Most areseholy thing a ‘friend’ has said to you

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I will start.

When I was in my mid 20s I was having some relationship worries and was freaking out a bit. In retrospect they were justified 🤣. I wasn’t really one for confiding in my friends but I had a friend over for tea and confided in her.

I arranged to meet her in a week or so and she cancelled on me with an excuse and I thought nothing of it.

At a later date she randomly told me that she has cancelled on me because last time I’d seen her I’d ‘brought her down’ when telling her about my relationship worries. I was flabbergasted. I didn’t say much but think she knew she’s messed up by admitting that by my shocked face.

I stopped telling her anything of substance after that because I realised she was only a fun time friend. The relationship dissolved because amongst other things like her announcing the pregnancies of people I knew extremely vaguely after I’d just had a miscarriage, she said I kept things from her and never told her anything about my life. Erm true 🤣.

Tell me your so called friend arseholery please.

After I'd left an abusive marriage and had a bit of a breakdown after single parenting for 2 years my mum was angry and told me I didn't have to have kids. Bit too late he was 3 at the time.

My good friend brought her MIL to live with her & her husband.
She spent six long years bitching about her over texts & in phone calls and I was always supportive. Always.
I read a truly funny joke about a British woman’s MIL and sent it to her - it was obviously a joke, not offensive in the least. No way you mistake it as being offensive or being inappropriate or disrespectful.
But she took offense - out of guilt, I’m sure, and unloaded on me like there was no tomorrow. Said some truly horrible things, even though I assured her it was a joke.
I’ve never trusted her since and rarely speak to her now. It was bizarre.

What a vile bitch. How awful xxx

Also when I told a 'friend' that my grandad was crying over my nan passing (was about 2 weeks after) she replied with 'What, still?"
So insensitive but then she was deep down, a nasty piece of work.

Upon telling her that I had become blind, and I was still very, very much in the grief stage- "at least you get a blue badge" (I'd had to surrender my driving licence and consequently my job that I couldn't get to any more, apparently the badge was a great perk though.) I'm hoping it was just a foot in mouth moment. However sadly it has changed things for ever to me, it made me feel so shit.

Another very close friend during relationship problems "yeah I'm not going to lie, you'll be at the bottom of the dating pool, being blind AND with kids"........ Clearly my personality and worth means nothing.

Was showing my friend some boots my DH had brought for my birthday she said 'They are expensive wouldn't have you preferred braces or Botox!'
I think she realised straight away how rude she'd been but it made me back off completely.

Years ago in the space of a week I found out my boyfriend was cheating and that I needed a operation that would leave me infertile, was in my 20s and to say it was a bad week would be a understatement, when I woke up from the operation I couldn't stop crying and she said to me 'Your boyfriend who never loved you kept phoning, do you get now it was all fake'
It was like she was pleased, looking back on it now she definitely seemed happier when anything was going bad for me. We'd been friends for years but it was shortly after that I stopped taking her calls. Some people are just so bloody horrible.

I remember a "friend" when I was 15, looking horrified at me when I walked across the road to meet her. She said in a shocked manner "What have you done to your face"
I had done nothing at all to it, except that I suffered with very bad acne and on this day it was one of those days when it was at its worst. She knew I had bad skin and she knew how it affected me.
I was so embarrassed and shy that I just shrugged it off, but inside I felt mortified.

These replies are awful, there are some truly awful people out there.

My dad died when I was 23, I bought a flat in London with the money I got from his estate. A friend at the time told me how lucky I was to be able buy a flat in London. And has said it numerous times times since.

@Brokendaughter Wow what a shit thing to say. What is wrong with some people!

A so called friend said that I didn't have the legs to wear jodhpurs. Bitch!

Don't want to give to much details but was involved in an accident. Froend was there at the time ( think in the ambulance etc ) then told me 4 months later that my panic attacks were extreme, that I was doing it to further my claim and that it was bringing it on myself

A 'friend' once announced at a pretty full dinner table that she's not surprised i has a recent break up and she sees me as the person guys have lots of fun with but never settle down with!!!

My baby's father left me while I was very pregnant. Lots of 'at least he wants to be in baby's life' as if that makes feel better I have no parter or support and should be grateful for the scaps of visits he gives our son

I was in the waiting room at the hospital while my husband was under going very serious cancer surgery, praying he would live through it when my “friend” said to me, ”If DH dies, do you think you will remarry?”

My daughter was predicting abb at a level and wanted to do medicine. A 'friend ' at book club in front of everyone said she had no chance of getting in as smart kids she knew with A*s hadn't managed. Well... daughter got into cambridge for a masters and is now 1 year into a PhD in medicine ( neurogenetics) in Sydney. And I left that book club.

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I'd suffered a lot of tragedy in my life and stopped caring about my appearance, really letting myself go. My "friend" who lived across the road from me was completely the opposite, always fully made up, constantly watched her weight, dressed trendily and used to tell me how men flirted with her all the time. I think she was happy with me being the quiet, fat, frumpy friend because when I suddenly pulled myself together, lost weight, gained confidence, started wearing makeup, had my hair coloured and styled and bought some nice clothes, her reaction really shocked me. She told me in no uncertain terms that she didn't like the new me as she "wasn't used to seeing me like that and preferred how I'd looked before". I had hoped she'd be happy for me but sadly she wasn't.

I guess being scolded for my lateness when it's a couple of mins, think time 7am but jm there eg 7:02 etc
Yet a quarter of the time the other person was similar with their time keeping. It's like omg.

I was once told that I need to tell my friends what was going on cos I was making them look like shit mates. I'd just had a massive internal bleed as my femoral artery burst at home following a whipples operation for pancreatic cancer. Said friend never ever visited me. Not once. Although she did ask me how the fuck I got x amount of money and how she could get it too. My reply "get cancer - it was critical illness insurance".

Another told me I was 'hard to be friends with' as, during covid, I had a nervous breakdown following everything with the cancer. It was rough. I'm good now though - my group of friends and cousins were livid as I'm genuinely not hard to be friends with, I just had a bad time for a bit.

People never fail to gobsmack me but I just laugh these days.

Amybelle88, I Hope you are doing better health wise now.
these threads always shock me a bit!

A mutual friend was struggling with issues related to her abusive childhood, and I was trying to explain to explain to ex friend that it’s something you learn to live with/ blank out rather than just forget or get over in the way you get over an adult relationship. Ex friend told me I didn’t know what I was talking about because my childhood was only emotional abuse, not real abuse, and a lot of poor children would think it was a small price to pay for wealthy parents.

Not as bad but niece had a premature birth, and my contribution was looking after her two horses. Needy friend was aware that in the short term I was the only person available that niece really trusted to look after the elderly one as she does, and I was more than happy to ensure she had one less thing to worry about. Needy friend was feeling put out that I didn’t have the time for her self indulgent monologues and suggested niece, with a baby in the scbu was being selfish and she hoped that once the baby was home she intended to repay me by coming to look after all of mine for a bit so I could have a break before she went back to work. For break what she actually meant was to release me from my daily commitments so I could spend more time listening to her bang ever on.

Some of these are just horrific - what the hell is wrong with some people?

When I announced via email to a few friends in another country that I was finally pregnant aged 40 after many years ttc the responses I got were “I didn’t know having a baby was in your life plan” and the other was “you’re the last person in the world that I thought would ever have a baby or get married.” No congratulations from either friend.

Two other local friends cut me off immediately and blocked me on every platform.

Long-time friend, after staying in my house with her DC for two weeks, told me that I should have bought a much nicer house for our income.

She didn’t contribute a single penny/carton of milk/bread during her stay but my home is good enough for her to stay in for two weeks. For a number of reasons she is now an ex-friend.

I had told my friend about my partner's cancer and when he relapsed I had told her they had found another tumour. I was in tears when I told her and she just said 'yeah, it's a slow death'.

He made a full recovery. I never saw her with the same eyes again and let the friendship fizzle out.

Mine is quite minor compared to everyone else's. Many years ago, after telling a friend during a catchup about a wedding I'd gone to -

Her: "Who did you go with?"
Me: "No one."
Her: "You went alone??"
Me: "Yes."
Her: "I'm sorry. I'm sure that was embarrassing."
Me: "What? No. It was fine."
Her: "I would never go to a wedding without someone. It's a bit sad. Thankfully I have my John."

Ok Mrs Smugly Judgemental. 😆Personally, I'd rather spend every occasion alone than be married to your twat of a husband.