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FarmerJojo81 · 2024-07-12T12:22:02+00:00

What are people's views on this? I know my husband does it and he says he needs to orgasm daily so if we don't have sex for a few days then I understand he gets frustrated. I turn a blind eye but know it goes on discretely - fine. For context we have had issues with our sex live since DC was born but have been trying to get back on track and this week have been having regular sex. Today I walked into the bedroom and he was having a wank whilst watching something on his phone. I was annoyed as it was morning and I was in the kitchen getting child's breakfast. I came looking for husband to see where he was. Child could have easily walked in. I was livid. He is now annoyed with me as I "shamed" him and overreacted. I have apologised for storming out but not for being angry and said I don't take responsibility for his actions. He's saying it's all about how I make him feel and connected to our sex life problems.

Nn9011 · 31/07/2024 22:13

Your husband is entitled to masterbate and no one should be controlled to the point they can't. That said, it's not unreasonable to be annoyed at the time and openess of it. If there's children in the house it should be behind a locked door and not at a time he should be contributing to child care/home life.

Summertimer · 31/07/2024 22:38

Are you not doing too????

Catullus5 · 01/08/2024 03:26

Hi @Grammarnut , thank you for your reply.

To be clear, I'm not suggesting that violence against women should be tolerated. I hope and believe that it's possible for porn to be non-violent and non-exploitative. I think that the issues that currently exist in porn are to do with the current culture of the porn industry rather than something inherent in the nature of porn itself.

I'm afraid my knowledge of the classics is generally weak. I have a long-term correspondent (from this site) who I've never met and maybe never will: she loves the classics and she suggested the name for me. I love the poem though (in translation of course!)

Grammarnut · 01/08/2024 10:09

Catullus5 · 01/08/2024 03:26

Hi @Grammarnut , thank you for your reply.

To be clear, I'm not suggesting that violence against women should be tolerated. I hope and believe that it's possible for porn to be non-violent and non-exploitative. I think that the issues that currently exist in porn are to do with the current culture of the porn industry rather than something inherent in the nature of porn itself.

I'm afraid my knowledge of the classics is generally weak. I have a long-term correspondent (from this site) who I've never met and maybe never will: she loves the classics and she suggested the name for me. I love the poem though (in translation of course!)

I saw that you do not condone violence. I agree entirely that the problems we have now are to do with the nature of the porn industry, and I would love to have erotic works instead.

You are the only person on this thread who has taken what I said seriously, understood what I was saying, and replied in a supportive and interesting way. Many thanks.

AWOL66 · 05/08/2024 23:00

Catullus5 · 27/07/2024 02:20

I think the problem is people giving their opinion when they haven't anything to make it particularly valuable.

For example, the husband says he needs to orgasm every day. Some replies on this thread have said this is implausible. Those replies, including yours (and I do mean this nicely!), are based on speculation and presumption. Other replies say they also need this. These are based on personal experience.

I will speculate that if a person has a lower libido it's easy to find sex or some things about sex icky. I can tell you from experience that if you have a higher libido, trying to suppress it makes you absolutely miserable, as does being shamed for simply having it. It's misguided to the point offensive to suggest that it's like denying someone some sweets (not that I think you were suggesting that.)

I think @StarlightLady 's use of the word 'clitty' completely innocuous.

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Another snowflake offended by someone expressing their opinion WHEN ASKED even though I literally wrote that experts on sex drives like doctors might have a different opinion to me. The irony is I am supposed to accept you saying my opinion is not valuble and is based on speculation and opinion as if yours is not. 😂The irony of all of it is YOU have made presumptions about me and not read my post properly and I have knowledge many don't relating to mental health and sex drive related issues to do with drug taking, bi polar and hypersexuality. I don't care on your opinion of the word clitty. Why would I?

Catullus5 · 07/08/2024 07:25

AWOL66 · 05/08/2024 23:00

Another snowflake offended by someone expressing their opinion WHEN ASKED even though I literally wrote that experts on sex drives like doctors might have a different opinion to me. The irony is I am supposed to accept you saying my opinion is not valuble and is based on speculation and opinion as if yours is not. 😂The irony of all of it is YOU have made presumptions about me and not read my post properly and I have knowledge many don't relating to mental health and sex drive related issues to do with drug taking, bi polar and hypersexuality. I don't care on your opinion of the word clitty. Why would I?

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I think the thread's over.

YourPeppyPinkCritic · 27/11/2024 15:32

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PassingStranger · 27/11/2024 16:29

He sounds abit of a wa.