DD12 - being scammed by friend?

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Hey, a bit of a wwyd!…and sorry, tried not to be too long but don’t want to drip feed! DD12 swims 4-5 times a week with a swim club. She & a friend have a locker that they share (we rent it on a yearly basis) so that we don’t have to worry about trailing kit around. In the locker they have their own stuff that they keep separately and a basket/bag of kit they don’t mind sharing. Friend was off for a week and in this time DD12 used a shampoo that was in the shared bag. It was in a supermarket own brand bottle. When friend returned they (and their parent) went nuts because DD had ‘stolen’ their expensive shampoo….apparently it’s a ‘designer’ brand that they had decanted into the own brand bottle and they deny leaving it in the shared section and claim dd took it on purpose (worth noting here it would not have served her hair type well in any way!). We have already stood our ground (it was ugly😬) and thought it had gone away but they’ve started demanding a replacement again after today’s training session. They want DD to give them £30!! Part of me thinks we should just give them the cash and never have dealings with them again but the other part of me is questioning what example that sets for DD - just acquiesce every time you’re accused of something wrongly?! It’s all bloody daft but has become very unpleasant which is very sad. Actually, don’t tell me what to do, just persuade me that this sort of bonkersness is rare!!

they are batshit and you read a lot of batshit stories on Mnet.
Pleased that the locker sharing has ended anyway.
I'd be quite clear one more time that you are happy to pay a proportion of the price and that only. And make it clear to your DD that she made an innocent mistake and what you are suggesting is entirely reasonable.

Totally don't understand why they want a whole new bottle when presumably your dd only used a squirt. Is it because they don't want anyone else's hands anywhere near it? As I said, completely batshit.

Maybe the coach doesn't want to get involved because there is more to the story than OP knows or is sharing. It makes no sense OP's DD has managed to use her own shampoo ... except for when her friend was on holiday. And as pps pointed out what would you 'share' at swimming? They obviously didn't agree to share shampoo and you need your own goggles, towels, costumes, brushes.

I would repeatedly say to the sodding woman, loudly, that her accusing your child of being a thief is a lie, bullying and that you expect her and her daughter to stop this nonsense, NOW.

I’d be buying the posh shampoo and decanting it.

They’d be getting value shampoo back in the posh bottle. And I’d be smearing a finger’s worth of the posh stuff around the lid and neck of the bottle so that they get the smell of it should they check.

I’ve never heard the like. Tighter than bastard skin.

I use expensive shampoo and let me 5 year old use so no judgement from me on the price but the amount she used must have been tiny. Like less than £1. I have long hair and a bottle lasts me months.

I can't even imagine caring if someone used my daughters shampoo unless they poured a whole bottle down the drain! People are crazy.

Complete bollocks. It was a discount shampoo bottle, end of. If it was expensive then they should have bloody well looked after it, shouldn't they. But in any case it sounds like a big fat lie to me - who decants a posh shampoo into a big standard supermarket bottle?!

Tell the swim school your concerns and tell your DD to ignore them. They sound insane.

Was it usual for your daughter to use this shampoo?

I'm just thinking if they were both having a shower wouldn't they use their own?

Could it have somehow fallen into the shared basket?

I would want to know the exact brand and variant of the shampoo
to check out the price but I can't understand why they would decant it into a cheap bottle
a travel bottle yes
My guess is that it's actually cheap shampoo in the bottle and I would just replace with a bottle of the cheap brand
How many times did she use it?
Definitely wouldn't be paying £30.. That's extortion!

Don't share lockers.

If the shampoo was in another bottle then how on earth was your daughter supposed to know it was 'posher' stuff - stand your ground, pointing this out. You really don't need to give them any money tbh but a token amount of a couple of pounds would be as far as I would go. Apart from being silly enough to pay £30 for shampoo who then decants said shampoo into a cheap bottle without telling the person who also uses the things in the locker? (I can understand the decanting maybe so nobody else tries to steal it.....perhaps...maybe).

To ask for a full replacement when your DD used the shampoo once, is insane. The shampoo was bottled as a cheaper brand so that DD wouldn't be tempted. That alone says a lot about the so called friend. As they frequently share products from the share bin, I wouldn't offer to pay them anything. Pay for what??? There is no rational to their request. Please don't give in to this insanity. I'm guessing that left on their own, the girls will get past this pretty quickly. Wacky Mom, on the other had, should be avoided. To repeat key point, do not pay them anything.

Not saying the whole scenario isn't madness, because it is, utterly. But all you 'decant value shampoo into expensive bottle' posters, do you really think that someone who buys and uses an expensive shampoo cant tell the difference between it and Tesco Value by smell alone? And thats before the lather, which I don't imagine would be comparable.

I would stop sharing a locker with the girl. They're taking the piss.

Given the crazies are trying to pull a fast one, I wouldn't be surprised if it was Faith in Nature shampoo.It's about £29/£30 for 2.5 litres, meaning technically they would have paid £30 for shampoo. It would explain the decanting into a different bottle too. They're barmy.

NO
repeat as many times as necessary

Stand your ground over this and be really vocal about it, do not give them £30 for one use of shampoo kept in a shared space. Its nuts and sets a crap example for your daughter. It will blow over in a few weeks or a month.

I use Aveda shampure. It’s expensive, but a litre bottle lasts me months. A few squirts of a good shampoo, even the most expensive wouldn’t cost more than £1.

Disgraceful behaviour from a parent, who is demanding a new bottle!

TLDR

They are taking the p*ss.

Buy a bottle of the supermarket own brand stuff and leave it at that.

Can your daughter have her own locker?

Lots of shampoo costs £30, Bumble & Bumble for example.
How do they know your DD used any, anyway?! I wouldn’t pay anything.. they should know better. Can’t believe they even asked.

Off topic, but oh I use to love that shampoo! It was my treat 🥰

Have to admit, when I was reading this whole "comic opera" of a situation, the reactions of bothe Judge Render and Judge Judy were flashing through my mind.

*RiNDER

<screams>

😂😂😂

That’s really cheeky if they’re going that.

I buy a litre of L’Oreal salon shampoo for £20, which is the equivalent of 7 x 250ml bottles of normal L’Oreal at £3 each.