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DD12 - being scammed by friend?

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Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:08

Hey, a bit of a wwyd!…and sorry, tried not to be too long but don’t want to drip feed! DD12 swims 4-5 times a week with a swim club. She & a friend have a locker that they share (we rent it on a yearly basis) so that we don’t have to worry about trailing kit around. In the locker they have their own stuff that they keep separately and a basket/bag of kit they don’t mind sharing. Friend was off for a week and in this time DD12 used a shampoo that was in the shared bag. It was in a supermarket own brand bottle. When friend returned they (and their parent) went nuts because DD had ‘stolen’ their expensive shampoo….apparently it’s a ‘designer’ brand that they had decanted into the own brand bottle and they deny leaving it in the shared section and claim dd took it on purpose (worth noting here it would not have served her hair type well in any way!). We have already stood our ground (it was ugly😬) and thought it had gone away but they’ve started demanding a replacement again after today’s training session. They want DD to give them £30!! Part of me thinks we should just give them the cash and never have dealings with them again but the other part of me is questioning what example that sets for DD - just acquiesce every time you’re accused of something wrongly?! It’s all bloody daft but has become very unpleasant which is very sad. Actually, don’t tell me what to do, just persuade me that this sort of bonkersness is rare!!

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Rainbowqueeen · 25/06/2023 22:11

Can you suggest a compromise - find out how much the shampoo actually costs and offer 1/10 of that price. It’s not like she would have used the whole bottle.

If they won’t accept that then they are dickheads. And I’d end the locker sharing arrangement.

Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:13

@Rainbowqueeen - thank you, yes - I’ve offered to pay for what was used - they said that wasn’t good enough and they want a whole bottle!

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GoldSilverBronzeTan · 25/06/2023 22:17

Who on earth decants the good stuff into a value bottle? Bonkers

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Igmum · 25/06/2023 22:17

Unless she used a ridiculous amount of shampoo they are trying it on. They sound pretty awful anyway. You have to be pretty mean to object to a child using your shampoo. Don't pay £30. Don't share a locker.

(And what shampoos cost £30???)

BorneoBound · 25/06/2023 22:17

They are being ridiculous. Stick to your guns

SylvanianFrenemies · 25/06/2023 22:20

I would buy the shampoo and decant two portions of it into a Tupperware tub to give them. They can them top up their special bottle AND will be up a whole wash.
It goes without saying that they appear completely nuts.

Pjmasksonrepeat · 25/06/2023 22:20

They sound awful, your poor DD. Found out from them what brand etc it was and how much a bottle actually costs.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 25/06/2023 22:21

Ask which brand they claim it was. Find out the price of it. And pay the equivalent of amount she has used.

TBH, it sounds bonkers. Who would put expensive shampoo into the cheaper bottle. But I think no point of arguing with people like that. So if the bottle of shampoo really cost £30 then I would just pay for the amount she's used.
It really doesn't matter if they say it's not good enough. She hasn't used whole bottle. Why does she need to pay for the whole bottle?
And get rid of the shared locker, asap.

CatchHimDerry · 25/06/2023 22:21

Yep, they are wierdos.

Who has time for such nonsense, I’d end the lockers sharing over this

PinkFrogss · 25/06/2023 22:22

Ask what brand it supposedly is that they’ve decanted into a supermarket bottle Hmm and buy a travel size.

Does it seem mostly led by the parent or child? Your poor DD

Takealeaf · 25/06/2023 22:23

If I'd put the shampoo in the shared basket I'd be kicking myself for MY mistake not demanding the sharer replace it. Unless I was a cf......

Bournetilly · 25/06/2023 22:25

It’s not your DD fault at all if it was in the shared basket. But I’d agree to only pay for what your DD used, why should you pay for a whole new bottle when she hasn’t used that.
Then stop sharing a locker etc.

magneticmoon · 25/06/2023 22:27

No way I'd be paying.

LakeTiticaca · 25/06/2023 22:34

Massive CFs. 30 quid for a bottle.of shampoo? They must have more money than sense.
Cancel the locker agreement and don't give them a dime

BounceyB · 25/06/2023 22:37

I wouldn't pay. She's trying it on.

Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:40

Hi all, thank you - didn’t think I was that out of touch but blimey, this teeny issue has taken on the drama of a mega soap opera. It’s totally insane that they won’t take cash for the proportion used and just keep demanding a replacement bottle. I’m sorely tempted to just buy them a bottle of the supermarket brand it was in! The locker sharing has already ended - was untenable to continue after the first face off😬… Thing is - how do I even know that what they’re demanding was in the bottle in the first place?!… it’s totally crackers. And I feel awful for dd who is being labelled a ‘thief’ to all and sundry by these numbskulls.

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User505351 · 25/06/2023 22:41

How do they know she used it? And how do they know how much she used?

If they can tell you the brand and exactly how much she used I'd probably take some perverse pleasure in giving them back that exact amount in a plastic bag.

(And yes they're weird. Cancel the locker arrangement asap)

CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt · 25/06/2023 22:47

But the supermarket own brand, tell them you actually bought the expensive one but decanted into that bottle, as they wanted an exact replacement, then block them on everything and ignore.

wellingtonsandwaffles · 25/06/2023 22:47

Soap opera - fantastic OP!

Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:47

They know she used it because their dd said ‘oh, have you used my shampoo’ and dd (being honest - ‘cause she is!) said ‘yes, it was in the shared stuff so did’. The issue is not that she used it (which she did) but that she did so in good faith that it was ok for her to do so.

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Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:48

@wellingtonsandwaffles - I now have to pretend I totally intended that pun🤣

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EllaRaines · 25/06/2023 22:53

Were you the only one paying for the locker or did you go halves on it?

If you were the sole payer then tell these idiots that that you will deduct the shampoo amount from the cost of renting the locker and that they now owe you xxxx amount!

LivingDeadGirlUK · 25/06/2023 22:58

Crazy O_o how do they justify wanting a whole new bottle after she used a little bit?!

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 25/06/2023 22:58

And I feel awful for dd who is being labelled a ‘thief’ to all and sundry by these numbskulls.

If you really want to end this bs, I would ask which brand of shampoo they claim to be in that bottle, and buy the same one, and give it to them. At least you can say she isn't a thief. And if they keep demanding £30 but can't name the brand, I keep pushing them to say it. Most likely it's a lie. Humiliate her.

grumpycow1 · 25/06/2023 23:02

EllaRaines · 25/06/2023 22:53

Were you the only one paying for the locker or did you go halves on it?

If you were the sole payer then tell these idiots that that you will deduct the shampoo amount from the cost of renting the locker and that they now owe you xxxx amount!

I was thinking this!