Adoption shower ideas

[CraftyC]

I have offered to host an adoption shower for my best friend. They have been going through the UK adoption system for nearly 2 years and will be taking a 1 year old girl home mid May. The mum to be knows about the shower and is incredibly excited.

However all the ideas for games I have seen are pregnancy related. Does anyone have any ideas what games/activities I can do with the 15 guests in my house that doesn't mention pregnancy? Any other tips for hosting this shower to make it special for her?

Thanks

Your opinions are not relevant to the discussion sought here.
God, what an over bearing boor you must be irl.
If you want to assert your opinions about adoption do so on an appropriate thread. You have been attempting to derail this thread every post you make. Read the room fgs.

@Neurodiversitydoctor

Nothing you have posted on this thread has been even slightly professional, you have been endlessly irrational.

If you are professionally involved in adoption or children and family services that’s extremely worrying.

I very much doubt you are though, I think you are living out a fantasy life on this thread, along with at least one other of the unpleasant and irrational PPs.

Well no, but then I am not responding in a professional capacity here. Believe whatever you like I am off to do my fantasy job.

Right but do you have any party game ideas?

So did I!

Please search my posts I have given party games ideas

Who the fuck could be offended at celebrating a child being adopted into a loving family?

The child won't be there, so they aren't going to get upset, but why doesnt a woman who is becoming a mum through adoption get to celebrate in the way she wants to?

You’ve also been judgmental and offensive to the OP - who isn’t the one adopting this child - and inadvertently, to the rest of us who are adopted and/or adopters. You’ve had posts deleted but I read them. The OP wants to do something kind for her friend and to celebrate. There’s zero indication that the parent doesn’t understand the trauma, background and history. It’s actually none of anyone’s business though.

90% of the threads on this site could be described as no-one's bussines, this is a public forum.

because gut instinct is that it is totally inappropriate

Your instinct is wrong. The friend who has gone through the adoption process wants an adoption shower. She's an adult so she gets to decide.

A child has been abused and neglected, and likely damaged for life. A new family is taking her on and most likely has years of struggle and heart ache ahead - and most adoptions fail in the long term.

Can you give us the source for that last statement.

And don't underestimate the strength and resilience of adopted children. My girl was 1 when we adopted her. She's 19 now and a happier, more confident, more loving young woman you could not wish to meet. Raising her has not been a struggle - it's been a privilege- she's brought us so much joy.

Your friends are amazing and I hope it all works out well for them, but this is not something you celebrate like you celebrate a birth. It is different in every way.

They're celebrating a child and a mother becoming a family. It's lovely and I wonder why you think the mother doesn't deserve it.

Could you ask the invitees to get in touch with a game suggestion, perhaps when they're RSVPing anyway.
That way everyone's ideas can be included ... and it takes the pressure off you a bit!
I hope you all have a lovely time, and very best wishes to your friend with her adoption journey.

A child has been abused and neglected, and likely damaged for life. A new family is taking her on and most likely has years of struggle and heart ache ahead - and most adoptions fail in the long term.

What a fucking offensive way to speak about a child. If this is your area of work you’d be aware of the transformative impact having a loving, safe, secure home can have for a child. Early trauma doesn’t need to result in “damage for life”, with the right support and attuned care children can and do they’ve.

Parenting my children is neither a struggle nor a heartache, it’s an absolute privilege to be their mum. They are thriving with the love and stability that adoption has given them. They would have been lost in the care system, and god knows the outcome if they had stayed with their birth family.

I too would like a source for most adoptions failing in the long term, particularly given there’s no consistent reporting of adoption breakdown across the country.

You’ve clearly got a bee in your bonnet about adoption and think that gives you the right to make deeply offensive blanket statements on a thread where someone is trying to celebrate a milestone in her friends life. Well done 👏👏👏👏