Tonight I’m handing in my notice with immediate effect.

[TheLightSideOfTheMoon]

I’m so miserable here.

The job requires me being in two different places at once (today it was three).

I’m totally unsupported.

The person who works below me hangs around outside smoking for most of the day.

My job is largely dependent on other people doing things, if they don’t do it I can’t do my job, but I get moaned at if it’s not done.

Everyone says my name wrong.

It’s just awful. Been here three hours and I’ve already cried.

So, once my day is over I’m emailing that I won’t be coming back.

Any tips?

I have done care work and was staggered by the lack of care I saw. It really shocked me and I wondered if I was just being naive. The amount of bullshit from staff who liked saying how wonderful they were while standing around chatting with their friends (or smoking in your colleagues case) was also mind-blowing. This is the reality of the job that no one wants to talk about, and there is always a scapegoat who is actually working, in this situation you are it. I hope you move onto a better place, but don't assume you won't still come across this level of crap, because unfortunately it is rife.

i get it, it’s hard isn’t it! You’ll be ok these days will soon go xx

She’s still not bloody responded.

What do I do?

(And please don’t say go and talk to her like an adult because clearly I cannot…)

I would copy it to her boss, pointing out when you gave your notice and stating that that is the situation, say you’re disappointed not to have heard back from her but it still stands. She’s very rude and unprofessional!

Ignore her same as she's ignoring you. She's a shite boss of a shite care home - you're not going to get a response. She's not going to discuss it with you, she CBA.

I'd guess you've been hounded out because by working hard and doing the job properly you're showing the rest of them up for the lazy arseholes they are. Easiest way to fix that is to get rid of you, then it goes back to everyone being the same and able to complain they've not enough time to do whatever, with nobody there proving them wrong and showing up their lies.

You're not even out of probation yet, but I suspect if you'd worked there 20yrs the company still wouldn't value you and they don't give a damn that you're leaving. So just stop. Stop trying to do things properly. Stop trying to be a good employee. Stop trying to be professional.

What suits you best? If it's getting up and leaving right now and letting them fire you for not showing up, do that.

If it's staying and slacking off so you can still get paid, do that. Ignoring any moaning about your competency. Just listen, apologize if necessary, then carry on as you were. Don't take any of it seriously because it's not about you, it's about them wanting a scapegoat. Their words can't hurt you and you'll be gone in a few days.

If going sick suits you best, do that - it doesn't matter if they believe you or not, you just say you're sick and going home then continue to phone in sick each day until your notice is up. Or you could go off sick this afternoon and return tomorrow, if you feel up to it. Get the GP to sign you off if you don't want to be constantly phoning in sick.

You have choices, pick one. Just don't pick one that relies on anyone else who works there doing their job properly, because that isn't going to happen.

Can you think of someone you know who's confident and act as if you're them? You'll feel much better about yourself and get more respect if you stand up to people like her

Sending you strength 🙏

How old are you? I can ring pretending to be your mam 😂 I'll get her told!

So, plot twist.

I have explosive diarrhoea.

I’ve taken loperamide but am essentially toilet bound. At work.

Does it get more tedious?

I am 42.

Too old for my mum to call for me…

You have my sympathies, I worked as an admin in a care home and It was the worst job I have had in my 35 years employed. I handed in my weeks notice and agreed with the Manager to work an extra week to help her out. I made sure that I did this all within my probation period of 6 months as if I had gone one day over it would have been a months notice, and this job nearly broke me, and I have had some shit jobs with shit employers over the years.

The area manager came up to see me to tell me I had to work a months notice infact she said it was 3 months notice, unfortunately for her I had already checked my contract that quite clearly said a week so I gave them a week.

In reply to this she went into my office, pulled off all the files on my desk threw them all over the floor and said clean up that mess.

This was the straw that broke the camels back so to speak, not the working 5 hours extra for 3 days in a row (unpaid), not getting any lunch breaks, not having a uniform and getting told off daily for not having a uniform (one was not ordered for me). So I said no you made the mess you clean it up, picked up my bag and car keys and walked out, as my notice period had actually ended the week before and I was only working this week to help out the manager.

I would never work in the care industry again.

Well at least theyll know at work you're being genuine and should be sent home. I know you'll lose an amount of earnings, but maybe for the best all things considered. Hope you manage to get home okay and hear soon from the other job.

There’s always been a lot of angry people in the care industry.

Maybe there’s angry people everywhere, but I’ve only really done care.

The thing is, to the public it’s all nice artwork, nice uniforms, fresh coffee, etc.

People don’t get to see the real thing.

Yes I'd be older sister anyway 😉

Get yourself home it could be novovirus?

No one thinks that of the care industry.

If you’re really diligent why on mumsnet when you are at work.

You need to check you’ve tendered your resignation correctly.

Wow.

Hope you're ok x

Yeah, hope you're okay OP. Bit of a randomly unhelpful and unpleasant post a few up! I'd ignore that if I were you!

I’m good!

They accepted my resignation and are paying me quite a hefty amount of holiday that’s owed. So that’s nice!

I have four days left. Today was actually fine - I didn’t even cry!

Just trying to get all of the paperwork together to make it easier for the next person. Which is luckily making the time speed by.

Excellent news! Well done you!!

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon that's wonderful!

It is.

It’s been an excellent Friday 13th.

Friday the 13th is my lucky day. 13 my lucky number.
So glad it's been lucky for you too! 🙂

So pleased for you TheLightSideOfTheMoon, onwards and upwards!

I’m halfway through my remaining 6 days.

Clawing my way to the end of each day.

I’ve been journaling through the rough moments and treating myself at the end of each day.

Well done for keeping going, @TheLightSideOfTheMoon - think of the relief at the end of your last day! I hope your new job is much, much, better than this one!