he was standing on top of the kitchen counter having at it!

Eh??

It’s not actually clear what the agreement was in the OP’s post.