Children Who Ignore Adults?

[JoJoBoZoe]

When did this become a thing and since when do parents allow this rude behaviour?

Whenever I'm on the school run or at parties and I meet with parents, I aways greet them and say hello and also hello to their child.

The amount of children that don't reply and ignore me and the parents say nothing is ridiculous! They just say " she's in a mood or she's tired "

I was raised, when an adult was speaking to me, that I answer them. If I'd have tried to ignore someone my Mother would have made me reply and would have embarrassed me.

Have all basic manners gone out of the window?

What absolute rubbish. There's a difference between rude and being shy / uncomfortable. My 6 year old often won't respond to hello's by parents/adults she doesn't know as she is shy. I have spoken to her about it and encouraged her that even if she doesn't feel comfortable saying hello, she could perhaps give a little wave instead to acknowledge. She does this often (but the adult has usually moved on at this point and doesn't see anyway!) But - I am not going to force my DD to put their own discomfort below an adults desire for acknowledgment. I personally don't think it's rude. They are young children. My DD is otherwise very polite and well behaved and very chatty with adults that she knows. I see no need to force her to be accommodating to strangers.
I was raised to always be polite. I remember my great uncle would always like to greet me with a kiss - ON THE LIPS! I absolutely hated it. No other family member (including parents) kisses me on the lips. But no one seemed to see a problem with it and I felt very obligated to let it happen.

When you start a thread to lecture on basic manners @JoJoBoZoe and then proceed to insult people and their children

I really hope you don't have kids, I'd imagine they would be dragged up!

thank god you are stopping at 3

I also had my shy/tired moments and didn't reply hello when I was a child. Btw. why do you greet them first? Just leave them alone. My dad is exactly like this, he's so proud he always greets people, but oversees the fact he lacks manners in other situations.

I bet that the "basic manners" brigade wouldn't be happy with a basic hi/good morning either (mumbled,maybe quiet , eyes down etc.) . I'm sure they would also find that rude and somehow lacking.

Absolute bollocks. I work in a state school, and I'm familiar with several others.

Every child gets greeted individually when they come in. They also say good morning during register and choose their lunch, then in the afternoon they say good afternoon for the register. That's the bare minimum of course, there are plenty of other opportunities for greetings and interaction.

My DC often ignores adults. He is autistic and finds interacting with grownups very hard. Don't presume people are being rude when you've no idea what's going on with them

Can't speak for anyone else, but I would class myself as a member of the 'basic manners brigade' and I would be happy with a basic greeting of this kind, for the very reasons some pps have highlighted - that you can't know what might be going on with the child or what factors might affect how they are interacting.

It's bad parenting, raising spoilt entitled children. It'll backfire on the children one day definitely!

I was a shy child and terrified of adults. I still have social anxiety now. If an adult spoke to me I would want to hide, but my mum forced me to say hello. It just made me feel worse and even more shy and self conscious.
I won't be forcing my children to do anything they're not comfortable with if it's not important, and saying hello to random adults in the street isn't at the top of my list for encouraging them to be more confident.

It's bad parenting, raising spoilt entitled children. It'll backfire on the children one day definitely!

Is your attitude also the result of bad parenting? Are you teaching your DC to be intolerant and incredibly judgemental like you are?