Do people CHOOSE when they poo?

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TMI!!

Just read a thread about going at someone else’s house and how you should wait until your own place, that kind of thing.

Is it weird that I only go if I really need to go, like I’m kind of desperate? There’s no way I could wait and go at a particular place of time like wait until the event’s over. I either need to go or I don’t.

I can hold a wee for a bit but that’s completely different

I can usually wait a few hours, maybe longer.

Nope, not me. I need to go when I need to go. Sometimes I can wait, bUt not for any length of time.

I don't choose. Well I do, I go in the nearest loo or in my pants. I have IBS.

I don’t really choose but I’m a shy pooper so I never get urge unless I’m at home. Even at home it generally follows a routine so normally the same time each day. But if I was out at that time I just wouldn’t need to go, it’s weird

I'm a bit like clockwork, so can kinda predict when I need to go, but when I need to, I need to.
Dh on the other hand, can just decide "I need a poo" and off he trots to the loo...

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Yeah, this baffles me. I go when I need to. My house, someone else’s house, work, public toilet… it’s what they’re for 😂

I don't actively choose it but I am very fortunate that once I have been out of bed for around half an hour I need to go. When I need to go I need to go though, I could never wait if I was out. I get cramping pains and the urge is strong. I have very occasionally been caught out in a public place but for the most part it's every moring at home. I could never stay at someone else's house and if I'm sharing a hotel room I will time my shower for straight after so the smell gets a chance to go!

Yes I wouldn’t poo in someone else’s house!

I have a friend who thinks it's really bad manners for visitors to do Number Two in her house. The smell, she says. I usually know an hour or two before that one is brewing, but if I am poorly or perhaps have had a hot curry, my bowels may say to my head 'get to a toilet RIGHT NOW!'.

I have ibs. When that time comes I better find a toilet quickly or they'll be a turtle head poking out.

I do believe men choose when they poo .

They obviously don’t have IBS or badly managed intolerances.
I go whenever, wherever my body decides and don’t get much warning. It keeps my life interesting.

Yes I would say I can choose.

I agree 100% with OP. Like, obviously I'd prefer to go at home but when I need to go, I don't have an option of holding it in.

The urge to go is due to a signal from your inner sphincter. It's not healthy to repeatedly ignore that signal.

Depends. A type 4-7 on the bristol stool chart, tends to be impatient and beyond my control. Type 1 to 3 are more stubborn and hence I have more say in the matter 😁.

I can't choose when to go, but I can choose not to go if that makes sense? I'll get the urge to go, but won't if I'm in a public loo or somewhere I don't want to like a new boyfriends house when I was younger! But then I can't just choose to go when I get home, I have to wait for the urge to go again and sometimes that isn't for a while!!

I have previously had IBS and even now I can’t hold on for long before I get intense stomach/ab pain and wind.

Many parts of the world still don’t have access to toilets and running water and some would believe it’s disgusting and outrageous that a visitor would use their toilet for what Thomas Crapper intended it be used for 🤷‍♀️

No. When you need to go you feel the urge. How could you choose? Your body tells you when. You can hold it in, but not randomly sit down at a convenient time and do it.

I can hold it usually. Same with pee to a point! Depends what I've eaten or drank though. Huge bottle of water isn't going to be hold-able for long

I can choose and do. I don't get 'urge' very often as I have a rectocele. Even when I know I need 'to go' I don't unless I'm at home, due to the rectocele and what it entails.
I'm not a weird troll, just living with something that impacts me and my mental health, and waiting on the NHS recognising how horrible it is for me.

But how can you stop it if it comes on?

I do very much choose but I don’t think it’s a good thing to do that (not for me anyway). If I’m in the middle of doing something I’ll put it off. I also don’t go anywhere other than my own house unless absolutely unavoidable. As a result the ‘urge’ a PP mentioned now doesn’t work very well so constipation is now a part of my life.