Adoption shower ideas

[CraftyC]

I have offered to host an adoption shower for my best friend. They have been going through the UK adoption system for nearly 2 years and will be taking a 1 year old girl home mid May. The mum to be knows about the shower and is incredibly excited.

However all the ideas for games I have seen are pregnancy related. Does anyone have any ideas what games/activities I can do with the 15 guests in my house that doesn't mention pregnancy? Any other tips for hosting this shower to make it special for her?

Thanks

a party like this

a party like this

You do know the child won’t be there? Why would it not be allowed.

It would not be allowed with the child there, for obvious reasons

The child was never attending. That was clear in the OPs posts for fucks sake. You really are looking to be offensive and making it up to look good.

no I am not, I was responding to a post that seemed to be implying a one year old would be fine with it. I am not being rude, you are

no I am not, I was responding to a post that seemed to be implying a one year old would be fine with it. I am not being rude, you are

But it was clear from the outset the shower would be held pre-placement.

Who would stop it and who would even know about it??

I never implied that the child would be there - it's been perfectly clear from the get-go that it will be BEFORE THE CHILD IS PLACED!

Though I still wonder how anyone would know...

Can you please confirm whether or not you have any official role in the adoption process at any lever?

The OP has asked for ideas to throw a party.
What is so bloody difficult to understand here?

@mt9m
@Comedycook
@Gettingonmygoat
@Neurodiversitydoctor
@Bakersdozens
and others here who think it appropriate to shit on this thread. God you're a miserable lot. Your opinions about the party were't asked for.
OP was clear the party was welcome and that the style of party was asked for.
Provide party ideas or move along to another thread. And do take a look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel so entitled to bring others down.

Apologies if this has already been suggested - i tried to read the whole thread but found some of the nastiness on here too depressing. Some of you ought to be ashamed of yourselves. Putting people down just because they don't like the same things you do - who the Hell do you think you are?

Anyway, here is my idea. It's not exactly a game, but is everyone present at the shower a mom?.if so how about asking everybody present to give one thing they know now that they wished they had been told before becoming a mom - their best piece of advice - be it serious or light hearted. I seem to remember something like this at my baby shower..... It sounds a bit shit when I write it down but I remember it was actually nice and quite funny and also quite moving in some cases, as people could be as light hearted or serious as they wanted. My friend who is Jamaican I think said it was a tradition from Jamaican baby showers, but I have absolutely no way of verifying that statement ....

@Bakersdozens

It wouldn’t be advisable, for sure. Why don’t you think it would not be allowed? Who wouldn’t allow it?

The child wouldn’t be there and was never going to be there, so not sure why you’re bothered about something that wasn’t planned at all.

@CraftyC sorry you’ve had a negative experience on this thread. I think you’ve been very kind. I like the idea of modelling something with plasticine or play dough as an interactive game.

I went to a baby shower recently, first time ever, and we made babies out of playdough, blind tasted baby food, guessed the celebrity's baby and a book was passed round for everyone to write something inspirational in for the mother to be. It was lovely and really good fun. No doubt some people will be sneering at the very idea, but we all enjoyed it. There was food and drink and lots of laughter.

OP I hope your friend thoroughly enjoys her baby shower and congratulations to her on becoming a mum.

How about a blindfolded game of "put the nappy on the baby"? You can use flannels and safety pins so you don't waste nappies.

Also, you could do a music quiz with song titles with the words baby/child/girl. Sweet Child o Mine, Baby Baby, etc etc

While we are listing things that aren't planned that wouldn't be allowed:
Leaving the 1yr alone for hours
Plastering their name and detailed background all over social media
Sending them down the mines
...

😂👍

We do birth parents the curtesy of assuming they are doing a good job unless evidence suggests otherwise, so it's logical to do the same for adoptive parents who have gone through a screening process no birth parent has to.

Clearly you have some personal issues around adoption, you cannot apply them to the universal experience of adoption.

You also should not spread your misery around like this - go get some therapy if you can't find another way to manage yourself.

Another game you can do is write the title of a song on a card and pin /tape the card to each guest's back. Different song title per person.Tailor the song to be Baby-themed titles (Modern to classic). Each person has to guess the song by asking others to hum it or whistle it to them.
If the person asked doesn't know the song they have to sing something silly really loudly or do a crazy dance. The person who guesses their song in the least number of guesses wins a prize. Have a fun tie-breaker if needed: name songs and each person has to sing a line, first one who can't loses. If someone doesn't guess their song card after asking everyone they can start again, pay a "penalty" into a piggy bank for dc, or just help with clues. You can tailor the game to suit. I've seen variations of this game at three different parties (2 bridal showers -shots were the penalty-and one Christmas party).
Prizes are tokens: coffee cards, bath bombs, mini bottles, lip balm etc.
You can also auction one sit-out of a game with money to dc's piggy bank. 😺(but no party poopers... one sit-out only for a person).

The idea of not celebrating children joining a family is horrifically sad

It really is. Enjoying something doesn't mean it isn't being taken seriously.

@CraftyC and remember to take a group pic for the mum to put in her dc's memory book! 😊

I am loving how certain miserable bastards on here (who are clearly being goady cunts) are getting their arses handed to them.

Sounds like a lovely idea op, a new family member and a new mother is a time to
celebrate and look to the future in hope.

When my niece was adopted we bought photo frames with “family” on them for the new parents, plus age appropriate toys and books (niece was 14 months) and we had a family Chinese and drinks (before she arrived) she’s 17 now and doing marvellously and is loved and adored by us all.

@Bakersdozens If you've been adopted, why would you not want your Mum, Grannys, Auntes, friends, to celebrate you coming into their lifes?
Basically thats what a Baby / Adoption Shower is celebrating? The Mum to Be becoming a Mum and the hopes and dreams for the future that a child coming into any family represents.

It's a bit of a fun celebration before Mum gets sleep deprived and knee deep in nappies.

Bit like Hen Do is a bit of silliness and fun before the serious business of the wedding and marriage.

Adoption might be challenging but someone has made a decision that the child is not safe in the birth parents care.
Adoption has to be better than state care.

And the point of Adoption has to be full of hope, love and faith just the same as a marriage. Nobody goes into marriage thinking it might not work out.