DD12 - being scammed by friend?

[Doopersuper]

Hey, a bit of a wwyd!…and sorry, tried not to be too long but don’t want to drip feed! DD12 swims 4-5 times a week with a swim club. She & a friend have a locker that they share (we rent it on a yearly basis) so that we don’t have to worry about trailing kit around. In the locker they have their own stuff that they keep separately and a basket/bag of kit they don’t mind sharing. Friend was off for a week and in this time DD12 used a shampoo that was in the shared bag. It was in a supermarket own brand bottle. When friend returned they (and their parent) went nuts because DD had ‘stolen’ their expensive shampoo….apparently it’s a ‘designer’ brand that they had decanted into the own brand bottle and they deny leaving it in the shared section and claim dd took it on purpose (worth noting here it would not have served her hair type well in any way!). We have already stood our ground (it was ugly😬) and thought it had gone away but they’ve started demanding a replacement again after today’s training session. They want DD to give them £30!! Part of me thinks we should just give them the cash and never have dealings with them again but the other part of me is questioning what example that sets for DD - just acquiesce every time you’re accused of something wrongly?! It’s all bloody daft but has become very unpleasant which is very sad. Actually, don’t tell me what to do, just persuade me that this sort of bonkersness is rare!!

Sorry meant to say 1.5l.

Expecting to see this thread in the daily fail, of course..

I'm in the decant camp, I honestly don't believe it was £30 shampoo in a supermarket bottle in the first place.

Someone who buys £30 is never going to buy a supermarket shampoo. They might buy more standard Aussie, Tressimee etc.

And how stupid are they going to look when they start trying to argue that the replacement bottle is a budget shampoo in a posh bottle?

Judge Judy should have the final word:

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I think the point is, of course they will know full well what OP has done but won’t be able to say anything without looking even more deranged.

I'd just say no. They are being unreasonable. The shampoo was in the shared area but even so your DD didnt steal it she just used a bit so there's nothing to replace and a reasonable person wouldn't behave like this after a misunderstanding.

Lather isn’t the sign of a good shampoo, it just means they’ve added lots of sulphates.

It could be the ops dd is changing the story to avoid getting into trouble, just as it could be the friend.

Which was kind of my point. Cheap shampoos don’t tend to be sulphate free. Expensive ones much more likely. A different smelling, differently foaming product would be pretty obvious.

Ah, sorry Adobe

No no, my fault, I wasn’t especially clear in my original comment. 💐

Have to say though, I buy really nice shampoo and chop and change a lot because I feel a bit like my hair gets used to it. DH buys the cheapest stuff he can find on the shelf and his hair is always lovely and soft. There’s something rather unfair about that 😂

Further to the above conversation on sulfate free shampoo I went off to Google, what shampoos are sulfate free.

The most that popped up were fairly standard prices, and everyday brands found in the average supermarket. Then scrolling I come across Holland and Barrett £30, for 2 and a half litres, 2500ml.

If that's the bottle no wonder you'd decant it, but not a chance on this earth would I be replacing a whole bottle for a squirt.

This. Is all of this coming from the child or her mother? You need to sort it out adult to adult.
your child had an honest belief that it was supermarket shampoo. No reason to believe otherwise. Replace the supermarket shampoo and step away.

a reasonable person wouldn't behave like this after a misunderstanding

This.

Whether one or both of the girls is fibbing, no reasonable person would expect an entire bottle of expensive shampoo as a replacement for a couple of squirts, particularly when the person who used the shampoo was their child's FRIEND.

The girls' relationships is being destroyed - BY THIS MOTHER - for the sake of a few pence.

@Doopersuper what have you decided to do?

But late to the thread but just wanted to confirm that this family are claiming that their child uses £30 shampoo after swimming whilst someone else in the family has to use supermarket own shampoo 😂

Plus surely you'd do it the other way round, and keep the expensive labelled bottles to decant cheap shit into

£30 bottle of shampoo

If they insist on some repayment give them a bag of 1p pieces

Or 30 5p coins (ie 30 pieces of silver)

I’m not siding with them or saying they are right but they’ve possibly bought a 1 litre bottle of the expensive shampoo as it works out cheaper and then decanted some into the smaller supermarket bottle for taking to swimming. It’s their own fault for putting it into the shared bag though and they are being ridiculous.

The one I linked is £30 for 2.5lts and yes you'd absolutely decant that into a more normal sized bottle, esp for going swimming.

But it's absolutely ridiculous to expect anyone to pay for the full thing.

I'm starting to wonder if we have the full story, have the parents bought a mammoth sized bottle expecting it to last ages and the daughter has been letting loads of people borrow it. And constantly topping up the cheap bottle?

Or. Buy a bottle of the expensive shampoo (can you use it if your daughter can't?) and give them 5ml or so? to replace what your dd used?

I mean. FFS. If she had used the whole (decanted) bottle by squeezing it down the drain or sharing it round the entire club i could understand them wanting 30 quid.

but she used at most a small handful. And i would make sure that any discussions about the shampoo are in front of other parents. To have witnesses.

I was going to say this too. I'd absolutely do this.

Buy the shampoo they want. Find a cheap brand that looks the same and swap the contents.

Honestly, these people sound utterly mad. You make a very good point about a lesson in standing up for yourself here. Especially to nutters like this. And another point to tell your child is, they are not a thief! Not in any way so they must not worry. If anything, you have more of a case for reporting their mad behaviour to the police for harassment than they have for your child for theft as they had a honest belief that the owner of the shampoo wouldn’t mind/ had an honest belief they were entitled to use it as it was in a shared area. I think stand your ground and if they carry on get them a visit from the fuzz to explain to them how they are actually in the wrong here.