Most areseholy thing a ‘friend’ has said to you

[Dontmissyou]

I will start.

When I was in my mid 20s I was having some relationship worries and was freaking out a bit. In retrospect they were justified 🤣. I wasn’t really one for confiding in my friends but I had a friend over for tea and confided in her.

I arranged to meet her in a week or so and she cancelled on me with an excuse and I thought nothing of it.

At a later date she randomly told me that she has cancelled on me because last time I’d seen her I’d ‘brought her down’ when telling her about my relationship worries. I was flabbergasted. I didn’t say much but think she knew she’s messed up by admitting that by my shocked face.

I stopped telling her anything of substance after that because I realised she was only a fun time friend. The relationship dissolved because amongst other things like her announcing the pregnancies of people I knew extremely vaguely after I’d just had a miscarriage, she said I kept things from her and never told her anything about my life. Erm true 🤣.

Tell me your so called friend arseholery please.

*card

I’d just been told at 23 weeks my baby wouldn’t survive and I should terminate (turned out ok in the end, and baby was fine). Friend came over and told me multiple times that I looked really different without makeup and she couldn’t edit to tell her husband when she got home.

I was sitting there beside myself at what was going on, and she was commenting on my makeup free looks.

My friend telling me I should either hire a professional body MUA for my wedding or wear a dress with sleeves to hide my birthmark because 'didn't I want to look perfect'

The birthmark I've had...well since birth. And regularly wear strappy tops that show it. Me and my now husband don't even notice it anymore

Some of these are so horrible 😞

I don’t have a relationship with my dad. It’s been a painful part of my life.

He was at a family party. We exchanged pleasantries. Friend asked why I was spending all night talking to my dad instead of her.

Literally after I was sexually assaulted on holiday when 18 “so what, me and X were surrounded by guys on the beach and it was worse than that” (Nothing happened to either of them, that was it, they got caught walking in a crowd of lads)

The other one commented on my Facebook photos saying I was lying about my bra size and left a comment saying I was the “palest person I know”.

No, we’re not friends any more 😁

When I met my now fiancé 2 years ago, my "friend" said "he looks like an arsehole
And your stupid if you carry on with him"

He's not an arsehole and actually a very lovely man. She's still very bitter about it. We were both single and she used to make dating a big competition lol

I had a late miscarriage at almost 17 weeks, but it turned out that the baby had actually died 3 weeks beforehand. I was signed off work for a while and when I got back to work, someone I thought was a good friend asked me how I come I hadn't realised the baby was dead earlier, as surely I should have realised as my belly wasn't getting bigger. (I hadn't realised because with my DD's pregnancy I hadn't shown until I was more than 20 weeks...)

Group of 3 of us. One said to me "lily is having a baby, I'm getting married, what are you ?"

In the space of 18 months my mum had breast cancer, my niece was born at 25 weeks and was seriously ill in hospital for months, my husband walked out on me completely out of the blue and my dad died suddenly. One friend said to me "well you had a lovely sheltered childhood with nothing bad happened to you so it's maybe your time." Admittedly she had an awful childhood but the way she said it made me feel I deserved these awful things happen to me

I’ve got another one.

My mum died suddenly when I was younger and I called my BF for support. She got really annoyed and told me she was busy, and “what did I expect her to do?” I’ve not spoken to her since. Around the same time, we went shopping for something for me to wear to the funeral and a man came up to me and said “you miserable cow, cheer up it may never happen”.

Another hideous pregnancy one. I went awol during my pregnancy from hell (see above) where I was advised to terminate at 23 weeks. When baby turned up OK, I re-engaged with another friend and told her what happened. She then proceeded to tell me that if I’d ended my pregnancy (for medical reasons) she would never have spoken to me again. Thanks for the support at the lowest time in my life!

When I was delighted and sending the text out to say I was pregnant with a picture of my scan one of my best friend’s replied to ask if it was planned, in the most snide way possible 🤦🏼‍♀️ Why would you say that?!

When trying to come to terms with the breakdown of my long term relationship to the father of my two children, a ‘friend’ told me she would hate to be in my position!

'yes, your mum has died, but instead of thinking about what you've lost, what have you gained ?'

A week later

Haha

That I'm lucky to have my medical condition because PIP 🙄 I would gladly give her my life-altering autoimmune disease and my PIP. Fuck her.

Pregnant with #3:
"As long as they have all their fingers and toes".

#2 was born without a hand.

Being told when I list a baby at 8 weeks - well it wasn't even a baby just a blob of cells .

A now ex friend and I were talking at work, years ago, about me being single, and about ways that I could meet someone. I thought she had my best interests at heart when she suddenly said " Oh my boyfriend has a friend, who you may like" and then went on to say how lovely he was, how good looking he was, what a great job he had, great house, how he had a lot of money and the rest.
I showed some small signs of interest and we left it at that. All was quiet between us for a few minutes while we carried on working, until she said " He is quite materialistic however, likes expensive sports cars, and and model type good looking women, so maybe you would not be the right match"
She was deadly serious and she knew exactly what she was doing. She had done something similar before to me. I thought she was joking but she wasnt. I was gobsmacked, and never really spoke much to her again. I found another job, and cut contact with her.

Ah lord so many bad ones
Makes me so sad to see these

A friend I had done soooo many favours for

1. took the side of my abusive ex
2. when the case went to criminal court didn't respond to the calls for her to be a witness
3. when she saw me made a comment on my weight - yes I had been binge eating, just had a baby , serious trauma so Fck right off with your comments
4. I blocked the fkcer but ... she sent pics of how slim I used to be to my sister so my sis could start on me about needing to lose weight

I hate her so much now
At my lowest point she was the one fcker who made life worse for me 👎👎👎

I’ve had similar said to me!! I’m obviously SO lucky because I get PIP and a motability car… what is wrong with people!! I would give up my pip in a heartbeat just to have ONE day pain free and without my conditions!

Also while I'm at it
I once stayed at her place
While there I heard a cousin had dies in a car accident

I started to cry

She said
'Look are you a glass half full or half empty type person come on'

Blood and gunk for me, when I said I couldn't go through with a D&C because to me it would feel like they were sucking my Baby up like a piece of waste. There was other reasons too that I didn't want one if I could avoid it, the main one being after being told it may affect my fertility even more that made my final decision.

Phoning me while I was physically having a miscarriage (at home, natural management at 12 weeks, first pregnancy) - "friend" knew why I was off work sick ,hence free to talk in the day, and proceeded to tell me in depth how upset she was she'd dumped her boyfriend months earlier (her decision) "because they had even discussed baby names and everything".

So sorry guys

Some people are utter shit sometimes

I worried about losing my friend

But in reality blocking her was the best thing ever
Never will I tolerate this crap ever again
Never

'You're a complete pushover.'
To be honest though, the worst things said to me have been by my mother.

"You'd be really pretty if you lost weight". I was 13. She was 14. Now she's fat and it makes me happy. (And I know that's mean but it really stung. I've never forgotten it)