19 year old missing.

[ImNotGivingAwayMyShot]

I haven't seen any posts on this although I may have missed it.

A 19 year old boy has gone missing while on holiday with friends in Tenerife. No phone battery and has not been heard from since 8am yesterday.

I cannot stop thinking about him and his family. I have a son the same age who was due to go abroad with his friends for the first time last week but plans were cancelled last minute and now I feel like I never want him to go anywhere!

I'm not sure the point in me posting this as no one will know what has happened, I guess I just can't help thinking what if he was my son?

I am praying he is okay. My heart absolutely breaks for his Mum who has traveled there this morning.

Positive thoughts to his family...

God. Praying he's ok.

I would be beside myself. It's things like this that make me never want to let my kids go off into the world even though I know they have to eventually.
Particularly worrying with the Michael Moseley tragedy recently too. I believe Tenerife has been very hot as well.
I pray he is found safe and well.

I saw that earlier too. It doesn't bode well given how hot it is out there. I hate my lad going abroad with his mates. I know you have to let them but oh god, stuff like this scares you. I hope this lad makes it home.

Yes, I immediately thought of Michael Moseley.

Lets hope there is some good news by the morning.

Still nothing this morning. His poor Mum and Dad. This just makes me want to cry.

It's so awful isn't it 😢first thing I checked as soon as I woke up.

There was a thread recently from a Mum who was extremely worried about her son going on his first trip abroad after A levels with his girlfriend, and some of the posters were so nasty. Sneering at her basically. Whilst rare, things do happen and I think it's only natural to worry, especially when you hear things like this.

Please Lord let him be found safe.

Please let him be found 🙏🏻

Absolute worst nightmare. I have two sons who have been on all the party islands. One arrived home safely yesterday. I thank my lucky stars x

@ImNotGivingAwayMyShot

there were a couple of threads about him yesterday, including one with a link to the nes article & a photo. But it's a nightmare trying to find things on here.

I hope they find him today, but it's looking very scary.

lots of teen going off after exams (Zante for our lot) it is a worry, but they have to use those wings!

much strength & love to his mum &Dad.

Oh I hadn't realised, I actually used the search tool before I posted but nothing came up.

Yes I know, things like this are rare and you can't keep them at home forever (as much as I would like to!).

I just can't help automatically imagining how this poor boy felt being lost and thirsty and his poor family being worried out their minds.

At least there appears to be a huge amount of effort finding him so fingers crossed they find him today.

Do you really think writing down your ramblings about how he might be feeling thirsty and "how hot it is out there" (it's been low to mid 20s all week unlike Greece and there's lots of shade in that area) is a kind thing to do?

If the worst does happen then his family could easily come across this thread. Talk about it in private to your friends but don't write that shit on a public forum when you've no idea what has happened. Ghouls.

Think you'll find his mother has been trying to keep it in the press and has spoken about what was said to his friend on the phone about him being thirsty and lost.

Apologies some people have empathy. Off you pop to another thread with your ill informed 'ramblings'.

You don't sound particularly kind yourself.

This is all over the news, the family want publicity and shares. They want people to talk about it and for it to be fresh in people's minds.

Get over yourself and keep scrolling if you don't like it.

Bit harsh

"Apologies some people have empathy. Off you pop to another thread with your ill informed 'ramblings'."

Off I pop? 🤣 think you'll find it's an open forum and his aunt has this morning specifically asked this morning, on behalf of his family that people do share and keep his name out there but only with positivity.

A cousin has written that it's hard reading the constant second guessing of people on the internet and all of the theories.

This happened with Nicola Bulley, it's ghoulish and uncalled for. I don't need to "sound kind" to say that

@TakeOnFlea so leave the post then? It's natural that people will discuss highly emotive, high profile cases like this. I highly doubt his very concerned family will be trawling MN at this time but if they are, nothing offensive or speculative has been said here. Certainly no conspiracies or theories. So I don't understand your point. You're just trying to be superior.

Yes an open forum, therefore I can pray for this boys safe return and feel empathy for his family. None of which is negative. Not once have I made an assumption about what the outcome will be, I have only commented on what has been shared about his last phone call and felt bad for him feeling that way as I can imagine how my son would feel and how the family would feel hearing that.

I'm sure you trying to argue with people on the internet with laughing emojis is helping the family. I will not waste any more time replying to you.

Tbh I agree with @TakeOnFlea

You're not spreading awareness or keeping Jay's name in the public eye, you haven't linked anything, or shared a photo.

You're discussing your heartache at another families difficult situation, and how you can't bear to think about him in X scenario (I'm not repeating it) after members of the family (the people who actually know him) have said they are finding it increasingly difficult to read these accounts of what he could be going through.

Sharing articles and photos, as the family have requested, brilliant, sitting pouring your heart out and discussing imagining him being XY and Z when the family have said they find it hard to read is little bit of a grief theif situation imo.

I would recommend what 3 words to anyone with a teenager going off somewhere in a situation like this.
https://what3words.com/
I just told my teenager to download it before her holiday.

Share the link to anyone who might benefit from it please. 🙏🏻

Link to one of the threads from yesterday with photo and article.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5100070-young-lad-missing-in-tenerife?reply=136131258

I've just done this - thank you.

Sending prayers that this lad is found 🙏

This is what keeps upsetting me (so sod off poster who said we aren't allowed to say this). My DS is the same age and I keep imagining him in the same scenario, wanting me and feeling scared.

Just get him home safe please God.

I wish we could all lock our kids up forever and keep them safe but of course we can't, we have to let them do their thing but as I said to my DS this morning, this is exactly why I worry.

This is what keeps upsetting me (so sod off poster who said we aren't allowed to say this). (not quoting the rest as the family is getting upset at people saying shit like that).

Yes, you sharing your feelings is definitely more important than the feelings of the family who have stated they are distressed at people sharing things like that.

Honestly, the grief tourism when stuff like this happens is mind boggling.

Your thought experiment is this families reality.

The entitlement is mind boggling.

So I've to "sod off", "leave the thread", "off you pop" and am "trying to sound superior" by telling a load of grief thieves that his actual family have asked specifically that people don't say these things. Obviously these posters are more important.

It's not about you. A sentence I'm learning never gets through sadly.