Children Who Ignore Adults?

[JoJoBoZoe]

When did this become a thing and since when do parents allow this rude behaviour?

Whenever I'm on the school run or at parties and I meet with parents, I aways greet them and say hello and also hello to their child.

The amount of children that don't reply and ignore me and the parents say nothing is ridiculous! They just say " she's in a mood or she's tired "

I was raised, when an adult was speaking to me, that I answer them. If I'd have tried to ignore someone my Mother would have made me reply and would have embarrassed me.

Have all basic manners gone out of the window?

Erm yabu, no one should have to talk to anyone if they don't want to, adult or child. What kind of life lesson is that that they have to talk to people they don't want to? Next you'll be saying they're obliged to give relatives a hug!

I would have thought training them to follow their own feeling will do them well when the creepy older person is trying to talk to them when they are teen-agers out on their own! Start practising early I would say. Don't think people pleasing is a useful skill to learn.

I really hate when a child doesn't do something e.g. say hello and then your stuck in that awkward moment where the parent is trying to get them to do it and it just goes on and on.and you know the parent is embarrassed.

If a 6 Yr old won't speak to me I can say I really give a shit. Tbh if a random adult doesn't say hello to me I don't care.

I work with children a lot and most will speak quite happily to you with the right prompting. But they are children, they obviously don't respond to situations as adults do.

@JoJoBoZoe

This is what’s wrong with society 🤣🤣🤣 You sound a right misery OP.

And what about when they go to work? Does that apply still? I really hope you don't have kids, I'd imagine they would be dragged up!

You may not have always got words out of mine at 6 but you'd probably got a acknowledging smile/wave.

Some adults though do try and force/insist on words out of shy children and - it's never been helpful usually made it worse.

They're teens now generally considered quiet well behaved and well mannered - according to adults they interact with - you'd have got words by late primary age.

I really hope you don't have kids, I'd imagine they would be dragged up! 🙄🙄🙄 better than living in a dictatorship with you op.

And I'll say thank god you are stopping at 3 😂

I avoid rose-tinted specs. In many ways, life is better today...but. I do think there has been a fundamental change in how we raise children. When I was a child (1980s), the parents were firmly in charge. And children were still sharply disciplined, taught to behave in a certain way at the dinner table, say "thankyou for having me" when we stayed at a friends, etc. I think it's because the class system was still in place, and parents feared being thought vulgar or lower class if their kids were rude or obnoxious.

3 lovely children who will all ignore you without repercussion 😁

These are children who spent two years being told to stay 2 metres away from everyone. They've gone through a pandemic at a really young age. Cut them a little bit of slack! We can't just pretend the last few years haven't happened.

Completely agree

I was extremely shy aged 5-9 and would not speak to anyone I wasn't close to. I wasn't being rude I was just shy. My son is 5 and very outgoing and will chat to anyone. It has nothing to do with parenting as my mum raised me very well

I think it’s quite weird that you’re so invested in other people’s children speaking to you. 🤔

I think there is something 'offa out adults that try and force children to talk to them. Some kind of control/powerplay thing. I never forced my kids when they were small to talk to adults if the didn't want to to. They are teens now and perfectly capable of being polite.

That's for other people to comment on if they are lovely, all with faces that only a Mother could love no doubt 🫶🏻

😂 and this ladies and gents is the manners being raised in the ‘good old days’ gets you.

I think there is something 'offa out adults that try and force children to talk to them. Some kind of control/powerplay thing.

Yes, this. It’s creepy. OP isn’t coming across well at all.

My nearly 3 year old doesn't always respond to random adults. He gets shy when he's tired and isn't a performing seal.

Yes… the OP isn’t really convincing anyone here of the merits of her upbringing…

This is not a new thing, I was a child in the 50s and remember there were some children who wouldn't speak to either adults or children that they weren't familiar with. As a 5 year old I thought they were pathetic! However my mother explained that they were so shy, it was painful for them. I understood then, as a 5 year old, and didn't push it, I didn't castigate them or blame their parents........

I used to nanny for a family where the kids did this to me, especially the 9 year old. One time I reported back that the child was not answering me when I asked her questions and her mum replied with 'She had a sore throat'.
Yeah. I'm glad I don't work for them anymore.

Wow OP, you are being so rude to other posters for no reason. I really don't think you are putting your point across well here.

Nah. Bit entitled to think a child owes you a hello because you are an adult. Also I don't want to teach my children they have to speak to and reply to an adult they know in passing if they feel uncomfortable about it. Seems like a sensible safeguarding precaution to me.

Oh and eldest has ASD so you aren't going to get much out of them other than a growl, especially in a transition situation like the school run. It's too difficult to say hello as well as deal with everything else going on in their head and I'm not going to force them.

My 6 year old is like this. I believe she has selective mutism. I can't do anything about it. She won't even speak to me in front of other people. She won't speak to other adults or children if I am there. There's literally nothing I can do to make her speak. I used to try but I now realise she can't. For a while I would apologise to people and explain but I can't be bothered doing that multiple times a day. I just say to them she won't reply she's not being rude she's like this with everyone.

The THREE of them will not say hello, smile, nod or acknowledge when someone says hello?