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Future sister in law won’t let me put the tree up till Sunday!!

506 replies

Yellink · 01/12/2023 14:23

I wanted to put my Christmas tree up either yesterday or today as it would have been the easiest days for me to put it up but on Wednesday my fiancé and I were at the pub talking about Christmas decorations and she told us we shouldn’t put up the Christmas tree until Advent Sunday because that’s the tradition and that’s how they do it in their family. I told her Thursday or Friday would be easier for me but she got shirty and told me if I’m marrying into the family I must stick to their Christmas traditions. I know how their family are with their traditions but I’m annoyed they’ve got a problem with me putting it up when I want to though. I didn’t put it up yesterday because I saw her walking past the house twice in the afternoon and evening to check I haven’t put it up!

I don’t know whether to put it up today or do it on Sunday even though I’m busy to avoid the confrontation with his family! I don’t want confrontation or an atmosphere at the Christmas party next Sunday!

OP posts:
devildeepbluesea · 01/12/2023 14:25

Clearly the answer to this is: do what the fuck you like!

Oldraver · 01/12/2023 14:26

If you want to do then do

If you allow her to dictate 'traditions' it won't ever end

Stresa22 · 01/12/2023 14:26

But surely your fiancé is also marrying into your family and should abide by their traditions? OR, you could just be strong and do what works for you!

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endofthelinefinally · 01/12/2023 14:26

She sounds an absolute nightmare. Is he worth it? Will he support you in the decisions you make? These things are important.

Strugglingtodomybest · 01/12/2023 14:26

Will there really be a confrontation about when you've put your Christmas tree up in your own house?

If so,, I would run away from that family as fast as possible!

MargaritaHargitaysLittleSister · 01/12/2023 14:27

What ? That's mental. Your house, your rules, YOUR traditions. Tell her where to go

KateLawsonDidIt · 01/12/2023 14:27

Set the boundaries on this and other things right now and put up the tree asap.

This will be thin end of the wedge.....

piperpheobepruepaige · 01/12/2023 14:27

Is this your house? or are you sharing with SIL?

Peridot1 · 01/12/2023 14:27

I would seriously have laughed at her. And then gone home and put it up straight away.

DancingDangerously · 01/12/2023 14:28

Uhm surely this is made up?

Why on earth would you let your SIL dictate to you like that??

Don't be so silly. Put your tree up when it suits you.

KateLawsonDidIt · 01/12/2023 14:28

Id want to put up lots of fuck off bright lights outside to make the point but I'm bloody minded

gamerchick · 01/12/2023 14:28

Fucking hell. Put it up man! Nip this boss over you shit in the bud.

Go on. Dooooo it OP.

Soontobe60 · 01/12/2023 14:28

Are you an adult? With your own house? And own money? If so, what are you letting another woman whom you do not live with control the decisions you make?
Apart from that, YABU putting up Christmas decorations so early - ours go up mid December if I can be bothered 😂😂🎄

KateLawsonDidIt · 01/12/2023 14:28

Maybe it's a reverse

TheDuck2018 · 01/12/2023 14:28

Ignore. Put the tree up. Smile sweetly if she says anything. Tell her to mind the fuck out of your business if she carries on. Enjoy looking at your beautiful tree 🎄

Hatty65 · 01/12/2023 14:29

I'd put it up and drape it with every single light I could manage and fling open the curtains, hoping she walked past. It would shout "TA DA!!" (Or Fuck You!) at her...

The correct response at the time was to laugh and say, "Jonathon and I will make our own traditions once we're married. I'm certainly not marrying into a dictatorship, Alison".

HTH.

Verybadbride · 01/12/2023 14:29

Really fuck with them and don't put it up til next Friday now

Morechocmorechoc · 01/12/2023 14:30

Put up everything you have. If you're seriously going to ve dictated to in this way for these kind of little things you're in for a stressful.marriage.

ChilledToTheBone · 01/12/2023 14:30

Tell her to sod off! Your tree, you will do as you wish. She can do as she wishes.

OnAir · 01/12/2023 14:31

Get the inflatable dinosaur from Homebase pride of place out the front as a huge fuck you ?

www.homebase.co.uk/6ft-rexy-the-dinosaur-with-gift-christmas-outdoor-inflatable-decoration/14510492.html?out-of-stock-alternative

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 01/12/2023 14:31

Tell her that your dh is marrying into YOUR family and she has to abide by your traditions that you put the tree up today. You fully expect her and the rest of the family to abide by your tradition of putting it up today. There is also a tradition where SIL has to bring you lots of cake as the bride to be. You expect the cake by dusk on your doorstep.

isthewashingdryyet · 01/12/2023 14:31

There is a poster on here who has a 6’ giant Christmas dinosaur, she does not want. I’d buy it off her, and put it in the front garden just to really annoy your SIL.

she is NOT the boss of you, so don’t let her think she is or your married life will be horrendous

Postpost · 01/12/2023 14:31

I'd put it up. I'd also go out an buy loads of blow up stuff for the garden and get that up as well just to piss her off

ActDottie · 01/12/2023 14:31

devildeepbluesea · 01/12/2023 14:25

Clearly the answer to this is: do what the fuck you like!

This it has absolutely nothing to do with her

Missingmyusername · 01/12/2023 14:31

Does she own your house? Is she the landlord or something?
Put your damn tree up.

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