Hotel guest asking me to steal his number

[Mangococktail]

I work on a hotel front desk at an upmarket hotel. Love my job.

We had a guest check in for two nights. We hit it off. He extended his stay by two more nights then another night then another.

We chatted lots including for 3 hours straight one night when I came off shift. My colleagues know I've never done anything like this before...I liked him.

When he left he tipped big and gave me a small personal gift that he knew I'd like.

He said he'd come back for lunch on Tuesday. I said well if I'm not here I hope you enjoy it. I don't know my shifts.

He then asked me to keep in touch and said I could get his number off the booking system. I told him I absolutely couldn't do that.

He said I could as he'd just given me permission.

We really got on and I'd like to see him again but I really can't be taking guests numbers off the system.

Why not just give me his number??
What do you all think?

Ooh I'm looking forward to an update on Tuesday as to whether he turns up at the hotel for lunch.

If he asks after you, I'd definitely get your friend to just pop a piece of paper with your number on it in front of him 😊

OP how long have you worked at this hotel? You had a thread recently about being worried your boss had asked you out for a date in a job you'd only been in for 5 months. That sounded like an office job, not a hotel.

Why are you trawling the OP’s posting history?

Yes. Also my Dad has Alzheimers; my little brother got made redundant; I broke my foot; I set up a new business two weeks ago and it is going really well; I had sweetcorn and feta fritters for breakfast.

I know you don't feel recognised enough for how smart you are and I really relate. But this isn't helpful. It's disruptive and mono.

Just try and find threads where you feel comfortable and know that whatever in life has hurt your trust, you can still trust.

Personally I'd rather end our interaction here because I simply don't have more to give to you x

I'm afraid this is a very typical scam. They have fun with you then tell you to access their data, when you do they then complain to hotel that your stalking/harassing them and the hotel end up sacking you and.comoensating him.

Please link some articles about this well known scam and evidence that compensation is paid.

What a weird reply. It’s perfectly possible to just say ‘I made up some details to make this/the other thread less identifiable’, rather than it being @IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle who has issues with ‘trust’.

I remember that other thread where your boss asked you out for dinner and you started a thread saying you didn’t know whether or not it was a date, and then said after the weekend he showed up all grumpy and dictatorial, so presumably it wasn’t a date…?

But if you have a habit of thinking men are ask8ng you out when they’re not, then maybe it’s relevant here.

It comes down to what could go wrong? Well what's the worst that could happen? For me someone asks if the phone was freely given or if it was taken off the computer what's the answer?

Oh give over, she never said she got that info from Facebook. There are plenty of other websites on the internet to find articles on people!!

The Grumpy boss thread ..Isn't that the one that

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle was referring to?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5015826-this-is-not-a-date?page=3

It's a public forum.
Anyone can see or comment on any threads.

As long as people are civil to each other, they can post their own opinions, surely.

The more posts, the more traffic for ad revenue, after all.

Under no circumstances take his number from the system.

I'm going to cede this thread to oakleaffy who has correctly identified that I, a single woman, was within one four month period attracted to two different men.

I'm a hussy.

Quite seriously can Mumsnet not do something about these people? It's not healthy for anyone and does a disservice to others responding genuinely.

Oakleafy yeah! You won! I'm not sure what in your head but I concede. You won the thread.

I'm not sure of the link but it was on lifehacker.com originally I have also seen Tiktoks about it. There are quite a few "professional" hotel thieves who live on getting free accomodation, meals etc by complaining about the way they were treated. Their actions with staff and other things they do all sorts from deliberately infesting hotels with bedbugs, to trapping unsuspecting staff members into believing they're in for a good night then making out they didn't want yo know you and you're just some crazy person coming on strong. They often start small with places like premier in who have money back guarantee if your not satisfied guarantee and claiming for their stay. Then they escalate to the bigger hotels where they can get more for free.

Could you prime your workmate such that should the guest turn up enquire how you are etc, workmate can suggest that if the guest wishes to leave a note and his number (handing over pen, paper and envelope), then workmate (who will insist on sealing the envelope if guest doesn't) will pass the note on to you .

Just to let you know there are still people following your thread that are genuinely interested and don't think you're making it up. I hope you keep us updated and I hope it all works out!

Well done OP. There are too many bitter and angry people on Mumsnet. They could very well be right, but if you take their approach and scepticism whenever you meet anyone, you’ll be single forever.

Keep us updated! Really hope it works out!

Don't risk losing the job you love, if he's serious about you, he will get his ass up there to your work place and exchange numbers.

Who cares how many men you’re attracted to? Knock yourself out. My point was that you seem to spend a lot of time online speculating about whether some guy actually wants to ask you out or not. Assuming that grumpy boss wasn’t actually holding a torch for you, isn’t it possible this whole hotel guest scenario is equally unrelated to reality?

Also, on a completely unrelated note, you say he ‘tipped big’ when he left? You mean to housekeeping? Is this done via reception now? It was cash in the room when I was a hotel cleaner, but that was a while ago…

I don't know what you want from this thread but I'm sorry it didn't deliver. I'm not sure how the tipping practice in hotels is really interesting...he followed the usual tipping practice.

This...your behaviour...is about you. Not me.

Start a thread about your needs.

Try and articulate them.

You're worthy of your own thread. This is just now painful.

He could be a mystery shopper trying to catch you out

No. He chatted for 3 hours. I was a mystery shopper and this would just not happen. Any of it.

Looking forward to update on Tuesday!

Have you tried searching for him on LinkedIn?

Don't take his number off of the system it's not worth losing your job, if it's meant to be you will see him again and he can give you his number in person. X

Have you tried reading the post?