Most areseholy thing a ‘friend’ has said to you

[Dontmissyou]

I will start.

When I was in my mid 20s I was having some relationship worries and was freaking out a bit. In retrospect they were justified 🤣. I wasn’t really one for confiding in my friends but I had a friend over for tea and confided in her.

I arranged to meet her in a week or so and she cancelled on me with an excuse and I thought nothing of it.

At a later date she randomly told me that she has cancelled on me because last time I’d seen her I’d ‘brought her down’ when telling her about my relationship worries. I was flabbergasted. I didn’t say much but think she knew she’s messed up by admitting that by my shocked face.

I stopped telling her anything of substance after that because I realised she was only a fun time friend. The relationship dissolved because amongst other things like her announcing the pregnancies of people I knew extremely vaguely after I’d just had a miscarriage, she said I kept things from her and never told her anything about my life. Erm true 🤣.

Tell me your so called friend arseholery please.

A friend who had always been very competitive with me - who's earning most, who's doing best in their career, etc. She rarely called me but when she heard I'd had a miscarriage she rang. She told me that she had something that might cheer her up which was that she was pregnant and at exactly the same stage that I would have been. I was never sure if it was just the peak of her competitiveness coming out as the ultimate one up man ship or just insensitivity. Anyway I burst into tears when I got off the phone and told DH I would never speak to her again and never have. Got pregnant quite quickly after MC with now 13 year old - none of our friend group now speak to her for various reasons so I don't know what became of her but I don't miss her at all.

Cheer me up, not her up!

2 weeks post partum my "friend" asked if I was sure the doctors hadn't left anything in there as my tummy was still so big. Said I should ask the midwife to check it out.

The very plain speaking midwife told me that the woman was a bitch and not a friend!

@Pinkrosedressforsummer

Oh my god

People are the worst! Cheer you up - oh sure! I’m sorry for your loss. I know it was a long time ago but they’re not ever forgotten 💐

Hahaha WOW. wonder if she was jealous.

That the way I spoke about my abusive ex who completely destroyed every aspect of my life ( job, friends, home, sense of self, mental health) was ‘really horrible’.

I’ve never spoken to them since.

She had a baby 2 weeks before me and boasted about how she had snapped back!

But gave me the compliment of having enough body fat to be able to breastfeed well. So perhaps she was!

Late Saturday night, sitting in friend’s garden, all drunk. My ‘friend’ said “ oh, poor Tribblesarelovely, she tries so hard to be as clever as us, but she doesn’t have a clue what’s going on bless her “.
Now, this ‘friend’ is a real brain box, went to Cambridge, successful career etc. and I always felt a bit dim in comparison. She never,ever made me feel stupid, was a steadfast friend and was always funny and kind. However, our friendship ended for me that night, that was 28yrs ago and I still remember the hurt.
Glad to say I went on to get a first class degree and had a great career myself, but still…………

🤣 wow!!!! How dare yo speak about your horrendous ex like that? 😉

My Mum died a few months ago and a friend who lives overseas phoned to express her sympathy.
Then she said that as least I had been able to spend time with my Mum when she hadn’t been able to do that as she lived so far away (completely by choice) so I was actually very lucky

What a horrible, nasty thing to say to someone. You are well rid of them. Well done you on your degree. Perhaps she was threatened by you.

Thank you xx

Wow!! People need to learn that “I’m sorry” is enough!

I had a friend who was really shitty and although I don't have many friends now, she taught me about not having shit negative people in my life.

She said my taste was shit, I love colourful, bright fun stuff.

She slgged me off to a mural friend.

She said to my boyfriend (still together 18 years later) that he was getting in the way of our friendship.

Absolute dickhead

I was with my ex for 5 and half years and he dumped me by text - I went to a festival with some friends and one of my friends had just been ghosted by a guy she’d been on two dates with. She told me I shouldn’t be as upset as her as I knew I was getting dumped but she didn’t know she was getting ghosted. (I mean 5 and a half years versus 2 dates does NOT compare) - my other friends were speechless haha!

Many years ago when I was absolutely broke with a baby in a house without even carpets or curtains, I saved, I hunted down bargains & did the work myself while my baby napped to create a beautiful nursery.

It was really really nice & it wasn't that cheap either - I'd spent over a thousand on bits & put in over a hundred hours of work.
You wouldn't have guessed I was living on supermarket brand ready brek to get the money to do it.

'Friend' walks in with her Gucci bag in her Chanel ballet flats, looks around & says

"Just imagine how nice it would have been if you had any money".

I was speechless.
Why say that?

On my divorce papers , my ex said that had my lump in my breast had been cancer , he'd would have been willing to stay with me ( said to prove he was a kind reasonable man ! )

"Well, you never got to really be a mother, did you? So you don't really get it the way we do." when she and another friend were talking about the woes of newborns keeping you up all night and I tried to commiserate.

I had my daughter at 16, she's just now had her first child in her mid 30's. She often makes little jabs like this at me but I don't really care, my daughter is a wonder and I'm glad I had her so young.

My daughter is now a young adult, an attractive young woman with good career prospects and a nice b/f.
As a young teen she did have a rather awkward gawky phase as she grew taller, and had elaborate train-track braces on her top and bottom teeth. She has always been socially reserved, like her dad.
A friend remarked 'Well Veronica, you'd be the first to admit that your daughter is no oil painting!'
I was rather hurt, although I can laugh about it now as she is so utterly transformed.
Ugly ducklings...swans....etc

Friend had had her baby about 6 months before and on her first night out after said she'd rather sit next to our other friend in a pub instead of me as she was a mother as well and I wasn't so I wouldn't understand. Understand what I'm not sure. Plus she knew I'd had an early miscarriage the month before which made it even nicer....

Only a few weeks after my brother was killed, a friend said she felt bereaved because she was no longer pregnant. She had a perfectly healthy new baby. It was her second child so not like she hadn’t already experienced the “change” from being pregnant to having a new born.

My dad had just died and I got together with 2 friends just after the funeral. For some reason they started talking about Father's Day of all things.

It was the first week of January 🤷🏻‍♀️ arseholes.

"Imagine if your mum died and you hadn't seen her first because you were 'following the rules'". This was a few months after my dad died in a care home and I was prevented from seeing him because of Covid. He couldn't see any of us, only my brother and was telling me he was dying to see his granddaughter my DD.

I was once talking to a friend about a mutual friend of ours whose teen dd was very into horse riding. "I used to ride," I said, to which my friend replied: "Ah yes, but she's talented" !!