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DD12 - being scammed by friend?

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Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:08

Hey, a bit of a wwyd!…and sorry, tried not to be too long but don’t want to drip feed! DD12 swims 4-5 times a week with a swim club. She & a friend have a locker that they share (we rent it on a yearly basis) so that we don’t have to worry about trailing kit around. In the locker they have their own stuff that they keep separately and a basket/bag of kit they don’t mind sharing. Friend was off for a week and in this time DD12 used a shampoo that was in the shared bag. It was in a supermarket own brand bottle. When friend returned they (and their parent) went nuts because DD had ‘stolen’ their expensive shampoo….apparently it’s a ‘designer’ brand that they had decanted into the own brand bottle and they deny leaving it in the shared section and claim dd took it on purpose (worth noting here it would not have served her hair type well in any way!). We have already stood our ground (it was ugly😬) and thought it had gone away but they’ve started demanding a replacement again after today’s training session. They want DD to give them £30!! Part of me thinks we should just give them the cash and never have dealings with them again but the other part of me is questioning what example that sets for DD - just acquiesce every time you’re accused of something wrongly?! It’s all bloody daft but has become very unpleasant which is very sad. Actually, don’t tell me what to do, just persuade me that this sort of bonkersness is rare!!

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1of2 · 25/06/2023 23:08

Wtf am I reading?! What is wrong with some people?
Buy them some Aldi’s own at 70p and tell them to shove it up their ass!

thaegumathteth · 25/06/2023 23:13

CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt · 25/06/2023 22:47

But the supermarket own brand, tell them you actually bought the expensive one but decanted into that bottle, as they wanted an exact replacement, then block them on everything and ignore.

This is what I'd be tempted to do

BigRedsBalloon · 25/06/2023 23:24

£30??? I use expensive shampoo and it costs nowhere near that amount. I’d be inclined to call them a bunch of scammers and tell them to fuck off.

Even if their elaborate story about decanting it into a cheaper bottle is true (it’s not btw) it’s their mistake.

Thieving bitches.

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ReadingSoManyThreads · 25/06/2023 23:24

I would just ignore them. The locker sharing has ended now. You've no need to have any dealings with them. Don't let yourself be bullied by them. If you really want to give them something, I'd give them 50p to cover the small amount of shampoo used. Absolutely DO NOT give them £30. Psychos.

Cakeorchocolate · 25/06/2023 23:32

Wow people can be so ridiculous.

Their dds mistake, why on earth she felt the need to mention anything to her mum is ridiculous.
I reckon she just uses more than her mum thinks she should and mum went nuts that she needs another bottle so she blamed it on your dd using it!

I wouldn't pay.
At the most I would do what @CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt suggested!

daretodenim · 25/06/2023 23:35

If DD is being labelled a thief to everybody then I'd speak to the coach about this situation. It's gone from a globule of shampoo to bullying.

The good news is that anybody who hears them bitch and moan about your daughter using the shampoo will think they're insane - who on earth would make a massive fuss about Im some shampoo..or be stupid enough to buy their child £30 shampoo!

thaegumathteth · 25/06/2023 23:42

Btw Dd (12) has what I consider expensive shampoo and it's£5.50 for a big bottle 😂

Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 23:46

Thanks @daretodenim - I’ve spoken with the head coach. They were initially very supportive but now don’t want to get too. far involved further… to be honest I think they’re a bit concerned the crazy will turn on them! And yes, it would be great to move clubs but we already travel a fair distance to this one - another further away is just not feasible.

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MumblesParty · 25/06/2023 23:54

What reason are they giving for wanting a whole bottle when your DD only used a small amount?

Fallenangelofthenorth · 25/06/2023 23:55

What shampoo costs 30 quid PER SQUIRT! Absolutely ridiculous behaviour. I thought my daughter's purple shampoo and conditioner was expensive at 7 quid a bottle (which I buy on 3 for 2) but that lasts ages.

I did like pp suggestion though of asking the brand and decanting a squirt into the supermarket bottle. I know this is petty since you wouldn't use the rest of the bottle yourself but sometimes I enjoy being petty.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 25/06/2023 23:56

Buy them some Aldi’s own at 70p and tell them to shove it up their ass!

Or get some of that deodorant that instructs you to 'twist and push up bottom' Grin

If they really somehow did they didn't spend £600 on a bottle of mega-posh shampoo (going on your DD using say 5% of it hence the £30-worth they're claiming), there is no way on earth that they would then decant it into a cheapo nondescript bottle.

People who aren't particularly bothered pay £1 for the basic stuff; people who like the really decent niche ones might pay £5 or £10 or so; anybody genuinely paying £600 for a bottle of 'HEY EVERYBODY, LOOK AT ME AND MY FANCY RIP-OFF SHAMPOO!!!' would be taking out an advert in The Times to tell the world about it, not disguising it as Alberto Balsam from Asda!

Gagaandgag · 26/06/2023 00:07

What bloody weirdos. Just get over it! Wow. Feel really sorry for you to be dragged into this

junebirthdaygirl · 26/06/2023 00:13

I would pay . Just to get them off my back and especially off your dds back. There is a danger they will make her life miserable at swimming so give them the dam 30 and never speak to them again. They sound like they love a fight so by giving them the money you close everything down and they can get lost.
Your poor dd l hope she can continue to enjoy her swimming and move on from this.
They are 100% out of order but you can take the higher ground and make sure dd never shares one thing with their dd again.

Lemonclub88 · 26/06/2023 00:15

For satisfaction's sake I'd ask the brand, buy a bottle then decant the two dollops into a little tub in front of her.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 26/06/2023 00:20

TBH I would give them the £30 in front of witnesses, and then privately warn everyone to be careful how they interact with the family because they may be gouged at the slightest opportunity.

LuluBlakey1 · 26/06/2023 00:21

Just say no.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 26/06/2023 00:23

Actually, it would be better to buy a bottle of the actual shampoo and give that to them in front of witnesses, the scam is to get your money so they will be annoyed but unable to complain if they get the shampoo.

HealthyBBQ · 26/06/2023 00:25

The ex friend has messed up and told a lie to her mum. Her mum said she could only take the expensive shampoo if she hid it in another cheap bottle and kept it in her basket. She messed up and didn’t and her mum is such an arsehole she had to lie to her mum and say she put it in her basket. As her mum is batshit and she knew how she would react.

Id ask the name of the brand, and they need to give you that and then give her a small amount. I would tell DD that you believe her, she did nothing wrong, but you are paying it to make her life easier and that’s ok too.

Soapyspuds · 26/06/2023 00:42

£30 for so called designer shampoo.

Tell them to foxtrot oscar

Betterlatethanontime · 26/06/2023 00:45

Buy a bottle of the expensive shampoo, decant cheap stuff into it and get a locker just for DD.

DaisyQuakeJohnson · 26/06/2023 00:54

Why had it never happened before? It seems strange it only happened when she was away.
As a pp said - buy the expensive shampoo; decant it into a mini travel bottle in front of them and the coach. Avoid them from now on.

caringcarer · 26/06/2023 02:15

This is totally nuts. Who in their right minds begrudges a kid a bit of shampoo after swimming? I'm pretty sure my DS passed his bottle around half the club he got through it so quickly. I've never heard of a shampoo costing £30 a bottle. What type is it?

TwoPairsOfPantsAndAMohairVest · 26/06/2023 02:28

Aww poor girl. Must be a handmade shampoo, the recipe created by Vidal Sassoon himself. Shame they bother using such a precious shampoo at swimming isn't it?

Tell her to do one, take you to small claims court, call the police! The audacity! I'm

Hope you have all the recipts for any shower gel etc they've shared. It's in an own brand bottle but it's actually Molton Brown.
I thought people like your daughters friends mum only existed in books 🙈😂

TwoPairsOfPantsAndAMohairVest · 26/06/2023 02:31

@caringcarer I thought the same! Kerastate, Olaplex lol?