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howcanhedothis18 · 2023-07-19T18:11:56+00:00

Hi guys! Hope your all well. Just wanted to let the people that have supported me let them know I’m still hanging on there. Went see solicitors today went ok and also had some face to face with knobhead.

Fraaahnces · 30/07/2023 07:44

Make sure you don’t have any location services enabled on phones, iPads, laptops, etc. Make sure there is nothing identifiable on screen for ppl to work out where you are. If you call or FaceTime m, make sure to advise KH or PIL, etc, at the beginning that you will be recording every call, they must not probe the kids for information about where they are living and that you will be standing by to hang up immediately if that happens. Maybe the kids could start calling your Granny by a new nickname like “Mimi” or “Lulu” or something. That would help if they slip up and accidentally refer to her by name. (Obviously work that out with Gran).

Poppercorn · 02/08/2023 23:48

Hope you're ok OP as you have stopped posting.

Hoping the move went smoothly for you.

Darkandstormynite · 03/08/2023 07:40

@howcanhedothis18

Me too, really hope you're safely settled in at your Gran's house, and that you and the kids are doing well x

ohsuzannah · 03/08/2023 13:51

Today is the first day of the rest of your life OP!
Good luck 🤗

adriftinadenofvipers · 03/08/2023 15:25

@howcanhedothis18 hope you are safe and well xx

IDontLikePinaColadas · 03/08/2023 20:27

Was thinking of you today following your big move. Hope you’re all ok. Xxx

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howcanhedothis18 · 06/08/2023 19:58

Hey everyone! Hope everyone is well. Sorry I haven’t posted in a few days so
much has gone on but haven’t forgot you guys I promise!

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howcanhedothis18 · 06/08/2023 20:07

So move has been done, I’m so grateful for my grandma, bless her so much. PIL are really upset with me(well MIL is) as I haven’t told them where I’ve moved. I had to put me and kids first so it had to be done. Told them I am forever grateful for all their help but I need to do this as I have to focus on moving forward.

KH has moved in with PIL as we are selling our home which I’m gutted about but that’s my only option. KH went to visit OW(sil told me) and he tried work things out there but she has told him she wants nothing do with him, she is now in the process of a divorce from her husband.

everyone lives have been destroyed and turned upside down but hopefully I making a fresh start with the kids. KH has said he won’t fight for the kids as he has no idea how to even look after them. He sent me a email which felt like he meant it. I wish him the best still in life but my chapter with him has now closed. I forgive and I will forget him x

thank you everyone x

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richteaftw · 06/08/2023 20:35

Well done, lovely. You've done so well. Proud of you x

Darkandstormynite · 06/08/2023 20:40

How is your FiL doing? must be hard for him sharing a house with KH after he witnessed what his son did.

So glad you're at your Grandma's. A fresh start is exactly the right move and whilst you must be gutted to sell your house, it's good to cut that tie with KH.

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 06/08/2023 21:07

I am do glad things are improving for you and your kids xx

Beaverbridge · 06/08/2023 21:21

Good for you lovely. Wish you all the best for the future.

AcrossthePond55 · 06/08/2023 23:48

howcanhedothis18 · 06/08/2023 20:07

So move has been done, I’m so grateful for my grandma, bless her so much. PIL are really upset with me(well MIL is) as I haven’t told them where I’ve moved. I had to put me and kids first so it had to be done. Told them I am forever grateful for all their help but I need to do this as I have to focus on moving forward.

KH has moved in with PIL as we are selling our home which I’m gutted about but that’s my only option. KH went to visit OW(sil told me) and he tried work things out there but she has told him she wants nothing do with him, she is now in the process of a divorce from her husband.

everyone lives have been destroyed and turned upside down but hopefully I making a fresh start with the kids. KH has said he won’t fight for the kids as he has no idea how to even look after them. He sent me a email which felt like he meant it. I wish him the best still in life but my chapter with him has now closed. I forgive and I will forget him x

thank you everyone x

Your post is the epitome of maturity, grace, and wisdom. There may still be some bumpy times ahead but as you deal with the 'legalities', but you and your children are going to come out of this heart-whole and with wonderful new lives. I salute you.

And as the song says "Your future's so bright you gotta wear shades".

adriftinadenofvipers · 07/08/2023 02:47

So glad you are in a place where you can relax and feel safe.

Your ILs must understand that you are doing what you need to do - especially as they now have KH under their roof!! So the OW sent him packing too then? He deserves that! Is the OW pregnant or was that a load of nonsense?

You are a strong and gutsy lady to come through the devastation you have in the way you did. I wish you and your DC all the best in life x

1992H · 07/08/2023 08:55

Glad to hear you are moved. MIL will know deep down that you’ve done the best more for your children, she will just miss you all.

enjoy that bright future. The rest of your summer break and wishing the kids well in their new schools ❤️

Scottishskifun · 07/08/2023 09:50

Glad your safe and have settled in agree your MIL will know deep down it's for the best hope your FIL is doing OK as well that must be a tricky situation for him too.

I would speak to your solicitor about you receiving a greater share of the sale of the house given your Ex spent your joint savings gambling and for the funds to be ring fenced so he can't repeat it!

Enjoy the rest of the holidays some calm and peace.