Hotel guest asking me to steal his number

[Mangococktail]

I work on a hotel front desk at an upmarket hotel. Love my job.

We had a guest check in for two nights. We hit it off. He extended his stay by two more nights then another night then another.

We chatted lots including for 3 hours straight one night when I came off shift. My colleagues know I've never done anything like this before...I liked him.

When he left he tipped big and gave me a small personal gift that he knew I'd like.

He said he'd come back for lunch on Tuesday. I said well if I'm not here I hope you enjoy it. I don't know my shifts.

He then asked me to keep in touch and said I could get his number off the booking system. I told him I absolutely couldn't do that.

He said I could as he'd just given me permission.

We really got on and I'd like to see him again but I really can't be taking guests numbers off the system.

Why not just give me his number??
What do you all think?

Well done Op. If it's meant to be, then it will happen without any dramatics!

Maybe he was a mystery shopper

Yes. This has got a bit ridiculous and far too much effort.

I suspect he does this a lot. At least we got a decent tip out of him and I won't take any future guest batting their eyes at me seriously.

He's not booked lunch so I can't imagine he will show.

I'm going to treat myself to a really nice day out and fish and chip supper.

From the way you described him and his actions, I felt sure he would come back to see you.

Let's see what tomorrow brings. Enjoy your day whatever you do 😊

PM me what details you know about him from your conversations and I will have a go at finding him, I love a challenge 🕵🏻‍♀️ 🔎😁

If you can get a photo of him or anyone you can easily ID them these days using websites that use facial recogniction software. It's freaky stuff.

OP has said she already found a website for a business. If he is a director or a former director, she'll be able to look him up on Companies House. She's also found media articles about him.

Any update OP? I want to hear it's been the start of a beautiful relationships

Someone was sick so I ended up on shift after all!!

He did not turn up for lunch.

I then called him from the work phone and said although we don't have a formal reservation we wanted to check if you were planning to stop by for lunch (since he had mentioned to at least one other colleague)

He didn't pick up so I left a voice message which he did not even return.

So. There you have it!!

I was completely utterly wrong.

Ah sorry to hear that op! But at least you now know

Oh no. I was hoping for a happy ending 😃

Sorry that was supposed to be a sad emoji.

Arsehole 😒

Oh flipping heck. Why are some men such wallies!

That's a shame and a shame you missed out on your day off.
Onwards and upwards!

You gave it a good shot. And still time for him to call back!

Thanks everyone.

Fell hook line and sinker for this.

It's not you, he's an odd beast.

Oh well...little invested apart from some expectations!

Does the hotel's data collection processing information to customers say that customers agree to their numbers being used for calls for marketing purposes? Because that's what you've done. It's fine to phone to check that a booking will be kept but he hadn't booked anything.

He's probably just a fantasist but calling him wasn't wise.

:@Mangococktail

There will be other men just as appealing, OP.

You say that you haven't been on a date for 5 years.

Is there anything you could join in the area in which you live where you might meet more people, a tennis club or somewhere similar? This could be the moment when things really start to pick up for you.

Haha...thanks. I've intentionally not dated.

Never say never as thus crush proved but it's not something I'm looking for.

Don’t feel bad.
You have done nothing wrong.

He liked the attention and wanted an ego boost (and perhaps a ONS).

Any man that would make you waste your time by looking up his number (and potentially getting in trouble with work), instead of just handing it to you sounds like a narcissistic twat and you’ve dodged a huge bullet.

He’s missed out on you.
You’ve had a lucky escape.

My immediate thought was that he was a narcissistic games player.
Flashing his cash about , enjoying the attention - men like this are two a penny.

I worked for a man in my Twenties who was incredibly flirty and always asking the women out who did work for him- He had form for it.
He was also married.
He really thought he was the bees knees with his floppy dark hair and silk shirts and polished shoes like conkers- but he was a narcissist.

You literally just described him.

Don't feel too bad OP. You may not have wanted a ONS but at the end of the day, you still pulled! 😁 You went as far as you were willing to go, maintained your boundaries and had fun. You also got a present out of it. It's not so bad, he doesn't know your innermost thoughts or the turmoil you've been in these past few days, so you haven't embarrassed yourself there. Your only mistake was develop feelings this soon when you barely knew him, but sometimes it happens that way, especially if the person is charismatic. Don't beat yourself up for being human. We learn by experience and if it happens again you now know it's unlikely to be anything other than a bit of fun and some daydreams.