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Teenagers and NYE

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chatenoire · 13/12/2023 08:48

Some very good family friends have invited us to their NYE party. Obviously we'd love to go, but our 13yo DD has decided that she's not coming.

I can't force her so the only options are that she stays at home or we stay at home with her. Neither option sounds ideal, so I really don't know what to do.

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Boomboom22 · 17/12/2023 20:21

Can't she just use her switch in the granny flat then?

Vodkafairy99 · 17/12/2023 20:38

Ummmmm, she's 13. If you are going to a party, she should be going to - why would you even give her the choice of coming or not given you don't have any alternative care arrangements?? 🤷‍♂️
Either she comes with you or you all stay home. 13 is just a bit young to leave alone on NYE.

Goldiemummy · 18/12/2023 11:18

I personally wouldn't leave my child of 13 on NYE. I would feel so guilty, I wouldn't enjoy the party at all.

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LuckySantangelo35 · 18/12/2023 11:44

Goldiemummy · 18/12/2023 11:18

I personally wouldn't leave my child of 13 on NYE. I would feel so guilty, I wouldn't enjoy the party at all.

@Goldiemummy

so you’d just tell them they had to go with you then presumably so that you don’t miss out on the party.

LuckySantangelo35 · 18/12/2023 11:45

MrsSkylerWhite · 17/12/2023 08:26

chatenoire · 13/12/2023 09:53

Yeah, I've suggested she takes her switch, but then she says she'd rather be at home with the cat (which is fair enough as she absolutely adores our kitty cat).”

So would I. Dragging a child to an adult party they’re not interested in isn’t fair. If she couldn’t stay with a friend, I would decline.

@MrsSkylerWhite

thats you. But some people actually like going out and going to parties. Op sounds like one of those people. Why should OP miss out?

GrandTheftWalrus · 18/12/2023 11:57

I don't see why people are fixating on her drinking blue curaçao. It's perfectly legal to give a child over 5yo alcohol at home. And many other 13yo are vaping/getting drunk in parks. If she has one with lots of lemonade there is no problem with that. Not like the OP is giving her a litre of vodka!

MrsSkylerWhite · 18/12/2023 12:47

LuckySantangelo35 · Today 11:45

MrsSkylerWhite · Yesterday 08:26

chatenoire · 13/12/2023 09:53

Yeah, I've suggested she takes her switch, but then she says she'd rather be at home with the cat (which is fair enough as she absolutely adores our kitty cat).”

So would I. Dragging a child to an adult party they’re not interested in isn’t fair. If she couldn’t stay with a friend, I would decline.
@MrsSkylerWhite
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thats you. But some people actually like going out and going to parties. Op sounds like one of those people. Why should OP miss out

Because when you have children, their needs trump your wants. A 13 year old can’t be left alone and forcing them to an adult NYE party is wrong. How do you even do that, anyway ? Drag them, kicking and screaming.

cardibach · 18/12/2023 13:08

@MrsSkylerWhite you haven’t read much/any if the thread have you?
It’s not an adult party, it’s a family party.
In any case the DD is going as there’s a granny flat she can go to and do exactly what she’d have done at home if she doesn’t enjoy it.

Goldiemummy · 18/12/2023 13:11

If they were adamant they didn't want to go, I wouldn't force them and I wouldn't go to the party. We would do something else together.

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