Why pick at spelling /grammar

[Idontgetit33]

Why do quite a few people not understand dyslexia and/or learning difficulties.

I do not know how to use grammar. If it does happen my phone has probably done it for me.

I do not know the difference between too, to , of and off. I get confused with they're even basic words like and ,him etc I sound them in my head as I write them even though I know how to spell them. There are lots mistakes I do but I can't see them.

People can tell me /explain but I will forget pretty much right away.

So what I don't understand Is why do many not all but many people pull up peoples spelling and grammar or they think the thread Is fake because of bad spelling.

If I feel emotional/stressed/ upset it could be worse

It sometimes comes across like there an understanding of children with dyslexia. But as am adult people seem to think it disappears.

It isn’t always because of a specific difficulty though is it. There are some words that have a red line under them and the correct spelling, if what you type is incorrect.

People do have much more understanding of difficulties I think, but perhaps get annoyed by unnecessarily abbreviated words.

It’s not always intended to be critical: I’m also neurodiverse and seeing words spelt incorrectly really bothers me. Something about them just sitting there incorrectly, being incorrect forever. It’s like an uncomfortable itch in my mind, so I do have an urge to correct it. I don’t usually as I know people can take it as criticism, whereas really it’s just an urge that comes from my own weird brain.

With children it's good to ensure they know the correct ways.
On mumsnet it's just another way to bully other posters. I'd never dream of correcting a stranger's SPaG in real life.

I agree with PP, children should be taught the correct spelling and grammar as far as possible, so we are all starting from the same point, and there is not going to be too much drift.

but picking on people on MN is just spiteful. All it does is show up the poster doing the correcting as being a petty and spiteful person, without anything constructive to contribute.

It really doesn't matter, as long as meaning is clear. And no one has to spend their down time correcting their spelling and grammar on an anonymous public chat forum.

Yeah it's awful on here, I've seen posters in real distress being picked on for their spelling and grammar. Usually by someone who's far from perfect in that way themselves.

It's good old fashioned snobbery, and says far more about the critics than the posters they criticise.

If you report, MNHQ will often delete.

I have a strong urge to correct spellings and grammar, they stand out on a page to me. At work, I proof read formal letters for several work colleagues as standard, so it’s a normal thing for me to do. But I don’t correct social media or mumsnet posts usually because it is rude, though I have a couple of times when tipsy, sorry OP. I do get that it can be seen as criticism, I must try harder to resist….

Most of the time it isn't dyslexia/LD though, it's just lazy.
My averagely academic 12 year old with ADHD knows not to write Iv (rather than I've - that does make people sound really thick), can use the right they're/there/their.

Most things underline in red if they're not spelt correctly, so just just look up the correct spelling before posting.

I only correct it on MN if the poster’s been correcting someone else, in which case I think it’s justified.

I am a bit if I get advertising emails or leaflets with mistakes, because in that case I think a person who knows they have difficulty in that area but wants to look professional should get someone else to check.

Most people are using phones or tablets on MN, so no they won't get the red lines (which aren't always correct anyway). Autocorrect can help, but also hinder.

People are typing on MN while they're living their real lives - making the dinner, folding the laundry, on hold with the insurance company etc. They're not lazy, they're busy and distracted more often than not I'd guess.

I don't get a red line on my phone telling me anything. But even if I did I would not know what it's asking me. I know my phone shows me simlar spellings . But they are simlar so I would not know which one to pick.

Thar sounds very judgemental unless I have misunderstood. Of course it can be due to dyslexia/learning difficulties that does not mean they are lazy.

And to be blunt a 12 year old can spell better than I can.

It’s jarring that’s why. When I read ‘why don’t you say something to you’re mum?’ it makes no sense whatsoever. I have to go back and realise they mean ‘your mum’.

And it’s not like adults can’t learn. They are fairly simple rules. If you can learn to drive or use a washing machine, you can learn to spell common words and the difference between similar ones.

I personally think it’s important. Not necessarily on MN all the time, but generally in society.

Because despite all their intelligence, spelling and grammar, they don't have an ounce of decency about them. Only moral superiority over people's whose morals are far better than their own.

Often it makes things difficult to understand if the wrong word is used and/or the grammar is confused. If I can read and understand what's written I wouldn't usually complain. But there is spell checking and I regularly look up words if they are flagged as wrongly spelt when I type them, if only to not let my spelling get worse than it already is.

Wow . I don't know what to say

I'm afraid I also judge leaflets (advertising various services) when they contain spelling or grammar mistakes.

I just think if the person's attention to detail isn't very good in one area it might be the same in another. I understand not everyone's good at spelling, but they should get extra help to ensure their advertisement is right in that case.

It's probably not very fair but I'm not willing to risk sloppy workmanship!

You are unbelievably ignorant.

I massively struggle with spag and especially similar sounding words. I roll my eyes at being corrected on mumsnet though especially when it comes with the bullshit oh what if no one ever points it out argument. As if magically after years of schooling and specialised intervention etc it’s going to be someone being arsey on social media that solves it.

Just to clarify that it's not the poor spelling/grammar I'd have a problem with. The person could be brilliant in other areas and I know that.

It's the fact that they didn't bother or care enough about the leaflet they were producing to have it proof-read - that's what would worry me.

I use an iPad mostly, so I assumed ( wrongly) that spelling errors show with a red line.

I dont agree that spelling and grammar shouldnt be pointed out on forums

My spelling and grammar is very good but as I age, I notice little mistakes creeeping in, words missing, sentences left unfinished, muddling up too, to and two, and hear and here, and of and off, their, there and they're. These are things I know about and are accurate in, but for some reason my aging brain is messing up for me. My eyesight is deteriorating too so I dont spot things easily now.

I start to write things phonetically these days, I dont know why. Right or rite instead of write for example. Very strange.

So I make mistakes and its likely that a lot of my writing sometimes doesnt make sense

On a forum, the only way I can communicate is by writing, so it makes sense that what I write should be understandable. I have no issue with someone pointing stuff out, even though its not out of laziness.

Although I never use an apostrophe in things like 'its' or 'Im'. That is sheer laziness.

Yes it's like wow I never thought of that . I'm going to share it across the world dyslexia will never be a thing again 🤣

As this thread shows you can be good at SPAG but still come across as very thick. 😅

OP, don't worry about it.

Some may do. But even if it did have a red line and it showed me other options I would not know what one to pick anyway.

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