Hotel guest asking me to steal his number

[Mangococktail]

I work on a hotel front desk at an upmarket hotel. Love my job.

We had a guest check in for two nights. We hit it off. He extended his stay by two more nights then another night then another.

We chatted lots including for 3 hours straight one night when I came off shift. My colleagues know I've never done anything like this before...I liked him.

When he left he tipped big and gave me a small personal gift that he knew I'd like.

He said he'd come back for lunch on Tuesday. I said well if I'm not here I hope you enjoy it. I don't know my shifts.

He then asked me to keep in touch and said I could get his number off the booking system. I told him I absolutely couldn't do that.

He said I could as he'd just given me permission.

We really got on and I'd like to see him again but I really can't be taking guests numbers off the system.

Why not just give me his number??
What do you all think?

Which is what? Life coaching? Financial? Widget making? Piano tuning?

All done with no online business presence?

I sounded out the colleague on shift.

She said "its good you're off. Means he can take you for lunch"

I told her he doesn't have my number so he can't!

She didn't reply. Eegh.

Oh dear! Does your colleague think this is all a bad idea?
I'm really invested now, and hoping dor good outcome. Dont really have any advice. Do keep us updated!

Unless I am muddling this up with another post ... earlier in the thread you said you found him on Facebook (showing him with his dog, and doing charitable events) and now you didn't find him on Facebook?

Doesn't make sense. Men that cheat don't have a problem dishing out their number and then lying through their teeth.

Yes she did say that.
I'm now wondering if we are being conned.

What OP found was

Stuff about nice things he has done for communities and charities. Stuff about his dog and another happy. Stuff about his business. Nothing personal as such and no accounts...just press articles.

Well done, Sherlock!

So this is likely just a fantasy.

There isn’t a cheating textbook that men are following! Some may be more strategic than others.

I didn't say that so please show where I did!!

I found press articles about him!

Er....where have I contradicted myself at all?

Ooh ok, sorry I misunderstood. I read it as you saw posts on social media apologies again...

Have you looked on LinkedIn, I would expect a business man with articles, dishing out advice etc to have a LinkedIn for connection to whatever industry he is in.

Thank you.

As entertaining as this may be and far from life on death being accused of lying by people who don't take the trouble to even check my words before saying nasty things is not welcome.

Thank you Castle for correctly quoting my words.

If he has a business could you look him up on Companies House? It won't give you a telephone number but it will give the names of businesses he is involved in.

When someone asked if you had FB'd this person, you said ''Yes''.

Also, he ''He lives a 45 minute drive away so he will be back if he wants to.''

Why on earth was he staying in a hotel when that is such a small commute?

a 45 minute drive is nothing.

FFS sorry your career in the FBI didn't work out. I searched for him on Google and Facebook!

Youre not helping me. Whatever this is doing for you could you please get it elsewhere? It's extraneous.

You cannot give permission to access personal data verbally. He would know that.
Think about the risk if his significant other wants to know how op got his/her number and op cannot provide any actual proof. Classic he said she said and the women always comes off worse

Sorry, OP. Your story does seem genuine. That was why I thought I might have muddled your thread up with another one in having a vague memory about the dog and charitable deeds.
On the app you can't choose to see only the OP's posts so it is nigh on impossible to check things without trawling back through the whole thread.
I honestly hope that you have a good outcome with this x

@Mangococktail
Couldn’t you call him for official reasons by saying you think something in the lost & found might belong to him? And then he’ll say it’s not, you can make some comment about how it’s not to get a chance to speak to him so wasn’t a complete waste of a phone call, ask how he is… arrange a date?

It’s still breaking hotel rules but gives you a way around it.

What area of expertise was he giving advice in ? Taking these calls in front of you isn't professional. If I accept a business call in these circumstances I always remove myself from the hearing of any one else.

Although it's quite something that he has no online business presence.

Does your not cheap, very remote hotel have a booking system for lunch? Has he booked lunch on Tuesday?

It's ok. It just seems every mumsnet thread gets hit with people saying it is all made up, even though that has a hugely negative impact on people asking for help and anxious about being identified.

It wasn't really you it was someone else who has their own needs and looking to fulfil them. Which is understandable.

We are back to letting a colleague know I'm sorry I missed him.

I could have just asked for his number. I didn't. And neither did he. So here we are.

I'll be ok x

I personally wouldn’t turn up on your day off but I would leave your number with a staff member who is working and ask them to pass it to him.

Then if he wants to take things further he can message you.

You wonder why people are suspicious at such an unlikely scenario ?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4027004-why-do-people-make-up-stuff-on-this-site

Is he staying the Tuesday night in the hotel? Are you working Wednesday? Given he extended his stay last time he could easily do it this time.