Was I wrong to bake a cake?

[KittensBeheadingPeonies]

DH and I have been on a diet (low-ish carb and limited calories) for a week and I think he’s gone insane. I’ve been very disciplined so far, DH on the other hand has been struggling and ended up eating more than he wanted on probably 4 out of 8 days. I need to lose a lot more weight than him, though, so fine for him to be a little more relaxed, IMO.

Last night I baked a (large) low-carb cheesecake. The ingredients had already been sitting in the fridge for two weeks (didn’t get round to baking the last time I had planned to) and I fancied cheesecake. DH told me he didn’t want any of my ’stupid cake' and to give it to my parents who have come up to the city for the weekend (but aren’t staying with us). Fine with me, whatever, this was kind of the plan anyways. This morning he proceeds to eat four slices of the very nice indeed cheesecake and now he’s mad at me for tempting him. He was also really annoyed that I hadn’t eaten any as yet (was planning to have some later with my parents). He’s just gone into the kitchen, cut a massive slice of cake, decorated it with berries, put it on my desk in front of me and said ’See, this is what it’s like having it right in front of your nose, let’s see if you can resist now.’ Then stormed out. Is this completely unhinged behaviour or does he have a point and I shouldn’t have baked it in the first place?

PS. I’m not the greedy husband troll (my DH is normally more sensible than me!) and English isn’t my first language before anyone jumps on my SPAG.

I love cheesecake, I’ll be round at yours shortly @KittensBeheadingPeonies.

Limiting calories and low calories are not necessarily the same thing though. I did read the OP.

YANBU. He is being a child & acted like a but if a piggy eating 4 slices; I feel I am qualified to say he is a hit of a piggy because when I could tolerate dairy I have eaten half cheese cake in one sitting & I know I was a piggy to do so but it was a hard day at work, I didn’t want to cook after work, the cheese cake was mine to eat & it was delicious.
His choice to eat 4 slices of the cheesecake - that he previously didn’t want -, you didn’t stick each slice under his nose or force feed them to him but all he has to do now is work them off.
So he threw himself off the wagon - went way further than falling with this one - but it isn’t the end of the world & he needs to get over himself!
BTW You can freeze cheesecake so the next time you make it freeze the majority, so it is out of sight if the ‘out of control’ husband, & you can take it out to enjoy when it suits you❤

Op’s opener said “low-ish carbs and limited calories”. Op had already taken care of the carb side I was just wondering if the recipe would work ( similar flavour, consistency etc) with lower fat ingredients too as this would help to limit the calories a bit more.

the Op did say low-ish carb and limited calories in her opener. She had already addressed the carb side of the recipe but I was suggesting experimenting with lower fat alternatives to full-fat cheese and cream. This would reduce the calories further as well, but only worth doing if taste and texture are still good.

No one has mentioned 'low calories' except for you.

To address the low-carb/low-cal discussion:

DH aims for proper keto with < 20g of carbs and tries to not eat more than 1500-1600 calories, I tend to land somewhere between 30-40g of carbs and <1200 calories (we're both 5'11", so this is still fairly low-cal for both of us). I’m not prepared to cut out things like carrots, onions, or beetroot, so proper keto is just too strict for me.
DH usually weighs everything he eats, I only go back to weighing stuff every now and then when weight loss stalls / I suspect my portions are getting a bit too generous again. I also have apple cider vinegar and some raw veg before every meal and the occasional camomile tea afterwards, all to flatten the glucose spike (this has made a massive difference for me - far fewer cravings and so much less hungry!). As mentioned in a previous post, this approach has worked well for both of us in the past - our problem has never really been losing weight (once we actually get sufficiently motivated) but being disciplined enough to keep it off long term. Neither of us can just eat whatever we like on keto because we are greedy pigs and would still manage to overeat and consequently not lose weight (DH has tried this for several weeks and managed to gain weight in the process!).

Re. making the cheesecake less calorific:

I’m sure you could use low-fat cream cheese instead. Personally, I’d rather eat the full-fat versions of stuff less often because it tastes just so much better. If I want to make a lighter cheesecake, I'd go German style and use quark instead of cream cheese, but that probably wouldn’t work for most MNers as the quark you can get in the UK is extremely low-fat vile tasting stuff that would ruin any cake. Has to be 20% or 40% fat quark. The former is one of my diet staples anyways (100 calories, 11g protein, 3.5g sugar) and tastes great sweet (with berries instead of Greek yoghurt) or savoury (with herbs, garlic, onion, paprika, etc).

Wierd response but I've checked back in the thread and you are wrong. But I have no desire to be pedantic and quote all the other times people have said low calorie in the thread

On the other hand maybe you are right. I did use low calories with an s on the end and other used low calorie, so who knows maybe pedantically you are correct. I really don't care enough😂

@KittensBeheadingPeonies I think he may need to adjust his approach slightly. Simply because as long as sweet/rich/higher calorie things remain forbidden he is much more likely to gorge himself - there was nothing wrong with having some of the cheesecake. He could have had a piece ever day this week after his dinner (or whenever) and he'd have been fine, as far as health/weight loss is concerned. It doesn't make sense for him to try to stick rigidly to keto if he then fucks it all up every time there's a bit of temptation around. When was the last time this actually worked for him, as in reliably feasible and sustainable for long-term eating?

(Tbf I know you didn't actually ask for advice on his eating, so feel free not to answer/discuss. Just seems really counter-productive. And I say that as someone who truly loves all foods and can easily eat loads and loads, so I do know where he's coming from on that!)

Try this 😉😄