Most areseholy thing a ‘friend’ has said to you

[Dontmissyou]

I will start.

When I was in my mid 20s I was having some relationship worries and was freaking out a bit. In retrospect they were justified 🤣. I wasn’t really one for confiding in my friends but I had a friend over for tea and confided in her.

I arranged to meet her in a week or so and she cancelled on me with an excuse and I thought nothing of it.

At a later date she randomly told me that she has cancelled on me because last time I’d seen her I’d ‘brought her down’ when telling her about my relationship worries. I was flabbergasted. I didn’t say much but think she knew she’s messed up by admitting that by my shocked face.

I stopped telling her anything of substance after that because I realised she was only a fun time friend. The relationship dissolved because amongst other things like her announcing the pregnancies of people I knew extremely vaguely after I’d just had a miscarriage, she said I kept things from her and never told her anything about my life. Erm true 🤣.

Tell me your so called friend arseholery please.

Oh, this is easy.

'I didn't realise your mother was that ill', said by a friend the day after my mother's funeral.

(As a point of reference, I'm Jewish, and the funeral was 24 hours after my mum died).

My ex ‘friend’ said:

To my DS who was 4 at the time, ‘your mummy and daddy will never be as rich as me.’

To me, if you’re going can you F..Off.

To me, I don’t know anyone who is as happy as me. (She was talking about herself). I didn’t know one could measure or quantify happiness!

In my estimation, she was extremely competitive and jealous.

She didn’t have children (no disrespect there) and couldn’t stand it that I did, although it was never in my nature to lord it over her.

Some people just have to be at the top of the Christmas at all costs. It’s ridiculous and far too exhausting as far as I’m concerned.

Well not a friend but a mum at school I'd volunteered with. I'm a widow, my husband dying suddenly when my kids were 4 and six. This woman said she knew 'exactly' how I felt as her husband had to work away at times!!! Yea right.

‘I thought once you had a bit of money, you’d have a nose job. I mean, it’s not a small nose, is it?’

"It's so funny isn't it? You and your DH are desperate to have a baby and just can't get pregnant no matter what you do, whereas as I get pregnant if my BF puts his coat next to mine, and I don't even want kids!"

Yeah, that's...funny all right.

One ex friend said she'd secretly been recording our conversations.

Shared a flat with a friend years and years ago (early 20s), she’d been dating this guy on and off but he’d turned out to be a right dick. I’d been working and happened to see him on my way home, he’d been super friendly and trying to ask me out on a date (obviously just trying to get a rise out of my friend - he did not like me) and I reported this back to my friend in a girl code way - not bragging etc.
“oh I saw Dave, hes def trying to get at you, he was asking me on a date the silly twat”

Friend “that’s strange because he’s called you a fat bitch to me. He doesn’t like fat girls”

WOW.

I was by the standards those days a little chubby - size 14 (early 2000s) but I was really cute and I had a nice face and good hair!

I was overweight but that really hurt my feelings. I don’t know if he had truly said it or she just said he did as a jealous reaction but either way, totally unnecessary. It’s not like I didn’t know I was fat.

That she felt sorry for my baby because he wasn’t breastfed. She knew I had intended to but after nearly dying giving birth to him and recovering from awful birth injuries I wasn’t able to and was gutted. She knew all that and still felt the need to let me know she felt for him.

“I won’t get postnatal depression because I want my baby”

My lovely sister, because I had my DD at 17 and suffered badly with pnd, mostly due to my ex being an abusive twat, and my parents saying I could go home but I couldn’t bring DD with me.

And for the record, she got horrific pnd.

My friend opened her eyes wide and asked if my husband still fancied me.

What?

I'm not easily offended. You can call me a bitch, ugly and fat, say my house is house is a shit hole, that my husband is a fat balding bastard, that my job is crap, etc, etc, etc. But, DO NOT COME FOR MY CHILD. I haven't spoken to my father in law in 13 years for this reason and have zero regrets.

When my father died. 'Friend' called and said 'oh dear, I don't know what I'll do if mine ever dies'. It was precisely at that moment that the veil was lifted and realised she wasted my friend 😵‍💫

When my mum had literally just died one of my friends said “oh sorry about your mum but I’m the happiest I’ve ever been! I just met someone and I thought you’d appreciate me being real with you rather than hiding it”. This was a guy who met the “love of his life” every few weeks and sure enough they broke up 2 weeks later. I’m no longer friends with him.

When I was 22, my best friend to me: “(mutual fiend) said to me does Blue think after so many failed relationships that maybe she’s the problem”

I knew it was her and not mutual friend who actually thought this

"I personally think it's really sad that you eloped to get married".

What I wanted to say was: "Well we absolutely loved our day, and you can have the wedding of your dreams when someone asks you to marry them. But they've not yet, have they!"

Or, after escaping from the abusive ex, and despite being a single mum at just 21, and working my ass off with zero family help, I managed to buy a tiny little terraced house. I proudly invited my family round to see it. My “D” M, with a massive sigh, “I wish we could afford to buy you decent home”.

"You're over-medicating your kids," because I give them paracetamol or cetirizine when they need it.

"ADHD doesn't exist; it is just a personality disorder but they won't label it as such," and, "I wouldn't be giving my child an untested drug just to make them behave so you can have an easier life. You're relying too much on medication."

This "friend" is my know-it-all cousin who knows everything about nothing and has no children but has tried to take over parenting mine. I just said that I'm their mum and I will make the decisions regarding their health on the advice of actual, qualified doctors. She rarely comes round now, thank God.

These are awful

My sister after I'd had quite a difficult Labour and I was telling her how it had gone.
"It's not that bad, mine were fine and only took a few hours"
A friend from throughout secondary school, at college "what size clothes are you BadBarry?"
Me; "why are you asking, is it just to make you feel better because you are smaller than me?" Her "haha yes"
I no longer have anything to do with either of them, not just because of those comments alone but a build up but those ones stuck with me.

Skinny (underweight) friend said in response to my mentioning my large boobs for some reason I forget.... "they're not all your boobs though are they SunSwim? They're just fat"

WTAF?!

This is an educated middle aged woman with 3 daughters!! 🙈

Did you ever discuss what she had said?

My ex best friend text to ask how my first scan went, and I told her that unfortunately I'd lost the baby. She text back and said "Well this should cheer you up - I'm pregnant!" When I told her congrats but her timing was awful and I needed space, she replied to tell me I was a horrible, self centered POS and said she hopes I miscarry my next pregnancy, too😳

Where do these people come from?

Someone in this story is a self centred piece of shit but it certainly wasn't you, dear god people can be awful 😮

A friend who sent a car when my sister died in a car crash saying she knew how I felt because he dog had died .