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Would you offer to pick up your sister?

222 replies

aiceineonderlsnd · 29/12/2023 07:54

My sister is coming to see me today.
We are going for afternoon tea at a hotel in my village.
It's a 25 min drive to her house but she doesn't drive so will need to get a bus and a train then I pick her up from Durham train station .
We are meeting at 3 but she has said to catch connecting train she has to leave her house at 1pm.
I think the bus takes half hour then the train 1 hour.
Honestly I just can't be bothered driving 25 mins to pick her up and then 25 mins back home to the hotel we are going too.
Is that terrible?
I don't mind driving to Durham train station as it's only 5 -10 mins away
It's pretty windy today and forecast some showers so I think she's Hinting for a lift.
I've just replied saying okay will let you get sorted
Drop me a text when your nearly in Durham

OP posts:
zingally · 29/12/2023 10:36

I'd pick my sister up without a thought.

Don't be so mean.

PleaseBeADecentYear2024 · 29/12/2023 10:37

25 minutes is nothing and it's nice chatting time. I'd do it. If you can't do both, at least do one way.

My DD is an hour away in one direction in ideal traffic. We often do it so she meets me somewhere and I take her home afterwards. It makes it easier for both of us.

LaurieStrode · 29/12/2023 10:39

She could drive but chooses not to? That changes things for me.

LakieLady · 29/12/2023 10:43

I'd pick her up, too. A 2-hour journey to spend a few hours together is madness.

jolies1 · 29/12/2023 10:45

I would absolutely pick her up and let her get the train home… she’s coming out to somewhere convenient to you and it’s less than an hour round trip, don’t be soft. She’s got a long journey back and you can walk home.

BubbleBubbleBubbleBubblePop · 29/12/2023 10:45

Is there a specific reason that you're going to a hotel so close to you but so far from her?

BardRelic · 29/12/2023 10:48

I'd pick my sibling up but that's in the context of our relationship. I've gone through long periods of not driving due to nerves so I understand what that's like. And my sibling and I help each other out fairly routinely. It's not as if any of it feels one-sided or like the other one is taking advantage. So yes, I'd either have organised a place more convenient for them to get to, or I'd have offered to pick them up.

If the OP's sister has a history of expecting lifts and never returning favours I could understand the attitude. Otherwise, it's just churlish.

Growlybear83 · 29/12/2023 10:49

I think it would be extremely mean not to pick your sister up, and if it was me I would only have one drink so that I was able to take her home again. When you drive, it's easy to forget how long and awkward public transport journeys can be.

Ulysees · 29/12/2023 10:49

@aiceineonderlsnd what's the initial of the hotel? Sounds like you live near me?
I'm on the fence as it is very windy today. I have to drive for work but wouldn't otherwise.

LoveFridayNights · 29/12/2023 10:51

Don't be so mean. Pick her up. I drive 25 mins to our local town to go shopping!

kitsuneghost · 29/12/2023 10:51

I would be picking her up and if it was late she would be staying at mine.
Though she would need to public transport tomorrow as I don't drive the day after drinking.

fromhellsheartistabatthee · 29/12/2023 10:53

I wouldn't. Adults should take responsibility for their own travel arrangements.

DrMarshaFieldstone · 29/12/2023 10:54

kitsuneghost · 29/12/2023 10:51

I would be picking her up and if it was late she would be staying at mine.
Though she would need to public transport tomorrow as I don't drive the day after drinking.

Even if the drinks are at afternoon tea?

Topofthemountain · 29/12/2023 10:55

Justwanttocomment · 29/12/2023 10:00

A train from Bishop Auckland to Durham can be two trains and 50mins. I’m now far too invested in wondering where they both live.

If she was in Bishop, she'd be better just catching a bus. The likes of Middlesbrough could be an hour plus to get to Durham on public transport and if she was south of Durham could just about do it in that.

Lilithlogic · 29/12/2023 11:01

margotrose · 29/12/2023 08:36

The sister can drive and has a license, she's just choosing not to.

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Do you not believe in phobias, the sister is frightened to drive after a accident!

Vistada · 29/12/2023 11:05

I'd pick her up!

Making her do a 3hr round trip when you can condense it to 50 mins - come on now...

i get youd be going out of your way but sometimes its nice to be nice.

ElinorDashwood68 · 29/12/2023 11:06

Compromise - pick her up, have your drinks then she can make her own way home

Highlyflavouredgravy · 29/12/2023 11:07

God you are so out of order! Pick her up fgs!

Borth · 29/12/2023 11:07

25 mins is nothing. I’d pick her up.

SideshowAuntSallyx · 29/12/2023 11:08

LaurieStrode · 29/12/2023 10:39

She could drive but chooses not to? That changes things for me.

Depends how serious the accident was, when it happened and whether she has any lingering injuries that along with the knock in confidence would put anyone off driving.

I know when I had whiplash driving was painful.

mottytotty · 29/12/2023 11:09

Highlyflavouredgravy · 29/12/2023 11:07

God you are so out of order! Pick her up fgs!

You don’t even know the history and you’re calling OP out of order.

For all we know OP always has to pick up her sister because she always hints for a lift (as she is doing now) and is rightly fed up.

Highlyflavouredgravy · 29/12/2023 11:13

I don't need to know the history. I would drive 25 minutes for a colleague never mind my sister

FlowerFiend · 29/12/2023 11:17

You are mean
Dont drink, and take her home.
Drink when you are at home.
Very mean, and it’s pouring with rain and cold

mottytotty · 29/12/2023 11:18

Highlyflavouredgravy · 29/12/2023 11:13

I don't need to know the history. I would drive 25 minutes for a colleague never mind my sister

Would you do it every time you socialised with your colleague?

mottytotty · 29/12/2023 11:21

FlowerFiend · 29/12/2023 11:17

You are mean
Dont drink, and take her home.
Drink when you are at home.
Very mean, and it’s pouring with rain and cold

So not only does the sister get picked up she gets to drink whilst OP doesn’t?

You are mean.