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Hotel guest asking me to steal his number

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:30

I work on a hotel front desk at an upmarket hotel. Love my job.

We had a guest check in for two nights. We hit it off. He extended his stay by two more nights then another night then another.

We chatted lots including for 3 hours straight one night when I came off shift. My colleagues know I've never done anything like this before...I liked him.

When he left he tipped big and gave me a small personal gift that he knew I'd like.

He said he'd come back for lunch on Tuesday. I said well if I'm not here I hope you enjoy it. I don't know my shifts.

He then asked me to keep in touch and said I could get his number off the booking system. I told him I absolutely couldn't do that.

He said I could as he'd just given me permission.

We really got on and I'd like to see him again but I really can't be taking guests numbers off the system.

Why not just give me his number??
What do you all think?

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Tereseta · 28/06/2024 21:33

Do not take the number off the system unless you want to lose your job. He should have given you his number, tbf he knows where you are if he wants to get in touch.
Enjoy it for the brief liason it was.

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:33

No. I was a front desk manager at 5* hotels for many years, it happens all the time. Don't do it, no good will come of it!

MaggieFS · 28/06/2024 21:34

Cheeky git. Don't look up his number. Your job is worth more than that. If he's genuinely interested, he knows where to find you.

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pikkumyy77 · 28/06/2024 21:34

If he wants to see you again he knows how to find you. Do not violate hotel protocol.

Maverick66 · 28/06/2024 21:34

Do not contact him.

He knows where you are and if he wants to see/speak to you again he will contact you or leave a message at reception for you.

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:35

Yes. I've no intention of taking his number from the system.

I just wondered why on earth he would suggest it!

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:36

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:33

No. I was a front desk manager at 5* hotels for many years, it happens all the time. Don't do it, no good will come of it!

OMG! Is this a 'thing????

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TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:36

Yes, very much so!

Girlputyourrecordson · 28/06/2024 21:36

I used to do that same job! Didn't know this was a thing tbh...interested to hear why he did it

Cheesecakelunch · 28/06/2024 21:37

I'm picturing sleazy Richard Gere 🤔

SirChenjins · 28/06/2024 21:37

Why did he do it? Probably to get some sort of thrill/kick from having a young woman chase him and do something she shouldn’t in order to get his number.

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:38

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:36

Yes, very much so!

But why??? Why ask me to take his number off the system rather than asking for mine or even giving me his??

I don't get it!

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 28/06/2024 21:38

I'm not disagreeing with the others, but looking at it from his pov, he's thinking that you've got his number on the screen in front of you and he's giving you permission to make a note of it. So it's the lazy version of him giving you his number. I think that's all there is to it.

lovinglaughingliving · 28/06/2024 21:39

Haven't you watched Hotel Babylon 😂

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:39

Cheesecakelunch · 28/06/2024 21:37

I'm picturing sleazy Richard Gere 🤔

He was so credible for 6 days....but yes that final line was just...so freaking weird.

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Athitch · 28/06/2024 21:40

I used to do the same job and didn't know it was a thing...what is the thing...elaborate!!

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:40

Because he's playing with you, because he thinks he's cool, because he thinks it's unique... it doesn't matter, don't do it!

Pineapl · 28/06/2024 21:40

Sounds like a weird power trip. If he wanted you to have it he could have just given it, instead he wants you to have the potential of firing or other disciplinary to get his number, red flag.

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:42

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 28/06/2024 21:38

I'm not disagreeing with the others, but looking at it from his pov, he's thinking that you've got his number on the screen in front of you and he's giving you permission to make a note of it. So it's the lazy version of him giving you his number. I think that's all there is to it.

Yes. Also we are a small hotel. Not a big chain. I can see this pov and it's maybe a coy way of saying he'd like to hear from me. But if that is the case I hope he'll realise I just can't do that. I would get sacked.

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TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:42

What are you all not getting?

Man checks into hotel, man spots pretty/gullible receptionist, man is away from home/unlikely to get busted, man is flirty, man hopes for a quick bit on the side and receptionist seems like an easy target.

Tale as old as time...

AlecTrevelyan006 · 28/06/2024 21:43

Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:38

But why??? Why ask me to take his number off the system rather than asking for mine or even giving me his??

I don't get it!

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It’s a power play

Athitch · 28/06/2024 21:43

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:42

What are you all not getting?

Man checks into hotel, man spots pretty/gullible receptionist, man is away from home/unlikely to get busted, man is flirty, man hopes for a quick bit on the side and receptionist seems like an easy target.

Tale as old as time...

I get this but I'm pretty sure the line about taking the number off the system isn't a thing.

Girlputyourrecordson · 28/06/2024 21:45

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:42

What are you all not getting?

Man checks into hotel, man spots pretty/gullible receptionist, man is away from home/unlikely to get busted, man is flirty, man hopes for a quick bit on the side and receptionist seems like an easy target.

Tale as old as time...

Sorry, that doesn't explain at all why he couldn't just give her his number.

Other pps have had a go at explaining (power trip, wanting to get her to do something she shouldn't because she likes him so much), which does make sense

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Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:47

TokyoSushi · 28/06/2024 21:42

What are you all not getting?

Man checks into hotel, man spots pretty/gullible receptionist, man is away from home/unlikely to get busted, man is flirty, man hopes for a quick bit on the side and receptionist seems like an easy target.

Tale as old as time...

I get that. But then why not ask me for my number or ask to meet up to have said sex.

Instead we talked about his godsons, the hotel, his pets, favourite foods, politics, my Dad etc etc

I'm just saying that he didn't come across sleazy but I am possibly very naive

He came across as just really enjoying the conversation and finding we had lots to chat about plus a few non sleazy compliments!

If he is a cheat he's bloody useless at it!

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bellocchild · 28/06/2024 21:48

Mangococktail · 28/06/2024 21:38

But why??? Why ask me to take his number off the system rather than asking for mine or even giving me his??

I don't get it!

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If he isn't on the level, he could later say you took his number and are harassing him.

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