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Tonight I’m handing in my notice with immediate effect.

202 replies

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 10/10/2023 11:54

I’m so miserable here.

The job requires me being in two different places at once (today it was three).

I’m totally unsupported.

The person who works below me hangs around outside smoking for most of the day.

My job is largely dependent on other people doing things, if they don’t do it I can’t do my job, but I get moaned at if it’s not done.

Everyone says my name wrong.

It’s just awful. Been here three hours and I’ve already cried.

So, once my day is over I’m emailing that I won’t be coming back.

Any tips?

OP posts:
AutumnDay90 · 10/10/2023 11:56

Go home sick and leave now.

How long have you worked there? Have you been searching for other jobs can you afford/cope with no income till you find something else?

Sorry your in this situation

DemelzaandRoss · 10/10/2023 12:01

Yes, you clearly have a bad headache(!).
Need to go home immediately.
Good luck with your next job.

Original poster
TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 10/10/2023 12:02

I have another job lined up, just waiting for DBS etc.

I can’t leave now, I don’t wish to make a scene. I just want to slip out quietly. And I finish at 5pm - I can cope with that.

But I can’t come back. My MH is a shambles because of this job.

OP posts:
Moveoverdarlin · 10/10/2023 12:04

Draft the resignation email now. Read it through a few more times today. Be precise, polite and wish them well. Deep breaths, hit send at 5pm on the dot (or whenever your shift ends) and then breathe a massive sigh of relief. I did the same last year but I rang. Best thing ever.

EmmaEmerald · 10/10/2023 12:06

Why stay till 5? Is it sunny? Hope you’re okay

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 10/10/2023 12:07

It’s not sunny.

I don’t have the balls to walk out.

OP posts:
stayathomer · 10/10/2023 12:09

Is your manager there so you can talk to them? Best of luck op, try and have a good last day x

WinterDeWinter · 10/10/2023 12:09

please mention the impact on your mental health of the unrasonable demands

needtonamechangeforthis1 · 10/10/2023 12:12

You don't have to make a scene.

Just put your things in your back.

Take a deep breath

Stand up and walk out.

Believe me it's the most liberating thing you can do! I have experience!

needtonamechangeforthis1 · 10/10/2023 12:12
  • bag not back!
DawsonWins · 10/10/2023 12:13

I agrée with PP.

Go home now with a migraine.
If needed, go and see your GP and ask to go on sick leave die to MH issues (and that wouldn’t be lying either).

Wait until your have confirmation all is good with the other job and hand your notice in.

They dont care about you when working so why should you be careful about them? Protect yourself first and foremost.

EarlofShrewsbury · 10/10/2023 12:13

Just leave, it's extremely liberating!

purplecorkheart · 10/10/2023 12:17

You don't have to make a big deal walking out. You can do it quite discretely type your letter now and email it to yourself. Pop your bits into your bag and get up. If someone asks you where you are going say you are going to lunch/ venue 2 etc. Once in your car/at bus stop/ walked a bit away send your email and then switch your phone off. Go and do something nice for the afternoon like have a coffee and cake and watch the world go by.

DemelzaandRoss · 10/10/2023 12:18

Life really is too short. Go home & Email your notice & reasons for leaving.
When home put the kettle on, have a nice drink & relax until you need to do what you normally have on in the late afternoons.
Do this for you. Sounds like you’ve had a torrid time.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 10/10/2023 12:18

purplecorkheart · 10/10/2023 12:17

You don't have to make a big deal walking out. You can do it quite discretely type your letter now and email it to yourself. Pop your bits into your bag and get up. If someone asks you where you are going say you are going to lunch/ venue 2 etc. Once in your car/at bus stop/ walked a bit away send your email and then switch your phone off. Go and do something nice for the afternoon like have a coffee and cake and watch the world go by.

This, OP. Piss off at lunchtime and sit in the park/coffee shop/pub.

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 10/10/2023 12:19

Tell them you’re taking a smoke break to the amount of time equivalent your colleague. Then don’t go back.

OrangesLemonsLimes · 10/10/2023 12:21

Head home, OP. You’ll feel better. Email tonight, a polite and factual email.

ErcolSofa · 10/10/2023 12:22

Lots of poor advice
dont leave as that would be gross misconduct and dismissal

if you have a job where you require a dbs then work history matters and dismissal may have to be declared as part of a recruitment

JustOneMoreSec · 10/10/2023 12:22

Hand in your notice and get signed off with MH issues tomorrow. That way you'll still get a salary (depending on your sickness policy) and you won't have to work!

Trenda · 10/10/2023 12:25

Dont just walk out. Let your manager know you are sick with a migraine type headache and have to go home. Get signed off by your gp during the coming week and then resign. No need to do yourself out of wages when its the job that making you feel terrible.
So no need for dramatics -but you can enjoy today as a bonus afternoon and have time for recovery before your next job starts.

VeridicalVagabond · 10/10/2023 12:26

Want me to ring you and fake an emergency, I've done that for a mate before!

You don't have to walk out all dramatically, just say "I've got a really bad migraine and need to go home" or "There's a family emergency and I need to leave at once" then go enjoy the rest of your day off, send your notice at 5pm on the dot and breathe.

Silvers11 · 10/10/2023 12:26

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon Personally, I wouldn't resign until I have got definite confirmation about the other job. BUT

What I WOULD do, though, is pack up all my personal things, knowing that I won't be coming back. Tell them that you are sick and need to go home ( or if you can still leave for your lunch, better still, then email them to say you are sick and tell them you won't be back this afternoon)

Then I would see a GP about a sick note ( if you need to and don't hear about the new job for more than another 7 days), for depression, anxiety and stress. Then I would continue to stay off sick until I had my new job confirmed You absolutely should be not be in at work feeling the way you do and you are legitimately suffering. No decent GP will refuse, if you are honest with them about the way you feel

They might will not give you a good reference if you just walk, so wait until you are sure about the new job. The last thing you need is for them to accuse you for gross misconduct, or whatever

DawsonWins · 10/10/2023 12:26

ErcolSofa · 10/10/2023 12:22

Lots of poor advice
dont leave as that would be gross misconduct and dismissal

if you have a job where you require a dbs then work history matters and dismissal may have to be declared as part of a recruitment

I agrée.

The OP is much better off going in sick leave until things are sorted on her side.
If she has in her notice today, she’ll still have to work her notice etc…. Which she is clearly not in the position to do due to her MH (which I reiterate IS a good enough reason to ask for sick Leave from her GP)

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon how much notice do you need to give according to your contract?

Floooooof · 10/10/2023 12:27

Going sick is a good plan, you only have to keep them on side for a short while until you can start your new job. Go home with a migraine and plan yourself a treat evening with a nice dinner and a long bath x

DawsonWins · 10/10/2023 12:31

Also do you have some left over holidays you need to take?

Just another way to extend the time you are away from this work whilst you sort things out with the new job.

At your place, I’d use all the ways to buy me time until I can ‘safely’ leave - aka do it according to the rules.

I wouldn’t tell them why (awful company!) if you dint want to aggro. You’d only have to tell them you have a new job. Any question asked: it fits better with my own objectives. That’s it.