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Angry Shouty Parents Anonymous

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Fuckingmentalme · 18/07/2023 08:57

Are you an angry shouty parent?
Are you constantly wound up?
Are you on the edge?
Do any unexpected noises that your children emit leave you twitching? Did you fail to produce perfect children who follow you like ducklings when you're out and about? Do they instead tumble out of the car shrieking war cries? Do they shriek a lot? Do they laugh in libraries? Do you have a large living room with plenty of space yet the children choose to sit practically on top of each other to do any activity and then each claim the other is annoying them?Do they ask you endless hypothetical questions? Do they repeat your answers driving you to the brink of insanity? Do they fight constantly?

If so then I do not have the answer but I am sick* of being angry and shouty. It makes me feel unwell. I want to stop today. *I'm inviting other ASPs to join me who also wish to stop. We can check in on each other and generally be nice and supportive.

I plan to separate or distract as soon as bickering or shrieking occurs. That's my plan. That's it. Wish me luck

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DomesticElf · 01/08/2023 21:30

@AnneAnon sounds tough. At least mine is still a toddler that I can pick up and transport where required if necessary. Sending 🍷

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Fuckingmentalme · 03/08/2023 07:26

AnneAnon · 01/08/2023 10:11

My people 😭

trying so hard. We are like four weeks into the school holidays here, the weather is atrocious most of the time, I have a really stressful and busy job and they won’t stop fucking fighting and they simply will not sleep.

I am really trying. But gentle approaches don’t work. I’m so tired of everything being a constant battle.

“9 could you please get in the shower?”
”in a minute”
”I’ve waited ten minutes. It’s time for your shower”
”I’m doing this”
”I asked you to tidy that up and get into the shower. Could you do it please?”
”no I don’t want to go for a shower”

this is every single fucking time.

A shouty HELLO. The constant boundary pushing is absolutely exhausting. Hoping you have some better days

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BertieBotts · 04/08/2023 07:34

Gah yes to the shower convo!!

Do you have any luck with "9, when would you like to have your shower?" "Okay, in ten minutes? Shall I set a timer to remind you?"

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UniversalTruth · 06/08/2023 11:25

@AnneAnon we have similar shower battles, would a bath be acceptable?

In our case DC has likely asd, but in case helpful to you to achieve No Shout Clean Time then we have had to accept (1) lower washing standards and (2) CleanTime has to come before other wanted thing like TV or computer time on a pre specified day (currently Saturdays and Tuesdays).

Other tip: swimming counts as Clean Time.

NinaFinch · 09/08/2023 12:10

@UniversalTruth my DTS1 (also ASD) loves a bath, and will happily spend an hour in there (and indeed did many times, when he was smaller and it was the only way to stop him tantrumming for an hour!) - DTS2 is in and out of the shower as quickly as he can. No idea why!

I hate the squabbling @AnneAnon . And the not sleeping. And the refusal to do stuff/ endless faffing. And the non stop feeding cycle - packed lunches, dinners, snacks. Oh what fun the summer holidays have been so far Confused

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